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MIL tattooed DS's name...

281 replies

dilterry · 29/06/2022 13:36

... We have just had a baby, 2 weeks ago, MIL immediately tattooed baby boys name on her arm.

However, we have since had a change of heart re the name... What a nightmare!

We didnt ask her to, or knew she was doing it, it's obviously really sweet of her to do it so that's not the problem it's more just now we dont want to call him that.

I feel awful! How on earth do we handle this? I'm really trying to talk myself into keeping the name, but it doesnt sit right...

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Suchasonganddance · 30/06/2022 22:04

Her problem, not yours.

Enjoy your baby.

EatYourVegetables · 30/06/2022 22:12

Lie for the next 30-60 years.

Name the child Luke but teach him to respond to John when Granny is around. When he starts school, teach all his friends to call him Luke or John depending on whether MIL is around or not. You
can have great fun once your DIL gets on the scene.

powershowerforanhour · 30/06/2022 22:13

Well she had all the other names already so why, for goodness' sake, when she asked you did you not say, "Rock, but tell the tattooist to HOLD FIRE as we haven't settled on it and registered him yet"

Anyway, the big reveal is going to go something like this:

m.youtube.com/watch?v=G2cLS08SPHQ

Interested in this thread?

Then you might like threads about this subject:

Beauty
Wallywobbles · 30/06/2022 22:27

Can you give her a pet?

oakleaffy · 30/06/2022 23:02

drinkallthecoffee · 30/06/2022 20:32

Just send her this op 😬🤣

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Are ''Journalists'' that shite they have to steal someone else's story?
@dilterry

SheldonesqueTheBstard · 30/06/2022 23:07

If only they could be tattooed with the names of the poster they lift their stories from.

and the MN bat on their foreheads 🦇

BDeyes · 30/06/2022 23:26

surely this is a joke and can't be real, but if it is I'd change babies name on purpose just to teach her a lesson for being so stupid as many babies end up with a completely different name than the one originally thought of as name sometimes doesn't suit or feel right. One of mine had a few name changes in their first 3 weeks of life before we finally settled on their actual name. I agree that maybe keep the name as a middle name though.

IDreamOfTheMoors · 30/06/2022 23:34

dilterry · 29/06/2022 14:12

Hahaha it is slightly funny, but i also just feel so bad for her.

The name absolutely doesn't work especially as my dd pointed out it sounds like a certain body part that is less than ideal.

Even as a middle name isnt really an option but we would keep it for her i guess, just not as a first name.

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It’s DICK isn’t it. 😂😂😂

Or Richard or Peter lol.

Lalliella · 30/06/2022 23:42

it sounds like a certain body part that is less than ideal

What on earth? What’s the name OP? Hilarious btw!

Nedward · 30/06/2022 23:45

IncompleteSenten · 29/06/2022 13:45

No way would I keep a name I didn't actually want to use because someone had decided to tattoo it on their body.

Use the name you like.
She can have laser removal or a cover up.

Exactly! Please dont let your MIL's actions influence your name choice.

grannieali · 01/07/2022 02:11

Gob smacked. I struggle with any sort of tattooing. What extraordinary behaviour. Yet, obviously, not as extraordinary as I would like to think. I am 85, have four grandkids from two sons. Thay all have long surnames and two middle names.

Autumn61 · 01/07/2022 05:00

ScamOrNoScam · 29/06/2022 13:38

Can you use that as the middle name so she can just add the "new" first name to the front?

That would be a good solution.

Londoncallingme · 01/07/2022 06:52

A simple Joe cover up or more of a Sebastian?
it is funny. Offer to share the cost of the cover up tat?

SylvieB74 · 01/07/2022 07:37

I have an appointment to get a tattoo on Monday of one of my daughters names. Basically she’s schizophrenic and hates me, she hasn’t had anything to do with me for 4 years and I miss her so much. I’m not so sure it’s a good idea now reading the comments on here, and also it would be a constant reminder ‘remember that My hates you’ sort of thing 😕

Ohmydaisy · 01/07/2022 09:20

Meanwhile over on Gransnet 😆

sleepymama157 · 03/07/2022 07:17

I can TOTALLY believe this, because my MIL has ALL four of her grandchildren names tattooed on her forearm and did this very quickly after each was born at a very cheap tattoo place. Honestly they are AWFUL.

I'd say just change the name to what you want. Not your fault your MIL did this so quickly without telling you first. My MIL presented her arm to us like it was some sort of gift to us when she did it 🙈🤣 My husband told her it looked awful but she didn't care!

Sswhinesthebest · 03/07/2022 08:03

Just place marking for her reaction when you tell her.

nettie434 · 03/07/2022 09:24

It really is your MIL's problem. I don't even think you should use it as a middle name. If you think it sounds like an embarrassing body part, then your son might get teased about his middle name. She should have waited until you have registered his birth. I am sure the tattoo artist can think of a clever way of turning it into something else.

Léighméleabhair · 03/07/2022 09:26

Florenz · 29/06/2022 14:57

You should pay for her to have the tattoo removed, changed to the new name, or covered up with a tattoo of something else.

Why?
The MIL is an adult and presumably wasn’t pressured by the OP into defacing her own body so if she wants to get rid of the tattoo, she’ll have to sort it herself. 🤷🏻‍♀️

mrswibblywobbly · 03/07/2022 09:36

dilterry · 29/06/2022 14:12

Hahaha it is slightly funny, but i also just feel so bad for her.

The name absolutely doesn't work especially as my dd pointed out it sounds like a certain body part that is less than ideal.

Even as a middle name isnt really an option but we would keep it for her i guess, just not as a first name.

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And how will little baby Nostril feel about this in the future?

KevinTheKoala · 03/07/2022 09:48

I think I might know who this is about 😬 is there already a lot of anomousity between you all? Getting a name tattooed before baby is even registered is frankly a stupid thing to do, so that's on her and you are entitled to change the name but just expect a lot of family drama. It's not what you need at this time obviously but at least if you are expecting it then you can try your best to ignore.

SkeletonFight · 03/07/2022 10:47

I really hope this is a real thread 😂 It's ludicrous.

SkeletonFight · 03/07/2022 10:48

Is it Fanny?

sue20 · 04/07/2022 00:15

Erm, I suppose her excitement IS sweet but I find this kind of thing just weird. Tatoos are so permanent it's a bit dumb of her....But definitely choose the name you want, and yes she could get a design tattooed over the name. Hope it wasn't Englebert Humperdinck!!!

afrikat · 04/07/2022 18:25

FYI OP this thread was just mentioned on Heart Radio!