Would you share with a random bloke to avoid booking two rooms?

[ClinicallyProven]

I'm going away with a hobby group. Usually those of us who are single seem to be able to work things out and share with the same sex. This time a smaller group is going and there's only me and him who won't be taking partners. He's with a very long term partner who doesn't like to attend these things and I'm single.

I've known him for a long time in this group and have always found him lovely and respectful, both to me and about his partner. I wouldn't say I know him well or even that we're friends though. We have been drunk together (which I always think is a good test 😆) and still he's nothing but respectful.

Anyway, it's been suggested (not by either of us!) that we could share. I think I'm comfortable to share with him for a couple of nights, but I'm not sure how it looks or whether it puts his DP in an uncomfortable position.

FWIW it saves us each about £120, which is a significant sum to me, but wouldn't mean I couldn't go. It is frustrating how everything costs more when you're single though!

He might hate the idea, I'm just mulling it over at this stage.

It's not the club that disadvantages single people, it's the world at large and the fact that hotels charge the same for a room whether there are 1 or 2 people in it. Single rooms are practically non existent and cost almost as much as a twin

Perhaps they could choose cheaper accommodation though? If the saving after paying half the room fare each is £240 between you that's some pretty pricey rooms

Random stranger no, but someone I know and get on with? Probably yes. Single beds though obvs! And I'd ask his partner myself. I wouldn't accept an "Oh she's fine with it" from him.
Dh goes away for his hobby quite a bit. I trust him and would be OK with this as I know he wouldn't be up to anything.

No. It sounds like you fancy him. Defo no.

It's the location that's pricey, not the rooms. There's very little choice in the area

I wouldn’t share with a male or female.

but I will answer for how I would feel about this for my partner. I trust him. I really do. I still wouldn’t want him sharing a room with a woman. Sharing space like that is an intimacy reserved just for us. To be honest, I wouldn’t love him sharing a room with another man for the same reason, but it wouldn’t feel like as much of a violation.

Where did you get that from?

I'll accept its a bad idea, but really?

im learning a lot from this thread.

One big thing being that

• people are pretty sure that if one sleep in the same ROOM (not bed) as a man, then they will sex


• people dont trust their life long partner

im like some PP.
I have shared rooms with men before and nothing ever happened. Because I would not have had sex with that person and I trusted them not to rape me.
I’m now 50yo and the idea that I would have a ONS like that is even more laughable to me.

Come on people. If someone wants a ONS, they dint need to wait to share a room with someone else. Just being away with those groups would be enough. Just like it would be enough to go to work or do any activity with some of the opposite sex (if hetero).

@ClinicallyProven Why do you think being in your 50s is relevant? I am in my 50s and I've never had more sex. Not worrying about becoming pregnant is very liberating.

And no, I absolutely would not share with a male friend unless I was hoping to shag him.

The issues you've highlighted are way down the list of reason I and many others on the thread would not share!

No

No

Nope. I like my own space. I wouldn't want to share a bathroom with a stranger. I'd also want to fart and snore in peace.

No absolutely not. Especially if he has a partner. It's not fair on her.

liveforsummer· Today 17:21
Answering Mumble
The issues you've highlighted are way down the list of reason I and many others on the thread would not share!

I agree. Nothing to do with it.

Are there any 3-bedded rooms available, so you could each share with same-sex friends?

Third sentence of the OP:
This time a smaller group is going and there's only me and him who won't be taking partners.

So there aren't other singles of the same sex for them to bunk up with however many beds there are in a room.

It's not about trust, it's about respect. Most monogamous relationships are built on expressions of intimacy that's reserved exclusively for the other - and that often includes intimate spaces, like bedrooms.

"I wouldn’t share with a male or female."
Fortunately, we're not just limited to those binary choices nowadays. Plenty more scope in the gender-choice bin!

No, thought wouldn't even enter my head

Male and Female is a sex not a gender.

Oh gawd I shared with a naked wanderer once as part of a group I was a member of.
Not only did she wander around starkers most of the time , she did her ablutions with the door open whilst continuing to talk at me.

"Male and Female is a sex not a gender."
I don't disagree - however...
Post that on Facebook and expect to get chargrilled by the wokesters.

No

No, and I hate how it's so normalised for hobby groups, especially hiking, to have people share. I don't want to fucking sleep on a mat on the floor in a room with 3 other women who are strangers, or close to being strangers. I'm 37, not 17. I have a bad back, I've got IBS, and forcing me to share shitty dorm rooms excludes me (because you usually have to stay in the accom provided). I hate it.

I would and have done similar.