Would you share with a random bloke to avoid booking two rooms?

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I'm going away with a hobby group. Usually those of us who are single seem to be able to work things out and share with the same sex. This time a smaller group is going and there's only me and him who won't be taking partners. He's with a very long term partner who doesn't like to attend these things and I'm single.

I've known him for a long time in this group and have always found him lovely and respectful, both to me and about his partner. I wouldn't say I know him well or even that we're friends though. We have been drunk together (which I always think is a good test 😆) and still he's nothing but respectful.

Anyway, it's been suggested (not by either of us!) that we could share. I think I'm comfortable to share with him for a couple of nights, but I'm not sure how it looks or whether it puts his DP in an uncomfortable position.

FWIW it saves us each about £120, which is a significant sum to me, but wouldn't mean I couldn't go. It is frustrating how everything costs more when you're single though!

He might hate the idea, I'm just mulling it over at this stage.

Maybe a couple of your female friends would get a suite with you that had a third bed. I have done that a few times. Often cheaper than the single supplement.

I would also sleep on a cot in a friends room before sharing with a partner'd guy.

Nope...No...Never ever going to happen.

Get on and share then. People have told you what they think because you have asked for opinions. If you think they are wrong then share a room.

Share a room with him then. I don't see why you bother asking if you're not interested in the answers, but I'm almost certain you'll creep him out if you suggest sharing.

I happily would with a male friend (who's partner I knew wouldn't care), but it might be a bit odd with someone you don't know well.

It doesn't feel to me like the £120 would be worth the potential awkwardness - could you stay somewhere cheaper?

Well then no, being completely honest, I wouldn't like it if DH was sharing a hotel room with another woman. I'd make up a better excuse than that but, yeah, it's not how we roll.

I definitely understand about forking out for single supplements. Especially having young dc missing out on free child places, free child meals, family ticket discounts etc. I'd happily share with another female and have shared with a close gay male friend although tbh I'd rather not. A not close friend male absolutely no way. If. You don't mind then go for it but the majority opinion is pretty likely to be one that his long term partner shares so I doubt she'd be happy

I wouldn't be happy sharing with a random man, but there are plenty of men I know that I'd be okay doing this with (at least, to the same extent I'd be happy to share with a female friend!). And that seems to be your situation here.

However, I doubt my partner would be that happy about it unless the other guy was gay. I think he'd agree it was okay but he'd feel unsettled by it. I think I'd feel the same way if my partner suggested he share with a woman from his hobby group in order to save money too. So I'd turn down any such proposal and wouldn't suggest it to my partner.

I dont think it's an essentially bad idea, but I would guess most partners would feel similarly. That's not your concern, though - you can ask. He needs to grapple with the idea of how it might affect his relationship.

I wouldn’t be too excited about the idea of sharing with the same sex, the suggestion to share with the bloke from hobbies would be extremely weird to me. I wouldn’t want my partner to share with you (and he would hate this idea himself) I trust him but it would feel like an invasion in our private life tbh.
You need to raise the issue with your club that they put singles in a more disadvantaged position financially. You can’t expect just pile inside the room whoever you are at the end of the day, we are not at war.

No. I've shared rooms with females I didn't know on special interest holidays but wouldn't do it with a male.

In fact I've just remembered that the last one I went on, we arrived at our first hotel in the small hours (time difference) to find they they had pushed the twin beds together. There were separate duvets thank goodness and we managed for what was left of that night but it was awkward and would have been even more so if I had been sharing with a male acquaintance!!!

No.
Keep it all clear and simple.

It could be fun. Is he good looking?

So share with him then. You don't need permission.

I shared with a male hobby friend for a week in a ski chalet. It was fine

About five years ago I did this, with another woman. I did not know her at all, she was the friend of my group of friends. Thought it would be fine. It saved a similar amount to the amount you're quoting. Well, she snored like nothing I'd ever heard before. I mean it was SO LOUD it was unreal. She also slept completely naked and walked around the room naked, which was fine but some people might've been uncomfortable with that. Anyway, I couldn't sleep and after six hours of just laying there I checked out and left. It wasn't worth it. I've shared rooms with people I know and not had problems. I can sleep through TV etc but this snoring was incredibly loud.

No. Not only would that be massively disrespectful to his partner, most people are raped or sexually assaulted by someone they know. I absolutely wouldn’t.

Nope, and if my DH suggested he was sharing a room with another woman he wouldn't be going either.

It's not the club that disadvantages single people, it's the world at large and the fact that hotels charge the same for a room whether there are 1 or 2 people in it. Single rooms are practically non existent and cost almost as much as a twin

Nope no way! It’s plain weird to even consider it...

All for 120 pounds? No bloody way!!!

I'd share for £1200, but not for £120; others might share for £120 but not £12! It depends what you can both afford.

Absolutely not. I snore like a pig🐖and would probably be murdered in my sleep.

I wouldn't.

I am official weird it seems

No, but more because he has a partner who I imagine wouldn’t be too thrilled with that being suggested.