Would you share with a random bloke to avoid booking two rooms?

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I'm going away with a hobby group. Usually those of us who are single seem to be able to work things out and share with the same sex. This time a smaller group is going and there's only me and him who won't be taking partners. He's with a very long term partner who doesn't like to attend these things and I'm single.

I've known him for a long time in this group and have always found him lovely and respectful, both to me and about his partner. I wouldn't say I know him well or even that we're friends though. We have been drunk together (which I always think is a good test 😆) and still he's nothing but respectful.

Anyway, it's been suggested (not by either of us!) that we could share. I think I'm comfortable to share with him for a couple of nights, but I'm not sure how it looks or whether it puts his DP in an uncomfortable position.

FWIW it saves us each about £120, which is a significant sum to me, but wouldn't mean I couldn't go. It is frustrating how everything costs more when you're single though!

He might hate the idea, I'm just mulling it over at this stage.

Easy no. I’d pay £120 for a good night’s sleep and to not have to share a bathroom with someone (assuming a twin room with en suite). Ditto farts and snoring as mentioned above. But I haven’t lived in a house share for yonks and really value my own space.

Definitely not. I do think it is disrespectful to a partner as it is a level of closeness that is usually reserved for close relationships. I don't want to be in my pyjamas around random bloke, don't want to listen to him snort or snore, don't want to share a bathroom or have him hearing my toilet use and active bowels, don't want to seehim scratching his balls in his boxers in the morning, don't want to do really anything with a random block in my hotel room.... long before sex even enters the equation.

Ah I like to think I'm fairly easy going (I'm not), but if my dp was going away and sharing a room with one woman, who's single, I really wouldn't be OK with that 😬. I'd totally understand the logistics and wouldn't be upset if the idea was posed to me, but I'd be upfront about not feeling comfortable with the idea.

I would, but then again, I travelled throughout Europe in my late 20s and again in my early 30s and stayed in hostels quite frequently, many of which were coed rooms. Didn't bother me at all.

The only potential issue is if one of you snores ... could drive you mad!

Hell no my snoring would drive him insane.

I have. It really isnt a problem.

I would. I've shared rooms with male friends when travelling on many occasions and it may shock mums net members to know none of them ever tried to rape or molest me. Quite surprised how much of a minority I'm in. I think the title "random bloke" is a bit unfair if you've known him a fair while.

Gosh that took off. I like my own space too, but for a couple of nights? We'll only be in room for about 8 hours a day.ie to sleep.

Fwiw I've shared with men before (even drunk ones) without any dramas. Sometimes I've felt the need to clarify things before agreeing to it, but I've never had one try anything on if I've made it clear sex isn't on the cards.

I agree though, the fact he has a partner does change things.

If it makes a difference we're both in our 50s.

It might "only" be £120 but when you're single it's an extra £120 everytime you go anywhere and you're already running a home on a single salary. Being single is an expensive business.

No chance.

Nope!!!!

I shared plenty of coed dorms in my 20s while travelling but I wouldn't do this. To me a backpacking hostel dorm is a completely different scenario than in my 40s/50s sharing a hotel room with a long time acquaintance who has a partner at home.

No way unless he is gay

I wouldn't like to be asked and put in the position of having to explain that I'd rather rip my eyeballs out than having to sleep in the same hotel room with someone I only just know, listen to them making their sleep noises, having to talk to them, put up with their different sleeping-waking times and endure the smell of their morning shit leaching through the door each day to save them some money.

When I was 20? I probably would have.

Now? Not a chance. As much for their sake as mine 😂

I think you already have a majority reply, but I suppose if he says his partner isn't bothered and you are happy then it's up to you both.
Personally, no I wouldn't.

it's a no from me

Will he spend hours in the bathroom and leave shitty streaks in the toilet bowl and a giant fuggy stench for you.
No no way would I share a room with a man and I would not be comfortable if my husband was sharing a room with another female. Tbf to him he would be horrified at the thought.

Hell no, I don't share hotel rooms with anyone (am widowed)

You could always ask if he'd mind you tying him up before you go to sleep, but that might start another conversation entirely!

Gay men still fart, snore and get stiffies in the morning.

I understand there are people who wouldn't share with anyone under any circumstances but strongly suspect they are not people regularly forking out single supplements but neither he nor I are those people. We both regularly share with whoever the odd ones are, just usually same sex.

Just No really .I would be very uncomfortable with this idea, and probably not get any sleep!

If you wish to remain single then this is the price you pay. If you don't like it then find a man/ woman to spend your life with. There are advantages to both situations and disadvantages.

No, room sharing to me is v.intimate. Logically nothing untoward will happen, but I still don't like it.

I did not like this when DP was in a similar position. I trusted him but not the other lady. 😬 She was untrustworthy though, not saying you'd be. Could you look at a family room for 3 with two of the other women?