Would you share with a random bloke to avoid booking two rooms?

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I'm going away with a hobby group. Usually those of us who are single seem to be able to work things out and share with the same sex. This time a smaller group is going and there's only me and him who won't be taking partners. He's with a very long term partner who doesn't like to attend these things and I'm single.

I've known him for a long time in this group and have always found him lovely and respectful, both to me and about his partner. I wouldn't say I know him well or even that we're friends though. We have been drunk together (which I always think is a good test 😆) and still he's nothing but respectful.

Anyway, it's been suggested (not by either of us!) that we could share. I think I'm comfortable to share with him for a couple of nights, but I'm not sure how it looks or whether it puts his DP in an uncomfortable position.

FWIW it saves us each about £120, which is a significant sum to me, but wouldn't mean I couldn't go. It is frustrating how everything costs more when you're single though!

He might hate the idea, I'm just mulling it over at this stage.

This is a good idea. I’d be willing to do this for someone if we got on well and it would save them that much money.

People on here are experienced.

Absolutely not!

I would hate this, but I'd also not want to share with a woman. I'd spend the extra to have my own room every time if I wasn't with a partner. Nothing about sex fairies, I just want my own space.

For me it's not a man/woman issue it's the basic idea I don't want to share a bed with someone. It's bad enough with DH but having someone else there farting and snoring is just not on.

Do ppl on mn understand rooms are for sleeping?

Speak for yourself. I've done all sorts of sexual things in mine!

And there's no way of knowing how decently this man will dress or behave.

I wouldn't. And I wouldn't accept DP sharing with another woman.

Yes I would if both partners were ok with it.

No way.

Lol no.

Unless we were really really old friends going way back, I'd find this uncomfortable. I'd rather pay the extra, even if he was a very old pal.

I would if it was a friend I was comfortable with - he and his partner may feel differently though.

Wouldn't it make more sense for one of the couples to "split up" and for you to share with the wife and the husband to share with the other single man?

I wouldn’t share with ANYONE.
You never can tell if the sleep farts will slip out. No but seriously, nah. I’d pay the extra money to have some peace and quiet.

No way on earth.

Nope

No I wouldn’t

I'd really rather not. I wouldn't even want to share with an actual friend tbh. I like my own space.

The fact you are questioning it means that you have doubts about it, therefore for the sake of £120, I'd not share with him. Also, ask yourself how you would feel if you had a partner and he was going to share a room with a single female.

As always on MN, I am distracted by really needing to know what the hobby is.

But good God, there's no way I'd be sharing a hotel room with anyone not in my close family. And TBH I'd prefer it if even my close family boggered off too.

No way!

Would not need to “mull it over” for more than a split second.

Cos pjs prevent sex?
Are they made of steel.
You are just being naive now.

My very very first thought was rape and there is no way the police would believe it, because you agreed to share the room, your crying wolf after the fact, its obvious why a man and woman would share a room etc.

Aside from all those possibles, rooms have showers and toilets and sharing them is not my idea of fun.
Does he sing badly in the shower? I do, will that piss him off?
Will he snore, will I?
Will we be going to bed at the same time, will he stay up drinking and wake me up early hours, will he expect me to go to bed at the same time as him.
I can think of a lot more reasons than those few.
But I'm sure it'll be fine.

I wouldn't want to share, male or female. I'm a light sleeper and very restless sleeper, I'd spend the night being annoyed if they were snorers/heavy breathers and feeling like I couldn't toss and turn as it might annoy them. Maybe I overthink it but I'd rather have my own room.

Just say no;don't put either of yourselves in an awkward position;if you two were good friends and you knew and got on with his partner and she was okay with it then maybe but this doesn't come close.

Book that single room and if anyone mentions it just say "oh I'm already sorted thanks"

Nope. I have male colleagues I've worked with and been friends with for over 20 years and been in all sorts of situations with...but I still wouldn't share a room with them.

No matter how innocent you both behave, gossip will ensue and I'd bet that whatever his partner says in public, behind closed doors she wouldn't be best amused at the idea.

Maintain the friendship and forget about sharing rooms.

I'm a bloke ( for reference) and I would be uncomfortable tbh.