Would you share with a random bloke to avoid booking two rooms?

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I'm going away with a hobby group. Usually those of us who are single seem to be able to work things out and share with the same sex. This time a smaller group is going and there's only me and him who won't be taking partners. He's with a very long term partner who doesn't like to attend these things and I'm single.

I've known him for a long time in this group and have always found him lovely and respectful, both to me and about his partner. I wouldn't say I know him well or even that we're friends though. We have been drunk together (which I always think is a good test 😆) and still he's nothing but respectful.

Anyway, it's been suggested (not by either of us!) that we could share. I think I'm comfortable to share with him for a couple of nights, but I'm not sure how it looks or whether it puts his DP in an uncomfortable position.

FWIW it saves us each about £120, which is a significant sum to me, but wouldn't mean I couldn't go. It is frustrating how everything costs more when you're single though!

He might hate the idea, I'm just mulling it over at this stage.

I wouldn't neither would OH, like others the idea of sharing with anyone isn't on. What if you find it's a double bed?

Depends what the hotel is like but a lot of places (other than chains) the single rooms are rubbish. One of the reasons I'm happy enough with chain hotels. Single supplements also suck.

It's a hard no from me.
I'm far from being a suspicious type, but I'd hate it if DH did that. Also you may well not be attracted to each other but if it's the type of scenario where you get drunk at this hobby thing, then sharing a room is a seriously dangerous move.

He’s not a random bloke as you know him as a friend. I still wouldn’t share a room with him though.

God, no. Definitely not.

No - I’m too old (40s) for this. Would be reluctant to even share with a female friend/ colleague.

Not a chance
You'll never really know somebody just through a hobby. For safety reasons, for both of you, just book separate rooms

no fucking way

When I was a PhD student I went to a conference and had to share with a male PhD student (or fund my own room). He was my housemate and he is gay, so from that PoV I was quite comfortable sharing the space.

However. What I did not know beforehand is that he has extreme sleep apnoea, snores terribly, and talks in his sleep. We also both found it really hard to be sharing our space most of the time, eg at the conference, mealtimes, and in the room. It was really tough and I wouldn’t do it again if I didn’t have to.

Would his partner mind?

Forget about what his partner might think. Just no way - it's way too personal to share with someone of the opposite sex, that you don't know on that level / not in a relationship with.

I would not.
Not because of anything happening (consensual or not)
Not because of gossip

But purely because I like my privacy. I wouldn’t share a hotel room with a female friend either.

No. How do you know that he wouldn't try it on? It's happened to me with a male friend, and no one believed me because he had a partner & a 'quiet' personality.

No way, I don’t share with anyone except my husband. Not my mum, sister or best friend, I like my own space

No

Definitely not. If anything I’d find it a red flag if he was up for it considering his situation

I wouldn't share with a random bloke.
However, no issue with sharing with a male friend (which I would say it this scenario). Especially to save that amount of money.

I think if you don’t know him well enough for it to be an obvious “yeah we’ll share” then it’s a no.

to share a room with anyone you have to know them well imo and know they’re not bloody annoying at night. If you don’t know that then £120 isn’t worth the saving.

I wouldn't because some men assume that a woman agreeing to share a room is more or less pre-agreeing to shag them. Even men who seem completely nice and friendly and fully attached etc. So although he may be one of those men who is as nice as he seems I would not take the risk of having to extricate myself from an uncomfortable situation just in case.

I did this. I didn't give it much thought at the time, as we were 'just mates lol'. We were single. Absolutely nothing happened. Just mates.

However weeks later we did get together and are now 22 years married.

I just asked him and we laughed about it, but he said looking back he probably wouldn't do it again. I guess times are different. These days people would talk I suppose.

Computer says NO

No way.

like hell would i!
wouldnt share with a female either, unless v close friend

Ugh, NO.

Do ppl on mn understand rooms are for sleeping? The sex fairies don't enter in the night and make untoward things happen. And PJs are less revealing than shorts and T-shirts.

It's fine OP. People on here are weird.

No. Think of his long term partner. I would not want my husband sharing a room with a single woman. In fact, I'd get so comfortable on my high horse if he insisted that it would threaten our relationship. I've been around too much and seen too much and done too much to let another woman even get a look in.