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Just been called a fat bitch for no reason

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RooRem2 · 17/06/2022 16:27

I was walking to collect DS from school and whilst on my way some ‘man’ for absolutely no reason at all, decided to shout “fat bitch” at me out of his car window. What’s hurt me the most is that I’ve recently lost a bit of weight and am continuing doing so, which has sparked a little bit of confidence back in me. I’ve started making more of an effort with my hair and makeup and have bought myself some new clothes. How can I not let this arsehole get to me and make me not want to carry on losing weight😔 I don’t understand why you would do that to somebody!?

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custardbear · 17/06/2022 18:21

Maireas · 17/06/2022 16:34

It's not about your weight. It's about humiliating women, giving him power and control.
You're upset, but just try to put it out of your mind. He's an ignorant, misogynistic prick.
I bet you look great! Flowers

Absolutely this!
I've only just started reading this so not RTFT but this says more about him than you. Be proud of any achievements and remember he's probably got a tiny dick, bed breath and a shitty life so he's trying to knock others off their perch - be proud and, well, sod him!! 🥂

Topseyt123 · 17/06/2022 18:22

He is an insignificant, misogynistic arsewipe who is just trying to show off in front of his equally insignificant and misogynistic friends.

Sadly, most of us get this sort of twattery chucked at us from time to time.

Give him no further headspace. This says nothing about you and everything about him and how inadequate he is.

Well done on your weight loss. Now keep your chin up.

kagerou · 17/06/2022 18:28

If it helps at all ive been called the same thing and I'm a size 6-8 . Its a misogynistic thing used by men who hate women so it wouldn't matter what you looked like.

Keep your head up high and hope that the next time hes so angry and distracted by a woman simply daring to be alive - he crashes his damn car

p.s congratulations on the weight loss! treat yourself to something that makes you feel beautiful because you deserve it

Plet · 17/06/2022 18:41

Wow, what a fucking loser! I can't imagine ever being pathetic enough to get my kicks from trying to make strangers feel bad about themselves. Just think about how small and sad his life must be to even consider doing something like that.

And it's nothing to do with you. I 100% believe you could have been the skinniest woman on the planet and he'd still have shouted it. He's just your garden variety misogynist who wants to feel powerful by making women feel ashamed. You were unfortunately a woman in his vicinity.

anon12345anon · 17/06/2022 18:41

Topseyt123 · 17/06/2022 18:22

He is an insignificant, misogynistic arsewipe who is just trying to show off in front of his equally insignificant and misogynistic friends.

Sadly, most of us get this sort of twattery chucked at us from time to time.

Give him no further headspace. This says nothing about you and everything about him and how inadequate he is.

Well done on your weight loss. Now keep your chin up.

This .... ^

He's an absolute cunt.....

Just chiming in to give you these too Flowers

Ginandcrispsarebliss · 17/06/2022 18:41

He is a knob. Don't let him loose your confidence. Carry on with your head held up high and think what a sad fu*ker he is. No normal person would do this.

Justleaveitblankthen · 17/06/2022 18:47

Could any of us imagine for one second sitting in our cars, seeing another woman or a man or children walk past and shouting Fat Bitch/Fat Bastard/Fat little Pricks! as they innocently walk by?
What type of fucked up individual does that?
I was viciously singled out by a boy in my class at school. For three years every day I was called a Slag, Bitch, Whore.. (This was the early 80's) I can't even begin to imagine what the fuck his problem was. But hurt people hurt and cunts will be cunts

BOOTS52PollyPrissyPants · 17/06/2022 18:49

That is just horrible and do not take it personally as he is just a knobhead with a crap life that gets some kind of power shouting out to random people. Well done for losing weight and keep it up for yourself and for your lifestyle as you will feel so much better in yourself. People are so mean at times but he is a wanker.

Maverickess · 17/06/2022 18:53

How very brave of this king among men to shout something he clearly was desperate for you to know, out of the window of a moving car where there's no opportunity for him to have to face any concequences of his behaviour.
Hardly someone who's opinion matters to you OP, surely if someone feels so strongly about what you look like that they need to tell you, they really should be able do it face to face and be prepared to deal with any concequences?

(I'm not advocating this approach, it could be dangerous) I once got off a bus and had had a few of these incidents in a relatively short space of time, I'd had a shit day and was just in the mood for an argument, when a car full of young lads drove by, slowing down and shouting 'Bloater' 'Fat Cunt' and other intelligent and well put together comments on me being overweight.

So I stopped and said 'Why don't you get out and come and say it to my face? You're so manly and brave surely you can manage that?!' he slowed then to a stop and so I just stood there, arms open in a 'come on then!' gesture, I may have even said it. So brave were these men that they disappeared in a roar of the engine and a very classy and cool wheelspin to show me!
Made me feel better tbh, although like I said, not something I'd recommend because I'd have been way out of my depth had they taken me up on it. It showed me though that people who do this don't ever expect to be challenged and don't have the courage to face being challenged and therefore run away instead.
Like I said, not someone who's opinion I particularly value anyway.

Well done on the weight loss, you're not doing it so wankers like him give you their approval are you? I'm doing it because I want to feel better, and be fitter and healthier, I suspect that it's the same reason you are. Men like that will always find something to pull a woman down for - scared we're better than them I think and they can't handle that.
Good luck keeping going, it's hard but I'm finding it worth the differences so far.

blacksax · 17/06/2022 18:55

Probably an incel with a needle dick.

Put it out of your mind and be thankful you'll never meet him again.

Summercally · 17/06/2022 18:55

Hold your head up high. Sounds like he has to put others down to feel good about himself, how pathetic.

TabithaTittlemouse · 17/06/2022 19:03

He has a tiny little penis and he had to insult someone to make him feel better about himself, that’s all.

His opinion is worth nothing.

Livpool · 17/06/2022 19:05

BringBackCoffeeCreams · 17/06/2022 16:51

Take comfort from the fact that he's a very, very unhappy man.

With a teeny, tiny penis

itsgettingweird · 17/06/2022 19:06

I've seen an increase of men doing this lately.

My friends and I walk a lot round a city because our kids swim together a lot.

It honestly is all about them.

Sad arseholes with no life and no real friends to talk to and this is the only fun they get for themselves.

Well done on your weight loss and don't give in. Do what you want to do for you. Don't let anyone else have any say or effect on that. Flowers

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 17/06/2022 19:18

The fuckin nasty jumped up prick. I bet his cock is about as long and skinny as an earth worm.
Why do these blokes always shout these insults at women. . I can guarantee you he wouldn't go to rugby match where they're 6 ft tall and 5 foot wide and do that.

CutMyVegIntoPieces · 17/06/2022 19:21

I've stopped having my profile pic on social media because any time a man had a different opinion to me he would call me fat or ugly. Happened countless times as I voice my opinion against pricks!

Ignore him. He obviously has a very sad life.

Odile13 · 17/06/2022 19:25

How awful. I’m sorry that happened to you.

Nobody who was truly happy and content in their own life would ever shout that at somebody, so he’s obviously got issues.

VivX · 17/06/2022 19:33

He's a tw*t and it's definitely all about him not you.

ClaireEclair · 17/06/2022 19:36

Urgh, men. When I was a teenager I got on the bus and the teenage boys at the back started shouting at me and calling me “dog” and “ugly”. The girl who was with them defended me and was lovely. Have had strangers walk past my friend and I calling us ugly. Either that or they say sexually explicit things or ask inappropriate questions. Bloody men.

Foxgluv · 17/06/2022 19:37

Try to understand that he's a miserable prick. Sounds like a complete loser.
His low end, unimportant opinion says everything about him and nothing about you. His mentality must be in gutter along with his life. It takes a special kind of person to do what he done, what an idiot too. Already have an image in my head. Bet he can't work the washing machine and doesn't brush his teeth. Weight can change but he's stuck with who he is.

There are idiots like this everywhere. You're doing great losing weight and treating yourself. Continue with it 😀you'll be happy, him and people like him never will be.

Hermione101 · 17/06/2022 19:39

There are some real Neanderthals out there.

Good work on losing the weight, keep going, you’re amazing for getting healthier!

BowiesJumper · 17/06/2022 19:43

This has happened to me a few times over the years. Always feels like a gut punch.

Deadringer · 17/06/2022 19:45

Everything looks big compared to his tiny dick. He must have a really shit life if that's how he gets his kicks, forget about him and hold your head high.

grapehyacinthisactuallyblue · 17/06/2022 19:50

Someone who would do that must live a miserable life. Don't get affected by a person like that. You are far better person than him, pity him for being so unhappy with life he needs to be horrible to a stranger.

sarahj878 · 17/06/2022 19:56

Ignore him OP. Even if you needed to lose weight it’s of no business to anyone else and is something you could change if you wanted to. His character on the other hand cannot be changed. He’s the loser not you and you shouldn’t give him a second thought. Wear your new clothes with pride x