I can ignore this text can't I?

[Zippidy123]

I started a thread last week about my elderly neighbour letting herself into my house. As advised, I didn't say anything to her but I make sure I now lock my door.

I'm finding her too much at the moment. I understand she's lonely but I have some health problems and I just need space. She's messaged or phoned me every day since. I've just had a missed call, an answer phone message and a text asking me to pop over and look at something shes bought.

I feel like such a bitch not replying but I can't face it. I'm not feeling well, I'm trying to sort out some food and the pets. It's driving me mad but I know it's important to help people who are lonely. I keep thinking that might be menone day and how much I'd appreciate a friend.

She sounds really difficult and like she makes excuses to get in touch trying to get you round. Like sausage rolls and helping her call the doctors.
I couldn't care less how old someone is I wouldn't be having any of that. Seems like she's using the sympathy card and playing on your good nature. She sounds really intrusive. Don't fall for it. She's not your responsibility. Sounds harsh but it's true.

I'm so glad you told your dad and he gave you such good advice.

I hope her daughter gets involved. If this neighbour can't deal with life then she might need professional interventions like a referral to adult social care or similar. Not your job.

@Zippidy123 - Well done for sending her the 'stop contacting me' message. As you mention that you're concerned about your neighbour (misdirected I think but that's just my opinion), if you wanted to, you could send a quick message to her daughter, letting her know that her mother left you with no alternative but to cut contact and tell her to stop contacting you due to her behaviour but if anything were to happen to your neighbour you will contact the daughter (one way traffic) to let her know.
That is as much contact as you want now.

Well done though. It must be tough as you appeared to have the neighbour's best interests at heart but she took amazing liberties with that concern.

God, talk about the pot and kettle!!! Maybe your Dad should let himself into her home with a bunch of flowers. She still wouldn't see the parallel I doubt...

I hate to say this op but I doubt you've heard the last of her.

@Zippidy123

It was just the final straw. I'm not putting my dad in a situation where he's trying to do a nice thing buis actually making someone uncomfortable in their own home so I told him everything. He was amazing, told me to cut all contact, I owe her nothing. So I sent a very blunt message to say contact had to stop completely. So far it has 🤞

I'm sorry your father's been dragged into this, but glad you've been very clear with her. Who knows what trouble she could make for him with such odd behaviour? 🌹

@Zippidy123 - how are neighbourly relations going?

Hi OP, how is it going with your neigbour?