On a crowded train yesterday, hardly any seats. A woman (middle class), probably about 40 grabbed a seat and sat down with her daughter (assuming) about 7/8 on her lap. Next to them, a man about 75/80, standing. No offer to let him have the seat. A few stations on, the person next to them gets off and she plonks her DD down in the now empty seat. A few more stations on and they get off. The oldish man grabs the seats for him and his mate (similar age), so obviously he does want to sit down.
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FridayiminlovewithRobertSmith · 22/05/2022 10:43
Were there no other people on the train? Why have you singled these 2 people out to offer their seats. Was no one else (middle class) or an (assumed) daughter?
I’d probably check if I thought someone was in need of a seat, but I don’t make assumptions about why others don’t.
Johnnysgirl · 22/05/2022 10:52
bearing in mind it's tiring standing on a moving train keeping yourself steady
It certainly is. More so when you're 80, I'd imagine...
Antarcticant · 22/05/2022 10:57
The OP doesn't say how long that person had been standing, nor who else was on the train and could potentially have offered a seat. It's unclear why this particular woman has been singled out as selfish.
Johnnysgirl · 22/05/2022 10:52
bearing in mind it's tiring standing on a moving train keeping yourself steady
It certainly is. More so when you're 80, I'd imagine...
lechatestsurlemat · 22/05/2022 11:17
Sure. Maybe the woman and her 7-year-old both had hidden disabilities.
Cant do empathy?
iklboo · 22/05/2022 11:27
What does that mean? It's vanishingly unlikely that both a relatively young woman and a young child needed the seat more than an elderly man, surely?
84 year old FIL is more capable of standing up on a moving train than I am due to my balance & mobility disabilities so not 'vanishingly unlikely'. The child sat on the woman's lap not on another seat.
lechatestsurlemat · 22/05/2022 11:42
What I mean is, I at least thought about giving up my seat because thats the way I was brought up. Occasionally, when in London, I get offered a seat. I know this is anecdotal, but it is often afro Caribbean people who offer up their seats. Maybe they are brought up better.
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