Persuade me not to do this.

[BrutusMcDogface]

Quit my job.

I hated being a stay at home mum during lockdown and working has given me such a lot of self worth.

However, I have it in my head that I want to take my little one’s first year of school off so that I can be there for her (pick up, drop off, sick days etc) as I have been teaching full time for the last two years. I have missed out on her preschool years 😭

Plus, my job is so very hard and is giving me the kind of stress that makes you feel sick to your stomach.

I know there are some tough talking mumsnetters so please help me to get this thought out of my head. It’s all I can think of right now.

Could you compromise - try a job share?

Thank you lolly. I have requested part time but not sure if I’ll get it. I know the reasonable thing to do is wait until I know. It’s just that the resignation deadline is looming!

If you’ve got a husband or partner would they be alright with it?

As a teacher I imagine you could go back anytime you liked so I’d do it if you can afford to.

She won't remember if you were there or not, that's parents guilt. Look for the cause of your stress and address that
Been there and took a less responsible role, best thing I did
Good luck

Anne- you’re meant to be persuading me not to! 🤣

I need to have a serious chat with dp but he’s always said- “do whatever makes you happy”, and he’s supported me all the way.

Good advice, oui. The cause of my stress is probably my job, but more than that, it’s the juggling I have to do to survive. We have 4 kids.

Do it if you can afford to - your own children grow up so quickly, why spend that time working if you don’t have to?

Ah Heather. That brought tears to my eyes which just shows me how unhappy I am with my status quo.

But you hated being a stay at home.

So I guess you have to choose which of the two would leave you slightly less miserable? How about a third option, look for a job that you will enjoy doing.

Thanks, Letitia. I did, but only in lockdown when everyone (including dp) was here full time and I was the one doing everything for everyone at all times (still haven’t got over that!!)

If dp is working and the children were at school I could finally declutter and decorate the shit tip that is our home, among other things! I feel like I’m letting my children down at the moment as everything is so chaotic.

Do it. Jobs will always be there. Your tiny child will grow so quickly. I look at videos of my 2 yo and wish I had been more present

Thanks cottage 💐

I feel like I was there for my older children so much more than my precious littlest, and it isn’t fair. My oldest is becoming an emotional wreck (teenager 🤣) and needs me too.

Do it. You never get the time back and will work until you're nearly 70. Just make sure you have full access to all family finances and can spend on yourself.

Do it if you can afford to. I left work a couple of years ago for various reasons and have been at home with my 2. Fully intend on being at home when my youngest starts school. You could always do a day here and there of supply. That’s the beauty of teaching! That’s flexible too around sick days and special school days etc. Your children grow up fast, make the most of them now. Good luck with your decision!

Schools- I have full control of family finances! 😉

Also supply doesn’t have the pressure that a teaching role does so you will be more present at home as you won’t be worrying about planning and extra bits to do!

I would stop teaching full time and then try and get in as regular supply at a couple of schools

Well, in that case, Brutus, if you hate your job, don't need the money and can improve your family's life, what is there to yhink about?

I will say, though, and this doesn't apply to you, I took VR and promised my other half, (there's just us two at home), that I'd do everything at home and I'd have time to really sort the house out and decorate during the week so that we'd have loads of quality time together at the weekend. And we'd be living it a,little palace. I'm not sure if I was trying to convince him and me! Lol.
8 years on, my house is the worst it's ever looked. 😫

Can you afford it?

Haha, Letitia! I hope that wouldn’t be the case (quite possible, though! 🤔 😁)

Thanks again for the insights 💐

Mammy- I think so but will have to do some sums. Thank

Oops extra ‘thank’ there!

Could you resign conditionally? I.e. I wish to resign from my full time post but am happy to continue my employment on part time hours if my request is approved.
it’d put the onus back on them to consider your request.

Supply is a good idea. I’ve never felt confident enough to do that but I think I could at this stage.