What would be your opinion of neighbour after this?

[Ihatemyroad]

Moved into house a couple of years ago. Regularly chat in passing with couple next door. Similar age late 30’s/early 40”s. We often take in parcels for them, have jump started one of their cars a few times, general nice neighbour type things.

We have a few items we need to take to the dump which isn’t far away, think old light highchair, toy pram, plastic kitchen bin. Our neighbour has a van. Yesterday I asked neighbour when he was going to the dump again and if I give him £10 would he take a few things for me? He would basically be going to the dump anyway, doing me a huge favour, and being given £10 to take a few light items. He said no. And then said “I’m off to the dump now”. And put a few things in his van and went.

I don’t know what to think. I’m really taken aback at him saying no and then telling me he was off to the dump that day anyway with a half empty van. So basically he just didn’t want to help me. I feel like saying ‘fuck you’ the next time they want a parcel taken in or their car jump started.

Obviously he is under no obligation to do that but he should have been kinder about it, no need for the rudeness at all. Just don’t do anything for them again

If you jumpstart their vehicle, then you have a vehicle, and could easily use it to take those small items to th dump yourself. He knows that.

I think that was quite spiteful of him really. If it were me, I'd decline all future parcels and no more jump leads. They clearly don't want favours, and it's supposed to work both ways.

Just a thought, at my local recycling centre you have to pay to dispose of rubbish in most commercial vehicles and they weigh you on entry, not sure if yours operates in the same way but they could be why he didn’t want to oblige

If your local tip is anything like the local tips where I live they are staffed by Nazis who give you grief whatever you take down to them even if it's perfectly okay to take there!

Do you think that could be the reason why he was reluctant to take your things?

Weird. Are you sure he wasn’t saying no to you paying him £10 to do it? Then told you he was going to the dump expecting you to bring out your rubbish, but then just went when you stood there looking at him like he was a prat (I’m just guessing) instead of making a move to get the stuff?

It's no good asking on here. We didn't see his expressions or hear his tone.
If it was me, I'd pop round and ask if you offended him in any way. Be straight and explain yourself and listen to his side. THEN decide if he's a twat or not. If he is still a twat after that, I would say 'well I didn't think I was taking advantage and I thought it was a neighbourly act I was asking of you, you know, like taking in your parcels and jump starting your vehicle?'

Ok look at it from his side. He has a van and tools. Several neighbours ask him over time 'could you just take this if you're going to the dump' 'could you just help me move this sofa to my mothers' 'could you just let me borrow your saw/wrench/level/hammer'. Tradesmen are very possessive of their tools and I'm not surprised he refuses to lend them! It doesn't matter if they are returned - he may need it that or next day and tools have a life span. And he's obviously decided that he won't take things to the dump as then people would forever be asking (my builder friend says he is always getting asked to do little inconsequential things but it escalates and he's drawn a line: no favours).
He should possibly have said 'sorry but if I help you out I'll get asked by everyone', or he may just be annoyed at the presumption that £10 makes it worth his while to deal with your junk.

Even if he has a pass for the tip, it doesn't mean that he doesn't also need to pay by weight for the rubbish he takes there.

I know someone with a van. They get very tired of people asking them to "just drop a few things at the tip". They get a number of such requests each month.

Thing is they know that if they turn up with the van at the tip it is a huge hassle for them. As soon as a van is seen they want to know if it's commercial, so they get taken aside. If they have stuff from other people it immediately becomes not their "personal waste" and they will get charged as commercial.

The things you say aren't huge like a sofa, so will fit in a normal car, so he's probably wondering why you aren't just popping them in your car and taking them down yourself. If it's so much a hassle for you to do it, that you don't want to, then offering £10 is a bit insulting.