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DC(9) on a residential trip, no photos of her. Should I contact to see if she’s ok?!

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OuchLegoHurtsMyFeet · 05/05/2022 12:22

DC is on a residential trip with school this week at an outdoor active centre. First trip away from home, and she can get a little anxious sometimes.

There’s a parent App that’s being used to keep us all updated, as the only means of contact whilst they are away. Must be around 100 photos have gone up this week, and tomorrow is the last day, including large group photos.

not one single photo with my DC in it. I’ve seen her best friend on the pics, and she is nowhere to be seen. I’m getting worried(I could be hormonal as I’m pregnant).

Should I contact the teacher through the App to ask how she is doing? It’s lovely to see the other kids, but I’d love just one photo, even if it’s the back of her head so I can see she is doing ok!

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AlisonDonut · 05/05/2022 12:23

Even just to check she is actually there. Of course.

Hugsgalore · 05/05/2022 12:24

Usually there is a consent form to share class pics in groups. Might you have missed it and that is why she’s being kept out of them?

CheesusTheSaviour · 05/05/2022 12:25

Pretty poor of them not to check. A quick message is fine, but don't expect a response as they may be super busy.

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SpringSparrow · 05/05/2022 12:26

Could you message the school and just say you haven’t seen your dd in any of the photos and just wanted to know that she is ok? I remember when my son went on a school trip, was a few years ago now, and he had a wobble about going just before they left. I had a quick chat with the lead teacher who was also the head and she kept an eye on him and gave me a quick ring to tell me how he was doing .

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 05/05/2022 12:26

Does she usually like getting her photograph taken? One of mine hates it so would refuse to be in any on a trip.

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OuchLegoHurtsMyFeet · 05/05/2022 12:27

I definitely have signed forms for photos, she is often on the App in other photos too in other class events etc.

I just worry as they’re going in the sea etc.

Think I’ll drop a polite message. I really didn’t want to have to, but I’ve held off a while now.

thanks

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Smartiepants79 · 05/05/2022 12:27

Confused Did you see her get on a coach and leave? Did you drop her at school at watch her go in?? If so then of course she’s alright they would have contacted you if she wasn’t!!
Even if you didn’t do those things school would have contacted you if she was missing or ill.
I’m not quite sure what you think might have gone wrong that they wouldn’t have already told you about??
Gently, you’re being ridiculous, please don’t phone school. They’ll think you’re crazy.

Oizys · 05/05/2022 12:28

My sons just been away on his school residential (he’s in y5) for the first few days he wasn’t in a single picture. Saw all his friends but not him. The school did issue a note (I assume other parents had been in contact) saying it’s not possible to guarantee all kids in pictures and also internet was rubbish so more photos would be coming.

i asked DS when he got home. He said he avoided the camera a bit but also the teachers took so many pictures he reckons they just picked a few random best ones of activity.

no harm in asking if it will put you at ease tho. I’m sure she’s having the best time

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OuchLegoHurtsMyFeet · 05/05/2022 12:29

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 05/05/2022 12:26

Does she usually like getting her photograph taken? One of mine hates it so would refuse to be in any on a trip.

Yes, she doesn’t mind her photo been taken. And she absolutely loves the outdoors, so no doubt would have got her teeth into any activity on offer.

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Theforest · 05/05/2022 12:29

Same happened to me with both of my DC. not in a single photo. Definitely there though. I wouldn't worry tbh.

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OuchLegoHurtsMyFeet · 05/05/2022 12:30

Smartiepants79 · 05/05/2022 12:27

Confused Did you see her get on a coach and leave? Did you drop her at school at watch her go in?? If so then of course she’s alright they would have contacted you if she wasn’t!!
Even if you didn’t do those things school would have contacted you if she was missing or ill.
I’m not quite sure what you think might have gone wrong that they wouldn’t have already told you about??
Gently, you’re being ridiculous, please don’t phone school. They’ll think you’re crazy.

Yes, we dropped her into the school reception, and watched her walk in.

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RichardsGear · 05/05/2022 12:31

Do you really think a 9 year child wouldn't be on the course that she's meant to be on and a parent wouldn't be informed?!
"Where's Sally? Can't find her? Oh well, never mind!"

If it would put your mind at rest then I don't see any harm in contacting through the app. I'm sure if anything was drastically wrong then the school would've contacted you. Is she generally quite steady or is she more on the sensitive side? Was she looking forward to going. Sometimes it comes down to who has the iPad to take photos (all the photos end up being of their group!).

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OuchLegoHurtsMyFeet · 05/05/2022 12:32

Glad others have had similar experiences, and all was ok. I’m sure she is fine, but it would be nice to see her in the photos so I’m not worrying.

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TigerLilyTail · 05/05/2022 12:33

I think the teachers have probably just had their hands full and haven’t kept track of the photos. I wouldn’t contact the school. There will probably be more photos when they come back and have time to go through them properly.

RichardsGear · 05/05/2022 12:36

Worrying about what, really though?! If she'd absconded/broken a leg/had a near drowning experience you would have been informed.

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ReadyToMoveIt · 05/05/2022 12:37

They’d have let you know if there was an issue, surely?

Whoatealltheminieggs · 05/05/2022 12:38

I would be looking for any excuse to ring. I’m not looking forward to residentials

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OuchLegoHurtsMyFeet · 05/05/2022 12:44

Thanks everyone. Like I said, I’m a bit hormonal at the moment, so it’s good to hear some balanced, logical views on this.

I know she is good hands, so hopefully more photos will come today 🤞

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ChateauMargaux · 05/05/2022 12:49

My son's year 3 teacher used to be meticulous in ensuring all children were included in the photos.. for exactly this reason!!! The purpose of seeing the photos isn't seeing roughly what they are doing.. it is seeing your child!! I think it would be fine to send a message... sorry to be a pain, but I haven't see Kate in any of the photos.. I understand you have a lot to do managing so many kids and apologise for this additional task but I would appreciate if you could confirm that she is OK.

Quartz2208 · 05/05/2022 12:52

This is why (and it isnt having a go OP) that our school no longer post photos as it causes so much grief.

Ours post around 3 generic updates a day (arrived safely/enjoyed x/doing y) kind of stuff and make it very clear that will contact if there is an issue

Because I am sure it is the photos that are causing issues

SeaToSki · 05/05/2022 12:52

Tip for the next trip, tell then you will pay them a pound for every photo they are in. Worked every time with my dc and otherwise they would duck every photo as they had to stand around and wait while it was taken

Thethingswedoforlove · 05/05/2022 12:55

No news is definitely good news op. Just relax and trust she is having an amazing time. She is very lucky to be on a residential as so many dcs have missed out due to covid.

Glowinglights · 05/05/2022 12:55

It was the same for my dd’s first residential. She’s quite a quiet child, often keeps in the background so wasn’t on any photo. Fortunately on day 4 I spotted her somewhere on a photo. It just calmed me to see her smiling and it somehow reassured me she was ok. It was the only photo with her in it that week , but it did help.

SniggleSnarf · 05/05/2022 12:56

Everyone's being a bit harsh...

I would worry too - hope you get some more pics today