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Suggestions of what to do with pregnant friend coming to stay

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User7365 · 19/04/2022 15:32

I've got a very good friend (who will be 14 weeks pregnant) and her husband coming to visit in a few weeks time and I'm desperately searching for ideas of what to do with her while she's here as she has turned down everything I've suggested so far! She can't stand or walk very far due to her pregnancy.

Activities she has turned down:

Country walk
National Trust property
Treasure Trail
Beach picnic (will be too cold/windy)
Escape Room (also too scary)
Museum (also too scary)
Local food market (also too smelly)
Boat trip (also will make her sick, and too dangerous)
Art Gallery (too boring)

She’s also asked to not go anywhere too busy as crowds make her anxious now she is pregnant. Bit tricky as we live in the South West and it’s the start of tourist season!

This is before I even take into account her dietary requirements (vegan and v v fussy), so I can’t even suggest a nice long lunch somewhere!

Does anyone have any other ideas?! I’m feeling like a rubbish friend and host! Obviously the visit will be more about seeing her and her company but I feel I should make an effort to plan SOMETHING for us to do!

I have told her (in a nice, joking way) she’s being difficult and asked for her suggestions but she just laughs and says “oh I don’t mind, I’m easy!”

Suggestions welcome!

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toomuchlaundry · 19/04/2022 15:35

How long are they staying?

20viona · 19/04/2022 15:39

I think she's making this extremely difficult for you, ask her what she would suggest?

I'm 18 weeks pregnant and I still like doing everything I normally do 🤣

YellowPlant · 19/04/2022 15:40

Sounds like she doesn’t really want to go out at all. The classic MN Spa trip?

Have you got a garden? Could you set it up nicely and do a day of vegan/BBQ grazing and sitting in the sun (hopefully there will be sun!). Tell her to bring a book for a day chilling, or get a load of magazines in. Then just hang out and chat.

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SleepingFrog · 19/04/2022 15:40

Research a vegan restaurant or ask around for recommendations and go there so she has a good selection to choose from and I'm sure everyone else can find something suitable too.

Either that or crack out the board games and nibbles and have a day in - it doesn't sound like she fancies a day out based on rejecting all your suggestions so far. I don't know how her pregnancy is going but a museum or escape room being too scary are ridiculous excuses 🤣

sweepeep · 19/04/2022 15:41

To be honest I would let her organise if that's the way she is.

SleepingStandingUp · 19/04/2022 15:41

Spa is a no, she can't do any of the fun stuff.

Honestly if she can't walk because she's so pregnant I don't think there's much left. Cinema? I mean t
He woman thinks a museum is a ary so honestly I have no sympathy for her sitting on your sofa all weekend.
. It's going to be a looooong pregnancy.

zafferana · 19/04/2022 15:42

The first trimester makes some people feel very yucky and it sounds like she's right in that at the moment. Hopefully, by the time she visits you at 14 weeks, she'll be feeling rather more able to do stuff. No walking? No markets? Museums are scary? Jeez - did you suggest the London Dungeon or something? TBH she sounds like a PITA, so I hope she proves to be rather easier when she arrives or it could be a loooooong visit, however short it is!

TerryChoc · 19/04/2022 15:45

You are far from a rubbish friend! You’ve tried all sorts, maybe instead of going out just stay in and do something at home and a movie night.
14 weeks with all mine I was still attending parties that had all smells and danced my little socks off but everyone is different. Sounds as if she does just rather cuddle up than go out anywhere adventurous so try that.

SleepingStandingUp · 19/04/2022 15:45

Agree find a nice vegan restaurant incase the sight of cheese is too traumatic now she's pregnant, and plan a long lunch. Get some board games in or a nice gentle movie where nothing bad happens for the evening, not with vegan nibbled and fruit juice for her.
Is there a country park you could drive to and take a picnic too if she's able to sit on a picnic blanket? Feed the ducks from her seated position?

skippy67 · 19/04/2022 15:47

Sounds like hard work. Tell her to visit when she's more open/able to enjoy it. Or ask her to suggest some activities? Sounds like she's not bothered about visiting right now, unless it's to sit on your sofa.

SleepingStandingUp · 19/04/2022 15:52

@skippy67

She's not going to be more amenable until the kids old enough to be left with Dad.

QuiltedHippo · 19/04/2022 15:54

Gosh I thought you were going to have no ideas of how to have fun without alcohol but she sounds a nightmare!

Fair enough if she feels absolutely grim but you should try stay active in pregnancy if you can, it'll be a very long 9 months for her otherwise.

Go get a massage? Cinema? Board games at home?

skippy67 · 19/04/2022 15:56

She's not going to be more amenable until the kids old enough to be left with Dad. Result!😅

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User7365 · 19/04/2022 16:00

Thanks all, I suppose I hadn't even entertained the thought of not doing a 'day out' as that is what we've always done when we meet up! But good thinking- I will ask her if she's ok with that.

The museum thing- it's a tudor museum and she hates that sort of stuff. She also hates that most escape rooms are 'creepy'.

She's my friend and I love her but there are some parts of her personality which are a bit precious yes!

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SleepingStandingUp · 19/04/2022 16:03

Bring kind, I was bloody shattered I nearly pregnancy so I think it's fine to say look, do you just want a quiet day in? Depending on times, go get lunch and then veg on the sofa, etc.

GlitteryGreen · 19/04/2022 16:11

Wow OP, tbh I'd be tempted to just say 'Let's leave it until you're feeling a little better', she sounds like she will make this visit a real nightmare.

Crunchymum · 19/04/2022 16:21

Why can't she stand or walk due to her pregnancy? At 14 weeks?

toomuchlaundry · 19/04/2022 16:22

At the stage of pregnancy she currently is all I wanted to do was sleep, interspersed with throwing up! Hopefully, she will feel a bit better by 14 weeks

HollowTalk · 19/04/2022 16:24

She sounds very attention seeking. God help everyone around her when she's 39 weeks.

HollowTalk · 19/04/2022 16:25

Make a list of all the things she doesn't want to do and send it to her saying now what DO you want to do?

Sprigofthyme · 19/04/2022 16:27

She’s in for a verrry long pregnancy if this is how she’s behaving at 14 weeks! Sorry no suggestions, apart from maybe telling her not to bother coming

toomuchlaundry · 19/04/2022 16:32

Why do you have to do anything? Just see how she feels when she gets there. Maybe ask her to bring food she can cope with.

I was also horrendous with smells with early stage pregnancy, would throw up pretty much every time I opened the fridge and once nearly threw up on DH when he breathed on me!

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 19/04/2022 16:33

God she sounds exhausting! Is just say "OK, if you see anything you fancy doing let me know, if not we can just chill in the garden"

NerrSnerr · 19/04/2022 16:47

@Crunchymum

Why can't she stand or walk due to her pregnancy? At 14 weeks?

I couldn't do much at all at 14 weeks pregnant with both children. I felt so awfully unwell for my whole pregnancies (but I didn't go and stay with friends as I didn't want to share the misery).

oatlattetogo · 19/04/2022 16:58

The museum thing- it's a tudor museum and she hates that sort of stuff.

Does she have a phobia of ruffs?

Could you go to the theatre? Maybe not The Woman in Black though, if museums are a bit edgy for her

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