When did you decide your pregnancy was really actually going to result in a baby?

[AliceAbsolum]

I literally have no idea what to think about it. 7 years TTC, 5 IVF cycles, fell pregnant on the last cycle, got to 8 weeks and really thought it was going to actually work, miscarriage at 8 +3.
6+2 now. 2 embryos so high chance of twins.

Everyone who knows about the pregnancy (a few people, as we have been doing ivf for years) are talking about the baby and when it will be born, my friend got me to register with my GP surgery so I've got my booking appointment in the diary.
DH and I will have to shift jobs and move house before a baby is born so we will need to start actually acting like it's going to happen at some point.

When did you start to think and act like your pregnancy would actually turn into a real life baby? 12 weeks?

12 weeks for me. I expected the pregnancies might not last really until that point. Then after the 20 week scan I really started to plan stuff.

I’m having mine on Tuesday and it still hasn’t hit me yet 😬

12 weeks, but I only really believed it at 26 weeks

When I was pregnant with ds, once I was past 24 weeks to be honest, and I wasn't convinced I would actually take a baby home until after he was born. Hence why, when ds was born at 35 weeks, dh had to go to Mothercare and tell them he needed everything. We had ordered a cot and pram, and had some cloth nappies but nothing else at all.
Good luck, hope all goes well

About 27 weeks. Congratulations 🙂

I was well over 20 weeks.
Multiple miscarriages, one at 13 weeks so wouldn’t even say the word baby or pregnancy until after about 22 weeks.
I was 10 years down the line.

Good luck op. Everything crossed for you

At 12 weeks I start to believe it might be a possibility but still hate telling anyone in case I have to ‘untell them’

At 20 weeks I start thinking about the actual end result baby rather than just the pregnancy

At 26/28 weeks I start to believe I will bring a baby home

Best of luck x

When we got back from the hospital, reeling from the birth, put the baby in the car seat down in the middle of the living room and wondered what happens next and what do we do.

The moment he was handed to me after I delivered him.

Thanks everyone. DH and I often talk about it but then always add at the end "if it happens", or "if we end up having a child". It's just weird. Limbo land

I always said I wouldn’t completely feel sure until the baby was born.

As it happened I started to think about those sorts of planning things, and then there were genetic abnormalities and ended in a termination at 15 weeks.

So next time for me I think it will be after the 20 weeks abnormality scan, and no sooner. I’ve learnt my lesson.

I hope it all works out for you

I'm nearly 14 weeks through IVF (and after 2 miscarriages). I'm still saying "all being well" when I tell anyone (not that I'm telling many people).

Wishing you all the best 💐 It's a tough road 💐

I think when she was handed to me after the birth. I'd had two successive miscarriages and was absolutely terrified of stillbirth so whilst we bought all the baby stuff when pregnant (after 20 week scan), I still didn't truly believe I'd necessarily end up with a baby at the end of it.

When the midwife said ‘put your hand down and you can feel the baby’s hair’ during delivery.

@amicissimma

When we got back from the hospital, reeling from the birth, put the baby in the car seat down in the middle of the living room and wondered what happens next and what do we do.

I was going to say the same... when we brought dd1 home from the hospital and realised that we were the responsible adults who looked after this little squished bundle. We were shell shocked for at least a week I reckon.

Honestly? After the midwife put her on my chest when she was born. I’d had 4 recurrent miscarriages before her and was an anxious wreck the whole pregnancy. She’s 5 months now and I’m still pinching myself

Hmm IVF here also, as much as I wanted to relax more I can honestly say I didn't believe it would all work out until she was actually put on me in theatre.

I think especially with IVF because you know about 'it' right from day dot it really does feel too good to be true in many ways. I didn't have anyone around who had felt the same though, friends were all way more relaxed.

In hindsight I would have relaxed more but I don't think that was possible at the time.

Good luck and enjoy!

When the baby was born safely.

I also distinctly remember with all the midwife appointments thinking 16 weeks etc I won't possibly still be pregnant and all ok then, I think after 30 weeks I started realising bar anything catastrophic I would hopefully end up with a baby.

When I started feeling kicks!

With my first it was at the 12 week scan.
I then lost two both at 16 weeks and when I was carrying my second I did not believe we would bring home a baby until he was born. And even then it was touch and go as he was premature. I did not enjoy pregnancy and found it very stressful.
Keeping everything crossed for you xx

Honestly, about the time the head crowned . I can distinctly remember airing baby clothes a couple of days before he was burned thinking "weird, soon there'll be a baby in these" and not quite believing it.

born!

During my stretch and sweep at 40+6. The MW said 'oh I touched his head!' and I thought 'whose?'.
After a mc, I was so focused on keeping the 'pregnancy' going, I sort of forgot there was an actual baby in there!
Sorry for your losses, OP.

About 5 months. Then it sort of hit me.