When did you decide your pregnancy was really actually going to result in a baby?

[AliceAbsolum]

I literally have no idea what to think about it. 7 years TTC, 5 IVF cycles, fell pregnant on the last cycle, got to 8 weeks and really thought it was going to actually work, miscarriage at 8 +3.
6+2 now. 2 embryos so high chance of twins.

Everyone who knows about the pregnancy (a few people, as we have been doing ivf for years) are talking about the baby and when it will be born, my friend got me to register with my GP surgery so I've got my booking appointment in the diary.
DH and I will have to shift jobs and move house before a baby is born so we will need to start actually acting like it's going to happen at some point.

When did you start to think and act like your pregnancy would actually turn into a real life baby? 12 weeks?

Mine is a 4th round ivf baby. I never believed I would actually have a baby until I brought her home from hospital (at three weeks and one day old, as she was prem).

About 32 weeks, but even then I couldn't bring myself to buy anything. I left it very last minute and put everything out of sight just incase.

I have 2 lovely kids now and I am so grateful.

My 2 dd’s are IVF too - first one a FET and had a loss before her. It didn’t hit me she was a real baby until hearing the first cry after she’d been delivered (C Section). As soon as she cried it hit me like a boot of lightening- OMG it’s an actual baby!! My DH and I both burst into tears as soon as we heard the cry - it was so heart wrenching. With my second, I think I knew she was a real baby a bit sooner, during pregnancy but again, it wasn’t until her first cry that it really hit me.

Honestly, not until my ivf miracle was actually born and it hit me like a ton of bricks that I'd spent so long to conceive him I didn't actually enjoy being pregnant I worried everyday.

I had a miscarriage 8 months after he was born, a natural conception that was 0.3% chance of happening, following that I had another natural conception and even though I'd lost the previous pregnancy, I was determined that this would be a baby and if not, it would be acknowledged as a baby

When she was born. Although I was obviously aware I was going to have a baby, I just couldn't picture it. I think a lot of it had to do with not knowing the sex of the baby.

About 6 weeks with DS when I was 21. Didn't want to tell many people early on the second time in my thirties knowing the miscarriage rate was higher, but I was forced into it, only to miscarry at just gone 8 weeks.

The morning of my c-section, i was in denial until then

My baby was a natural miracle.

Born after six failed IUIs, three IVF miscarriages including ectopic twins that put me in intensive care.

When I say I NEVER believed I’d really get to be a mum, I mean it.

So unutterably jealous of women who can pee on a stick and know there’ll be a baby, or bounce into scans complaining about it being £4 a picture or whatever.

My miracle is snoring here now, aged two, and I still don’t fully believe in him.

It gets incrementally easier over time, though. Each new milestone gets you closer to believing.

@Blabla81

My 2 dd’s are IVF too - first one a FET and had a loss before her. It didn’t hit me she was a real baby until hearing the first cry after she’d been delivered (C Section). As soon as she cried it hit me like a boot of lightening- OMG it’s an actual baby!! My DH and I both burst into tears as soon as we heard the cry - it was so heart wrenching. With my second, I think I knew she was a real baby a bit sooner, during pregnancy but again, it wasn’t until her first cry that it really hit me.

Gosh I remember hearing my babies first cries. With my son i felt like all the air had been sucked from my lungs and I made this kind of weird instinctual cry back and beamed like an idiot! The whole world changes when you hear that noise.