I'm turning 30 and I've never even kissed anyone, is it time to admit it'll never happen?

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Have I just missed all of the boats? I haven't even managed to arrange a date since re-joining Bumble in January.

I don't know how to do any of it. Dating casually seems impossible because I'm so nervous about it all. I just wish I had a friend that I could do it all slowly with.

How do you give up? How can I stop looking at all the couples and families and stop wishing it was me?

Do you have a good female friend you could kiss? It might be a good way to get it out of the way so it’s not a ‘thing’ no sexual feelings involved just a kiss, no emotion.

Just because a student isn't into the partying and drinking scene doesn't mean they can't get a bit pissed and snog someone - it's not either/or.

There's nothing wrong with being an introvert. You present a perfect opportunity for the extrovert man to show off and do a bit of peacocking. Then you can sit back and see if you like him. I'm an introvert, 3 times married and at least 3 long term relationships - although that might be too much of a good thing!

I was in a similar position, OP. By 30 I'd had sex just a handful of times and only with 2 men. I was hugely lacking in self confidence and I can only think that it showed, putting men off talking to me. I did used to go out to pubs of a weekend but no men ever gave me a glance, let alone a second.
I ended up working in a very male oriented environment and, at the time was starting to feel better about myself, and what a difference! I'm now madly happily married. So please don't give up. I'd try a matchmaker now, if I was still alone. I have friends who are married now after doing online dating, but I think I'd find that very scary. Are there any dating sites that will be male-heavy, like police/medical/armed forces?

Sounds like you’re doing a lot of the right things already. Most of the strongest couples I know were friends before getting together. I was friends with DH for ages before getting together. Is there anyone you know who has anything about them that seems nice? If so, you could be very breezy and ask them if they’d like to join you for a coffee. Also, ask around friends. They might know a friend/colleague/cousin/acquaintance who is also looking and you could connect on social media. My old colleague met her husband because her friend thought that she’d like him so brought him along to a party that was being held. 12 years and 3 kids later it seemed to have worked out very well!
Don’t lose hope ❤️

@Dillydollydingdong

There's nothing wrong with being an introvert. You present a perfect opportunity for the extrovert man to show off and do a bit of peacocking. Then you can sit back and see if you like him. I'm an introvert, 3 times married and at least 3 long term relationships - although that might be too much of a good thing!

There certainly isn't, but the OP said that she is sometimes quiet to the point that she barely speaks when she's out/meets men, which must be limiting her opportunities to connect with someone. We introverts don't need to be the life and soul of the party, but we do need to be able to make conversation if we want to make new friends, IYSWIM.

As I said earlier, I do think some counselling might help her.

@DesertStorms

My friends son is 31 and never had a gf. He’s very good looking and intelligent, just shy. I think he would go for an arranged marriage too! You aren’t alone.

Maybe you should set him up on a date with op @DesertStorms ?!

@mumznet

don't worry 30 is young. nice lipstick is the answer, guys are very visual. it's very easy if a woman wants to attract a guy. so hopefully, soon, I would say go for brigther shades, pinkish type or red in comparison to browner shades.

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Maybe try something like this op?

https://thevidaconsultancy.com/?mhkeyword=london%20matchmaking%20agency&gclid=CjwKCAjwtWRBhAwEiwALxFPocQ6JPWyxc2pIDF1HQ3gKHPaE1wFW6ryvHP4qSWc7vRv4pKXpdSBMxoCNMQAvDBwE

@PinkFluffyUnicornSlippers

Sounds like you’re doing a lot of the right things already. Most of the strongest couples I know were friends before getting together. I was friends with DH for ages before getting together. Is there anyone you know who has anything about them that seems nice? If so, you could be very breezy and ask them if they’d like to join you for a coffee. Also, ask around friends. They might know a friend/colleague/cousin/acquaintance who is also looking and you could connect on social media. My old colleague met her husband because her friend thought that she’d like him so brought him along to a party that was being held. 12 years and 3 kids later it seemed to have worked out very well! Don’t lose hope ❤️

I agree that just subtly letting people know you are available can mean you meet people who would get you, A friend introduced me to DH because she said she knew we'd get on. 15 minutes later i was in love.