Could you date someone with such a limited diet?

[georgousbold]

I've met a really nice man recently.

6 weeks in and I'm really enjoying his company. I have a disabled son so finding anyone new was always going to be hit and miss

He's a really friendly and caring person, it seems. I have absolutely no support most of the time for my son and last week he even offered to step in when I had a vomiting bug, offering to take DS to the local park and go for a walk with him so I could catch some extra zzzs. He made it clear that he knew why I'd decline as he was new, but said the offer was there and open (he's a doctor so very much DBS checked)

We have been out for something to eat 3 times now. Each time, chicken nuggets and chips, with a little ketchup on the side and sprinkled with vinegar and lots of salt like it's snowing on his plate

Yesterday we had a lunch at a local cafe. Chicken nuggets and chips, with lots and lots of salt, then he asked for some beans so a slight improvement.

Could you go out with someone with such a limited diet? I asked why it was so simple and he shrugged and said 'it's predictable'

He has asked to take me to a sushi place next week so we shall see how this plays out. I don't think they sell nuggets!

That's surprising for a doctor!

@Pemba The amount of salt visible is very very shocking for a doctor

I couldn’t care less what anyone else was eating as long as my eating wasn’t restricted.

But, if he had problems because of a junk food diet then I would be put off.

I married one. It has some challenges, but it’s not a big deal in the grand scheme of things. He has sensory issues. I’m on the autism spectrum so I come with some challenges of my own. I appreciate being with someone who understands what it is like,

What he eats shouldn't matter so long as he's not expecting you to eat it what does it matter🤷caring and solvent sounds good to me! 😊

I'd have to say no, I wouldn't date someone who ate like this.

I grew up with disordered eating, as a result of my mum not really being interested in food and having a limited palate. From my late 30s on, I've realised I do, in fact, like so much more than the limited stuff I ate before, enjoy cooking, and I would not want to be with someone who was fussy aabout food.

I couldn't because I really like trying and cooking new food and I'd be worried about in a ltr him just cooking chips as his share of the cooking chore. If he's taking you to a sushi place it sounds like he's willing to try other things?

Nope. Does he cook?

As long as it didn't stop me from eating other stuff or affect where we ate, then it wouldn't bother me. It sounds like he's nice in other ways

Hmm, I would be a bit wary - do you think you could bring yourself to raise it? Does hint at an issue which is fine if it's out in the open but not if it's not.

I live with one - he’s getting better. But his whole family have food issues so it is a challenge when you bring children into the equation.

It wouldn't bother me

He has said he doesn't like cooking as he finds the steps confusing, but can do pasta

I challenged him and asked how that could be so? He works in gynae as it involves some surgery! He said it was very different

So if anyone can cook who's on here, you're holding a skill too difficult for someone with a degree in medicine

Never mind the diet but I would be wary of any new boyfriend who was offering to take my child out after only a few weeks, even if he did say he thought you would say no.

How did you meet him and are you sure he’s a doctor (I’m naturally cynical, with good reason)

Why have only gone to places that sell chicken nuggets? That is quite a specific food that you can't get everywhere.

@Nicknacky We work in the same hospital (I'm not medical!)

Unless he’s making you eat it, I don’t see the issue?

@georgousbold Phew, at least he is a doctor. But I would still be wary about him offering to take your child. Sorry!

He’s going to a sushi place so his eating habits aren’t limiting where/what you eat.

If his diet got in the way of your relationship then I could see how it might be annoying (I have lots of allergies and eating out is usually a drama).

I’m not surprised about a doctor having an unhealthy diet, most people in healthcare are the worst in my experience! Do as I say, not as I do!

Yes.
I don't care what other people eat.
I wouldn't date someone who tried to choose what I ate but as long as they eat what they want and I eat what I want, it wouldn't be a problem.

Yes I would. He sounds kind in any case.

So long as the rest of being with him wasn't a compromise on what i wanted in a man I could definitely let the poor food choices slide so long as it didn't become a problem going out; visiting others peoples for meals or going on holiday.

I knew a Dr whom whilst he was growing up only ever ate a roll and sausage. His mother was demented. Very clever bloke, obvious food issues.

Depends where you ate, sounds like it was just a cafe in which case ordering something like nuggets and chips isn't surprising. He's suggested sushi so presumably likes it.

I have sensory issues so absolutely! I don’t like wet food (so no curry or soup but I can cope with pasta/well made risotto etc. As a result though I love cooking and baking…fresh pasta and bread, risotto, nut roast, macarons. I like the control and experimenting on my own terms. I’m trying 1 new food a week this year. I’d be concerned about him not cooking though