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AIBU 15 year olds outfit choices

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Kak19 · 27/02/2022 20:01

My 15 year old is wanting to wear very revealing bodycon dresses, that are extremely short, and I don't want her to wear clothes like that yet, she's only 15 and technically not an adult, and I think she's dressing beyond her years the outfits she's looking at are things you would expect to see in a nightclub on a Thursday, Friday or Saturday, not a friends sweet 16.

AIBU I'm not wanting her to wear these?

Thank you

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FaceLikeASlappedAss · 27/02/2022 20:11

Yanbu.
But I've seen on ds 16 his insta with his school mates all wearing stuff like that especially like the 2nd and 4 th picture

roadragepensioner · 27/02/2022 20:21

I'm going to say YANBU but I suspect she's of an age where stopping her will be impossible and making an issue of it will only make her want to do it more! Perhaps say it wouldn't be your choice as it looks tacky but it's up to her, may not be much help though! Encourage her to take a coat!!

balalake · 27/02/2022 20:47

I wouldn't want a daughter of mine or anyone else to wear dresses like that at any age (though point taken about OPs concern of age), as they just look awful.

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GreyCarpet · 27/02/2022 20:47

My daughter is also 15.

She wears similar.

I pick my battles and clothing choices is something I always said I'd never fight with my children over.

Part of me rolls my eyes and part of me is just pleased she has the confidence and freedom to express herself.

Lolingokay · 27/02/2022 20:56

YANBU at all, these look terrible and inappropriate. Maybe have a chat with her about why she's so eager to wear dresses like this. They're obviously very revealing and designed to attract attention, so whose attention is she trying to attract? Is she trying to fit in with other girls and have them think she's really attractive like them, in which case talk to her about peer pressure and having confidence in herself regardless of what other people are doing. Is she trying to get boys to like her, in which case talk to her about how she doesn't need validation from boys or to seek self-worth by dressing in this way, and the right person won't need to see her half naked to like and appreciate her. All the best OP

JSG55 · 27/02/2022 21:03

My 15 year old sister wears dresses like this.
She has access to her own bank account so would just buy online and sneak to a friends house to get ready before a party if it was an issue with our parents. As a pp said, they pick their battles. A lot of girls will go through this phase and eventually grow out of it. (I know I did)

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Kak19 · 27/02/2022 21:04

I think these dresses are absolutely awful, I don’t think anyone looks attractive in them!
I just really don’t want my 15 year old going out dressing like this, I do try to give her freedom with her clothes etc but I feel like I need to draw the line somewhere!
Thanks for the reply’s everyone

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Bootothegoose · 27/02/2022 21:08

You let her wear it.

Otherwise she’ll be going out in jeans and a top and changing into it at her friend’s house.

There are battles to pick and what she wears isn’t one of them. Yes it looks awful but so do the short shorts that we wore in our teens. It’s part of them growing up.

SpikeySmooth · 27/02/2022 21:29

My DD is too shy to wear such a revealing outfit. She usually wears more modest attire. However, she also has a clothing allowance and I don't police her choices even when she's wearing something offensive or political

MrsBerthaRochester · 27/02/2022 21:48

Omg I think Im the most lax mother ever but no way would I let my 15 year old wear any of those! The only place they would be appropriate is in a lap dancing bar Or a sex party(I have been to one and that pleather one would def be worn)
My own dd likes to wear short dresses and tiny crop tops for parties but I would absolutely draw the line at any of those.

IsItTooHotInHere · 27/02/2022 22:25

YANBU, those outfits are terrible. They would suit prostitutes, not a 15 year old girl. Don't give her the money to buy them.

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Kak19 · 27/02/2022 22:31

@IsItTooHotInHere

YANBU, those outfits are terrible. They would suit prostitutes, not a 15 year old girl. Don't give her the money to buy them.

That’s exactly what I said but and she just thinks I’m old! I’m 35, and yes I went out but I never ever dressed like that!they are so distasteful! I know we are suppose to be so much more liberal but who wouldn’t have a problem seeing their child dressed like she should be on a street corner! 🤦🏻‍♀️ Unfortunately as some others have mentioned she has her own bank account and a job etc so realistically she can order what she likes! I would just rather she didn’t wear these sort of skin tight dresses! Yes it’s great she’s confident etc but this isn’t the kind of confidence I aspire for her to have! Thank you for all the replies I’m glad I’m not the only one! But I also see what others are saying! And suppose I should be glad she’s not smoking, drinking or getting arrested! Like some 15 year olds are! 😣

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Kak19 · 27/02/2022 22:32

@MrsBerthaRochester

Omg I think Im the most lax mother ever but no way would I let my 15 year old wear any of those! The only place they would be appropriate is in a lap dancing bar Or a sex party(I have been to one and that pleather one would def be worn) My own dd likes to wear short dresses and tiny crop tops for parties but I would absolutely draw the line at any of those.

Exactly and you have to be over 18 to go to those clubs! Euphoria has a lot to answer for because it’s a euphoria themed party! ? But there 18 in America in their final year of school not 15! I really wish she had never watched that programme! 😫

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Kak19 · 27/02/2022 22:34

@Bootothegoose

You let her wear it.

Otherwise she’ll be going out in jeans and a top and changing into it at her friend’s house.

There are battles to pick and what she wears isn’t one of them. Yes it looks awful but so do the short shorts that we wore in our teens. It’s part of them growing up.

I understand what your saying, and yes there was one occasion. I went out in a very short dress and when I had really bad back ache at the end of the night I soon regretted it not to mention being hit on by men old enough to be my father! But even this dress wasn’t that bad! 😱

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Kak19 · 27/02/2022 22:35

@Bootothegoose

You let her wear it.

Otherwise she’ll be going out in jeans and a top and changing into it at her friend’s house.

There are battles to pick and what she wears isn’t one of them. Yes it looks awful but so do the short shorts that we wore in our teens. It’s part of them growing up.

And their short shorts are way worse than our short shorts you can literally see their bum cheeks! 😩😱😭

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BookFiend4Life · 28/02/2022 03:26

I think they're hideous but that is very much the style now... if it's any consolation I think a lot of girls wear them with hoodies and sneakers.

Dontbeamugallyourlifesucker · 28/02/2022 03:30

I tell my daughter if she wants to wear one of these dresses I will buy one the same (although in 8 sizes bigger) and wear it to drop her off and pick her up.

TulipsGarden · 28/02/2022 03:51

At 15 and with her own money, there's not much you can do. I wouldn't police her clothes. Just try to educate her in what impression those dresses give, who else is looking at her etc. She most likely won't care though! It's a powerful feeling, suddenly realising you good in skimpy clothes.

Bear in mind she's most likely dressing like that because it's fashionable with her mates, not because she wants to be a lap dancer. She hasn't thought beyond wanting to fit in.

moreteensthansense · 28/02/2022 03:55

This is just the style now. When I was 15 I wore big chunky boots, massive jumpers, and tiny tiny skirts, which looked ridiculous but all my friends dressed the same. It is just about fitting in. My 15 year old wears tiny dresses when she goes out (although more style 2 or 4, I've never seen side-boob and would have to bite my tongue very hard not to comment if I did). But as others have said, 'pick your battles' is even more important when parenting teens than it was with toddlers. Save your energy for the important stuff. Fashions change and move on.

GreyCarpet · 28/02/2022 04:48

Yes. My daughter wears similar in that three are tiny dresses with spaghetti straps. Not all the cutaway/barely there stuff.

We have discussed the wider issues but I don't want to argue with her. I don't want her teen years to be miserable. I don't want her to worry about fitting in...

She doesn't often go out. She wears these dresses with a hoody and trainers to sit in her friends' houses. If she goes out with her friends, it's more likely yo be skinny jeans and frop tops.

It's not the sort of confidence I want her to have either but she's a good kid. She's not drinking, smoking, taking drugs or having sex. She doesn't lie about her whereabouts or skip school. I've got to give her something

buddylicious · 28/02/2022 04:49

I wouldn't let my daughter wear dresses like that at 15 years old!

isthismylifenow · 28/02/2022 05:16

OP some things it is best in the long run to smile and wave. Rather she be open about it, if you make an issue there is a very good chance she will get hold of one (buy herself or borrow from a friend) and wear it anyway.

I have been there as too have a early 20s dd, and she looks back at pictures and says what on earth was I thinking...

To me the fact she was confident enough to wear it, is the major thing.

She is just expressing herself, and yes probably pushing the boundries a bit too.

Like others said, pick your battles.

Piggyk2 · 28/02/2022 05:21

I agree with others your going to have to get on board with your DD. The 4th dress is the best out of them all in terms of being covered.

I would say to your DD it isn't really classy to be showing so much leg and chest all at once!
These are definitely going out dresses too.

GreyCarpet · 28/02/2022 05:26

@buddylicious

I wouldn't let my daughter wear dresses like that at 15 years old!

Is this a 15 year old daughter you actually have or hypothetical..?

Cyberpunk2077 · 28/02/2022 05:27

*Euphoria has a lot to answer for
*
Op, have you seen Euphoria because honestly the fashion choices are the least problematic thing about that show!

I don't really know what the answer is, I wouldn't want my 15 year old daughter wearing that however how can you stop her? If she's going to a sweet 16 party at a house, function room etc and they are all similarly dressed then that might not be that bad, I guess it's like a costume party. If you fight her on this then she'll find a way to do it with or without your knowledge.

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