AIBU 15 year olds outfit choices

[Kak19]

My 15 year old is wanting to wear very revealing bodycon dresses, that are extremely short, and I don't want her to wear clothes like that yet, she's only 15 and technically not an adult, and I think she's dressing beyond her years the outfits she's looking at are things you would expect to see in a nightclub on a Thursday, Friday or Saturday, not a friends sweet 16.

AIBU I'm not wanting her to wear these?

Thank you

I think this is just something that teenagers do. I did exactly this when I was that age and it was a phase.

But Christ, some of the posts on this thread. Women should be able to wear whatever they want without being at risk of being sexually assaulted. Maybe we should be doing more to stop young men from harassing women rather than trying to cover up the women

Do you honestly think it's ok for her to go out looking like a pervert's wet dream? Why aren't you protecting her from that?

It's 2022 and we're still blaming women for the way they dress. I despair.

@MrsBerthaRochester

This is porn culture at work right here. Young girls feeling they have to dress hyper sexually and pose like blow up sex dolls on social media. This is damaging a generation of children,girls and boys and we seem to be turning a blind eye to it.

I don’t totally agree with this. I wore something like picture 4 in the 80s.

It's a case of compromise, allow short bodycon dresses but not those with cut outs on the front too strappy on the back. Pick your battles or they will simply go behind your back

What is Euphoria? (I'm obviously not a cool mum as have no idea)

Some of the stuff I wore as a kid was close to the line. I think let her experiment now and she'll develop her own style. Hopefully as someone else said 1 wear of the cut out dress and she'll realise how impractical and annoying the holes are.

And if all else fails I love the suggestion upthread that you wear the same thing and see how she reacts!!

@Kak19 I think you are confusing different types of dresses.

The two dresses on the left are more like fetish-wear and definitely not appropriate for a teenager. Also they are horrible.

But the one in the top right is potentially fine - depending on the front view. A pretty, strappy, flippy dress.

And the one bottom right is exactly what I was wearing as a 15 year old. It’s a standard body-con dress. It looks comfortable, easy to wear, age appropriate. I would buy that one for my DD - and explain why the first two are different and not good choices.

[quote AintNoPartyLikeANumber10Party]@Kak19 I think you are confusing different types of dresses.

The two dresses on the left are more like fetish-wear and definitely not appropriate for a teenager. Also they are horrible.

But the one in the top right is potentially fine - depending on the front view. A pretty, strappy, flippy dress.

And the one bottom right is exactly what I was wearing as a 15 year old. It’s a standard body-con dress. It looks comfortable, easy to wear, age appropriate. I would buy that one for my DD - and explain why the first two are different and not good choices.[/quote]
I must just be a prude then cos I really don’t want my 15 year old child dressing in any of those dresses! 18/20 fair enough! 15 no!
😣

@Mumdiva99

What is Euphoria? (I'm obviously not a cool mum as have no idea)

Some of the stuff I wore as a kid was close to the line. I think let her experiment now and she'll develop her own style. Hopefully as someone else said 1 wear of the cut out dress and she'll realise how impractical and annoying the holes are.

And if all else fails I love the suggestion upthread that you wear the same thing and see how she reacts!!

Omg I could never ever even comprehend wearing something like that I’d struggle to fit one leg in! 😂😂😂 lol Euphoria is a programme about teenagers, in high school, that has drug use, drinking, sex, abuse etc etc. a girl constantly copying her friend to steal her boyfriend, like dressing similar to these dresses! There’s a scene with Russian roulette, it’s shocking and unfortunately girls are now looking at this programme and thinking it’s cool and trying to emanate it 🤦🏻‍♀️

15 year olds want to
a) shock and defy their elders and
b) flaunt their bodies.
Always disappoint them - underreact. “That’s nice, dear,”, yawn.
When my DD was a teen, she wore a white micro mini skirt and hand knitted purple dreadlocks - to accompany me to church!
She was taken aback when nobody batted an eye, and one ancient lady came over to our pew and said “Ooh, I wish I was young again, that looks amazing!”
DD sighed, and wore more conventional stuff the following week…

Thanks Kak19. I'll probably see references to it everywhere now. Fortunately my kids aren't quite at this stage yet. My 12 year old still wants pink everything.

Whilst these dresses are utterly hideous at any age - this is part of being a teenager.

I remember my parents being horrified what I wore some 30 years ago. If they tried to stop me I would have just got changed a friends house.

Pick your battles.

the hideous victim blaming crap on this thread like this Do you honestly think it's ok for her to go out looking like a pervert's wet dream? Why aren't you protecting her from that? Is far worse than these dresses.

Lighthearted here but couldn’t you buy her one of them and tell her how amazing it looks and how you’re going to buy one for yourself cause you love it so much?

I'm always surprised by the MNers who say they won't let their teens dress like that. Every teen DD knows dresses like that, DD doesn't often, as she doesn't have the body confidence (and I wish she did have that confidence). They wear them with trainers and hoodies generally, but if parents are refusing to let them, then they are obviously changing somewhere.
I'm not a fan myself, as it just results in them getting hit on by creepy older blokes, most of the kids drink as well, so the combination of both those things worries me.

@ufucoffee

I wouldn't have let my daughter where anything like this when she was that age. If she had wore them by getting changed at a friends house without my knowledge then so be it. But me allowing it would be condoning it and there is no way I would. Tbh I'd have been horrified if she wore anything thing like the bottom no knicker one at any age.

This!

@Dontbeamugallyourlifesucker

I tell my daughter if she wants to wear one of these dresses I will buy one the same (although in 8 sizes bigger) and wear it to drop her off and pick her up.

Lol. Do this. Actually buy you and her both the same dress and say now you can go into town together as BFFs in the same outfit. With slugs on your eyebrows.

@Mumdiva99

What is Euphoria? (I'm obviously not a cool mum as have no idea)

Some of the stuff I wore as a kid was close to the line. I think let her experiment now and she'll develop her own style. Hopefully as someone else said 1 wear of the cut out dress and she'll realise how impractical and annoying the holes are.

And if all else fails I love the suggestion upthread that you wear the same thing and see how she reacts!!

I’ve never seen euphoria but surprised to hear that someone’s never even heard of it at all. It’s very famous at the moment. I mean you could also Google it, but still.

I mean, they are pretty horrible and I would be steering away from the full body slit number, but I think I would probably compromise on the least horrible one. Maybe the one shoulder grey dress? I picked my ds up from a party recently and all of the girls were wearing some mild variation of this look (or fit-flare lycra trousers with bra/crop tops). If all the parents are saying no then how are they all wearing this stuff out?

I remember going out in the middle of winter with my friends, all in tiny skirts and cropped boob tubes or midriff vest tops. My poor dm must have been horrified but she never said anything, although she was known to call out ‘you’ve forgotten your kidney warmers again, girls’ as she dropped us off. I think it was a good attitude as I grew out of freezing to death pretty quickly.

@kanaloa I could Google but i got a really nice answer from the OP with context too. I have honestly never heard of it, never seen anything about it etc etc..... it can't be everywhere because I don't live under a rock and do read some celebrity newspapers, watch chat shows, watch Netflix etc etc....

@fairylightsandwaxmelts
No where in my post did I blame that young woman. What the men did was vile. They should have helped her, not taken advantage of her vulnerability.

Of course women and girls should be able to wear whatever they want without fear in the same way as black people (predominantly men) in the US should be able to go about their daily lives knowing the police are no more likely to kill them than if they were white. Sadly facts and how the world should be do not always match.

Talking to teens about ways to make them less likely to become a target is not the same as victim blaming. It is about assessing risk. Clothing is only one element.

Anyway op has updated. It is for a house party rather than out and about - I had presumed it was the latter. As I said upthread, I would be fine with a 15 yo going out in pic 2 (presuming the chest area is adequately covered) and 4. I also wore a very short skirt at this age.

To be honest I would not push this too far
I think at that age they have the right to wear what they want
Mine certainly did,I just bit my tongue

I find it odd that people say a 15 year old can wear what they want.

@buddylicious do you remember being 15? If your parents said no depending on the personality of your child they will rebel (which is worse).

I had a job at 16 and my mother did not pick my clothes at 15 I think that is odd. It's all about finding the right balance.

This is just the style now

Neither my dd15 or her mates own anything like that to my knowledge. They wear baggy jeans and baggy tops. Baggy anything really.

You can’t be that much of a prude if you’re watching Euphoria with your 15yo! Age rating is 17 😃