AIBU 15 year olds outfit choices

[Kak19]

My 15 year old is wanting to wear very revealing bodycon dresses, that are extremely short, and I don't want her to wear clothes like that yet, she's only 15 and technically not an adult, and I think she's dressing beyond her years the outfits she's looking at are things you would expect to see in a nightclub on a Thursday, Friday or Saturday, not a friends sweet 16.

AIBU I'm not wanting her to wear these?

Thank you

[quote Piggyk2]@buddylicious do you remember being 15? If your parents said no depending on the personality of your child they will rebel (which is worse).

I had a job at 16 and my mother did not pick my clothes at 15 I think that is odd. It's all about finding the right balance.[/quote]

It's one thing letting your 15 year older wear a short skirt etc, but personally I feel a couple of those dresses are totally inappropriate.

Judging by other comments on here I am not the only one who thinks that.

My daughter can wear what she wants when she's older but not at 15 years old!

@MajorCarolDanvers

the hideous victim blaming crap on this thread like this Do you honestly think it's ok for her to go out looking like a pervert's wet dream? Why aren't you protecting her from that? Is far worse than these dresses.

This.

Once louder so people at the back can hear. She can wear what the fuck she likes, she is not responsible how people around her will react.

Wearing a revealing dress doesn’t make her game, or a slag, or asking for anything. She wants to wear a stupidly revealing strappy dress because it’s what she wants to wear. She might buy it try it on and burst out laughing at how ridiculous she looks, she might try it on and think she’s looks amazing and be so confident. She’ll do that WITH mum’s permission or WITHOUT and suddenly it’s her sneaking to a friend’s to get changed or stopping by the park before the party or xyz.

I don’t find it difficult to talk to my DCs about things like this (whether they listen is another matter). I emphasise if something happens to them it’s never their fault. The problem is there are predatory people out there who are on the look out for anything they perceive might be a vulnerability that they could exploit. So it’s not about clothes etc. We talk about examples such as if a kid is routinely getting very drunk then a predator could be thinking about that child’s self esteem, level of parental oversight, what might be going on with that kid at that time which might mean they are distancing themselves from protective sources etc. None of this is the “fault” of the person the predator targets, it’s entirely on them - a decent human being would want to provide support in the face of vulnerability not to look to exploit it. I find framing the conversation in this way means that we can talk about these things without victim blaming and I can also challenge statements that the DCs might say which I think have an undercurrent of blame.

The top right (as long as front is not revealing) and the bottom right aren't that bad, to wear to a teen friends party.

The other two absolutely not.

To parents saying you can't stop your 15 year old wearing what they want .... Should I let my daughter wear this to her prom?