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Did you take your mum wedding dress shopping?

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JammyCandy · 27/02/2022 14:16

….Assuming you get on with her and that she was physically able to participate in wedding dress shopping.

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LottyD32 · 27/02/2022 14:16

Yes. Sidng buy one that day though, I designed my own and had it made in the end.

LottyD32 · 27/02/2022 14:17

*didn't 🙄

Turtles4543 · 27/02/2022 14:17

Yes she loved all of that

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DownWhichOfLate · 27/02/2022 14:19

Yes. It was actually just me and my mum. But I went back a second time with one of my bridesmaids to make a final decision.

CMOTDibbler · 27/02/2022 14:19

We went to a couple of places together, but tbh she didn't really enjoy it. I found my dress shopping with a friend

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JammyCandy · 27/02/2022 14:22

I took mine but she wasn’t there the day I found “the one”

My mum *loved” it & it meant the world to her

My friend’s not invited her mum (who lives locally & they get on well) and was a bit Confused when I asked her

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Concestor · 27/02/2022 14:23

Yes I did.

CornishGem1975 · 27/02/2022 14:23

Yes, well, I took her to see what I had chosen before I bought it.

AnneLovesGilbert · 27/02/2022 14:24

I did for my first wedding. Second time I ordered a bunch of stuff from debos and picked one with DH.

Badgerstmary · 27/02/2022 14:24

Yes. I can’t imagine looking without her.

MangoLipstick · 27/02/2022 14:26

Yes. It was a lovely day. I tried on about 7 dresses ( I even humoured my dm and tried on a big puffy one that she liked!) then we went for lunch afterwards.
I didn’t love any of the dresses though, ended up falling in love with one online from a boutique in US and had it made to order.

Original poster
JammyCandy · 27/02/2022 14:26

I thought taking your mum was a “thing” but my friend seemed really confused as to why she would take her mum!! Even though they get on well

So I wondered if it was just me !

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Wnkingawalrus · 27/02/2022 14:30

No, not just you. It was the one aspect of my wedding that my Mum insisted on paying for so in her mind she needed to be there with the credit card! I was fine with that.

CraftyGin · 27/02/2022 14:32

@JammyCandy

….Assuming you get on with her and that she was physically able to participate in wedding dress shopping.
Yes
AlwaysLatte · 27/02/2022 14:32

Yes of course!

OldChinaJug · 27/02/2022 14:39

No. Didn't even occur to me to do so.

hauntedbillybass · 27/02/2022 14:41

No, she would have driven me mad.

She's a nice person, but we're very different, don't have the closest of relationships, and if I'd have invited her it would have ended in an argument.

She would have wanted me to try on dresses that I did not want, and would have complained at my choices. Then likely would have cried that I wouldn't do what she wanted, and that I hadn't chosen what she'd "pictured" for me.

She wasn't a fan of my chosen dress, and on showing her my dress she started sending me links to other dresses that she thought were nicer.

NameChangeCity123 · 27/02/2022 14:48

Yes and it was honestly one of my favourite days. I could tell how much it meant to my mum and it was so lovely to have her there. I just took my mum, no bridesmaids. She cried when I put the veil on top of the dress I ended up buying and it was honestly one of the best moments ever. If I ever have a daughter, I hope I can have that too

furmumma · 27/02/2022 14:49

Yup, I took my Mum & Sister (well they took me as I had surgery and couldn't drive) but I'd fallen in love with a dress online so had it put aside. I only tried that dress on and everyone agreed it was perfect for me.

Shiningpath · 27/02/2022 14:51

No, I didn’t and I really regret it because it hurt my mum’s feelings enormously (even though I ordered online and there wasn’t any shopping trip as such). On the other hand, if we’d had a difference of opinion it could have been a less than pleasant day out so… 🤷🏼‍♀️

tiggergoesbounce · 27/02/2022 14:56

Yes, i have great memories of us shopping, she was always great at that sort of thing, keeping me focused 🤣 and giving me a very honest opinion.

She was amazing at helping with every aspect of our wedding, she would have given any wedding planner a run for their money 🥰

Greydog · 27/02/2022 15:01

Yes, the first time I got married. She more or less chose the dress, I didn't much like it, but she was paying. Second time round I went by myself, then with a friend and got a lovely dress (mother didn't like it - but it could have been worse - I'd almost decided on a black velvet dress!)

Pinkchicken85 · 27/02/2022 15:03

Yes. The first appointment was awful, she bought me to a cheap dress shop and said to my sister in earshot. “She’d look better if she lost some weight” ouch.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 27/02/2022 15:06

Reg office wedding aeons ago, and no. I made one, painstakingly by hand - no machine - long and v pretty in a floral material but not ‘white wedding’, exact copy of one I’d seen in a bridal mag.

My mother said it looked like an old fashioned nightie, so that was the end of that.

I did find a lovely one when not even specifically looking, while shopping with a friend, though. TBH it was more flattering. My GM who died not long afterwards said, ‘You couldn’t have found a prettier dress.’

The dress I made did have its moment of glory though. We were working in the Middle East not long after the wedding, and someone I knew came to see me in a panic because she’d been invited with her dh to a big do with the Sultan and sundry other royals, and possessed nothing suitable, I.e. long and with sleeves.🙂

Foxyloxy1plus1 · 27/02/2022 15:10

Yea, I went with my daughter and it was wonderful, although she chose something different in the end.

I was very fortunate to be invited to go with my DiL and her bridesmaids. I treasure the memory of those days.

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