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Did you take your mum wedding dress shopping?

108 replies

JammyCandy · 27/02/2022 14:16

….Assuming you get on with her and that she was physically able to participate in wedding dress shopping.

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JaninaDuszejko · 27/02/2022 16:29

I think it's normal for your Mum to come, it certainly would have been in the days when parents paid for everything. My Mum didn't come with me because she lived at the opposite end of the country and it would have cost her a fortune to fly down but I still think it's a shame she wasn't able to come, I would have liked her to be there.

Pl242 · 27/02/2022 16:29

Yes. Definitely a thing. Though obviously doesn’t make it compulsory.

I took my DM. Went and looked at dresses over a couple of days while she was visiting. She was paying, would have been incredibly hurt if I’d gone without her and it was a nice thing for us to do together.

I found two dresses that I really liked. Went back to see both a couple of weeks later with my two bridesmaids and made a final decision then.

DramaAlpaca · 27/02/2022 16:32

Yes. It was just the two of us.

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BeeDavis · 27/02/2022 16:37

I took my mum, MIL and my sister

Nelliephant1 · 27/02/2022 16:43

My mother took me for my dress. I wanted to get married a year or two later as I was still very young but she insisted that I didn't wait so it was more her wedding than mine in many ways 😏

Bromse · 27/02/2022 16:47

I did, she paid for it.

TenoringBehind · 27/02/2022 16:49

In the scenario you describe I probably would have done.

I didn’t get on with mine and it would never have crossed my mind to take her. She would have told me that I looked fat and ugly in everything. I tried on, because that’s what she did.

36degrees · 27/02/2022 16:59

No but we live in different countries and she didn't want to make a trip specially, and I wanted to buy local for alterations and having heard horror stories about bridal places going bust I wanted it to be somewhere I could get to or take through small claims locally etc if it all went tits up.

MissMarplesGoddaughter · 27/02/2022 17:00

I went wedding dress shopping with DD and it was one of most special days in my life.......... :)

RosesAndHellebores · 27/02/2022 17:01

Yes but over 30 years ago now. We don't have the best relationship but she is much better at clothes than me and far more extravagant.

I had a fitting booked at Harrods where I tried on about 12 dresses. Paradoxically the two best were the most expensive and the cheapest. £3.5k and £700 - felt fab in both, slightly more at ease in the cheaper one. She'd have happily gee'd me up to have the £3.5k one. We also went to Droopy and Brown and it came down to a choice between a Cornelli embroidered satin one with no other embellishments at all but a small train and a silk princess line off the shoulder floor length dress with a short fitted lace jacket which was beautiful - £1250 all in. Both worked well with the short veil I wanted.

It was a difficult decision which we made over a glass of champagne then tried the Harrods one on again. It was a summer wedding and the jacket was to cover my shoulders in church. It was the right call as my wedding day hit 90° and I'd have sweltered with the jacket on.

On the way put we spied a beautiful Benny Ong dress and coat which she tried on and bought.

Going through the agonies of being mother of the groom at present. Makes note to check out Harrods Bridal floor for my outfit!

MsSquiz · 27/02/2022 17:03

I took my mum and SIL (maid of honour) because I trusted them to be honest with their opinions. We went to 1 shop and then 1 appointment with the designer where I tried on a few similar before designing my dress.

Looking back now, I'm really glad I did because my mum died 3 months before our wedding, but she got to see me have "that moment" trying on dresses (as well as a video of me in the final dress)

TopTabby · 27/02/2022 17:07

I took my dear best friend who was brilliant & shed a few tears when we found the one. It was a brilliant day.

I couldn't have gone with dm. She had very little interest in the wedding & has never seen the point of any fuss whatsoever.

HelloBunny · 27/02/2022 17:08

Me & mum were browsing in a boutique, when out for lunch, and we found my wedding dress. The thumbs up from her was vey important to me!

DeathByMascara · 27/02/2022 17:12

I took both my mum and MIL - DH has only one brother & she wasn't involved in his wedding, so I thought it would be nice for her. And it was a lovely day out, found 'the dress' that day and took my bridesmaids back with my mum to make sure. Wouldn't have dreamt of having it any other way, I'm very close to my mum and value her opinion.

Calennig · 27/02/2022 17:12

No-one wanted to do this with me not even DM- we did live some distance away but then but I did suggest traveling back and at least looking - but no. We -DH and I - paid for whole wedding ourselves anyway.

I did get a bit upset with that, not that anyone knew, especially when IL and I then spend fair bit of time with DH finding DH outfit.

I got something that was fine - wasn't a wedding dress and was worn on other occasions for many years - very practial with bit of support I'd have probably been less practical and got something I loved.

Told my DC I'd love to do this with them but if they don't want me that's fine as well (DD1 went through phase of watching yes to the dress) - could see DD1 if she ever gets near a wedding making her own.

SockQueen · 27/02/2022 17:13

Yes, I took her on one dress shopping trip. Took two of my bridesmaids on another one. Actually chose it on my own on a different day. We all lived quite far apart from each other so it wasn't practical to get everyone together at once, but it was nice to have the experience with them all!

Lanawashington · 27/02/2022 17:17

Yes and I wish I didn’t! She kept telling me how awful I looked, and kept pointing out why each dress didn’t suit me. At one point she told me one of them highlighted how fat I am. Funnily enough I didn’t take her againHmm

daisypond · 27/02/2022 17:20

No. It didn’t occur to me. I just bought it on my own.

ApolloandDaphne · 27/02/2022 17:23

Absolutely. It was just me and her. We had a budget and I blew it but she agreed it was the perfect dress. She was paying so it was important to us both that we were in complete agreement. Would nit change a thing even though it was an 80's meringue. It was my dream dress.

TheFallenMadonna · 27/02/2022 17:25

My mum made my wedding dress. I went and bought the fabric with her and my sister.

Ginger1982 · 27/02/2022 17:32

Yes, but I knew the exact dress I wanted and the shop that stocked it, so we were in and out in less than an hour 😂

fairylightsandwaxmelts · 27/02/2022 17:34

Yes, as she was paying for my dress.

We made a day of it - shopping, lunch etc. It was really nice. I had to get my dress altered in the end as it was a bit big but I'm really glad I took her. I'm her only child too so I think she was glad to come along!

HeadNorth · 27/02/2022 17:35

My mum made my wedding dress - but she went shopping with me for shoes Smile

moanyhole · 27/02/2022 17:36

No. I wasn't shopping at all for the dress but saw an ex hire in a window for 100 pounds. Loved it and bought it. Showed it to my mother, she was delighted with it. Didnt occur to me that she might be put out and I don't think it occurred to her to be put out!

Wowcherarestalkingme · 27/02/2022 17:36

I invited her and my MIL to be and my bridesmaids to a wedding fair so they saw me try some on. But I went to an appointment to pick a dress with just my bridesmaids. DM lived a fair few hours away. She came up for the next and final fitting though just wasn’t there when I actually chose the dress.