Too soon?

[BR96]

Hi all,

I am 25 and my partner is 29. We have only been together a little over 3 months but I feel like I've known him forever!! We are constantly laughing and having the best times with only 2/3 arguments.

I have recently just found out I am pregnant, I am around 5 weeks and him and all of our close family members are over the moon. I am also excited but for some reason I have began having a few doubts and I am feeling so guilty for having these thoughts.

is it too soon to have a baby with someone after such a short amount of time? what if I regret my decision of having the baby now and wish I just waited until I was a little bit older? am I a bad person for thinking this?

my mind is doing overtime!!

@ladydimitrescu

3 arguments where you needed to be in separate rooms in the space of 3 months is a lot. That itself is a red flag you aren't built to last. I think if you're prepared to be a single parent then go for it, but you cannot rely on happy ever after, after 12 weeks of a relationship.

see I really disagree with this.

When we argue, we will often finish by chosing to go in separate rooms, we do this because we want to stop arguing, but we need time to cool off.

Cool off for a bit, then make a cup of tea and talk through the argument.

And, as I said upthread, dh and I argued more when we first got together than later, as we misunderstood each other.

I teach my kids when they are mad to choose to take some time out to cool off and then come back and resolve the issue.

There really is some nonsense being talked about on this thread with regard to arguments.

Much more important was what happened when you talked it through. If you remained with an'agree to differ' which isn't great, as too many of those is a killer in the end. Or did you work out why you were arguing and resolve it?

@ParentalGuidances

Those saying OP should terminate - bit harsh

No one is trying to compel her to terminate her pregnancy. I simply said above that I wouldn’t hesitate to terminate in her situation — an accidental pregnancy in a very new relationship with the OP having doubts about whether this is the right time to have a child.

You found out at 3 weeks but the pregnancy wasn't planned

@christmaskittenincoming

You found out at 3 weeks but the pregnancy wasn't planned

Yes, I found out when at my implant appointment.

No one is trying to compel her to terminate her pregnancy. I simply said above that I wouldn’t hesitate to terminate in her situation — an accidental pregnancy in a very new relationship with the OP having doubts about whether this is the right time to have a child.
BR96 asked for our opinions, and the above is one I share. However Op has said she doesn't think she can contemplate a termination. Personally it is an option that I think needs exploration by her and her DP.

I can’t keep up and reply to all of those with really helpful advice! So thank you all that have posted but I won’t be replying to this onwards!

Thanks everyone.