Would you turn back time?

[Hannah8514]

If you could, would you turn back time and if so, to when and why?

Yes

Yes, 2013-4-5.
Everything going smoothly with DH, and before he was diagnosed with cancer.
I probably couldn't change anything, but I just miss him.

On balance, I wouldn't. I love my little family and there are some things I may like to have been different in my life, but everything I've been through and experienced has resulted in how things are right now and nothing would be worth risking losing that for.

Yes, I’d turn it back to just after Christmas and frogmarch my stubborn mother to the doctor about her cough, fatigue and breathlessness rather than letting her brush it off as “a cold”; she might not have died on the 31st of January if they’d picked up on her cardiac problems (diagnosed via post mortem) that she wouldn’t seek medical attention for.

Yes, I’d go back 14 years, to when my kids were babies.

I probably wouldn’t leave their father either. Although it felt like the right thing to do at the time, the grass isn’t alway greener.

I would love to go back to the 80s. Best decade by far

Yes. Even if it was only a month or 2. Then I could tell my friend how I felt about him before he died. We were on the cusp of a relationship but both dithered, we thought we had all the time in the world.

Yes. I really regret many aspects of my life- career path and when I had my kids and to who.

God yes, without a moment's hesitation. To when I was 19 and I'd walk away from the man who was to become my abusive husband and ruined my life.

I'd turn time back to 2018. I'd stop all contact with my husband rather than go through all the mind games. The lies and hurt it's caused.

Definitely Definitely Definitely I would, back to the point where I decided not to ask Gran could I move in with her, age 17. Wish I had, so much.

Yes, to September 2009, to the last time I saw my brother alive. I’d tell him not to get in the car.

Now I have my children no. Before the children if I never knew about them I'd go back to my early 20s. Find someone who actually deserves me, who is fit and who I have something in common with.

I'd go back and try to find myself a good life.

Yes

Absolutely. My oh died by suicide a few months ago. I had no idea he was feeling so low. If I had one wish, it would be to go back in time to the night before and find a way to stop him

Yes, I’d like to go back to 2005 when I was a size 8-10

Yes. To before my DH died. To 1st March 2008. I went to see him and went home. I should have stayed another hour to be there when he went. In fact I would go back further, to before he became unconscious. I could tell him all the things I should have done.☹

If I could turn back time, there would be 2 times of my life I'd revisit:

I'd go back to 2015/2016 when my kids were toddlers/babies, my elderly relatives (parents, aunts, uncles) were either still here or in better health. It was such a lovely time, especially compared with now.

I'd go back a few years and arrange that coffee catch up with an old school friend. We never got round to it and she sadly passed away over a year ago

Yes, to 1989 and I'd stop myself from breaking up with the only man I've ever loved. I'd also tell my darling dad to get his stomach problems checked out properly and not keep getting fobbed off my the GP, then he might still be alive now.

@Chasingsquirrels

Yes, 2013-4-5. Everything going smoothly with DH, and before he was diagnosed with cancer. I probably couldn't change anything, but I just miss him.

Truly don't know. I'd make different decisions but still fuck up as much --- just in different ways. So can't see the point.

@ForgedInFire

Absolutely. My oh died by suicide a few months ago. I had no idea he was feeling so low. If I had one wish, it would be to go back in time to the night before and find a way to stop him

I'd go back to before my mum did the same and try to stop her

Actually no, I wouldn't. As much as I would give almost anything to have my mum back, to have her of seen me get married, to meet my daughter to be part of all the wonderful, painful and everything in between things that have happened since I was 21. Im not sure I would have had all those things if it had turned out differently that day. Would I have ended up as resilient as I am now? Would I have made the same choices to get married young? Would I have had to work so hard to buy a house and develop a career?

Who knows. I think we all have nostalgic moments when we think about a particular point in time and the ways it could have been different but your life is the sum of all the parts good, bad and ugly.

Yes, to early 2020, to before DH was diagnosed with cancer, he has fought so hard and been failed by so many.

Yes. 30 years back. I'd make so many different choices.