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Would you turn back time?

103 replies

Hannah8514 · 21/02/2022 22:04

If you could, would you turn back time and if so, to when and why?

OP posts:
HazelBite · 21/02/2022 23:12

Easter Sunday 2019, it was such a lovely hot day and we got out a paddling pool for the DG's, such a lovely relaxed day in the garden, we all had fun and a picnic lunch, it was the last lovely day with them both before they were taken so traumatically in September of that year.
(Since then life has been such a struggle, their parents haven't coped and separated last year) I wish I could go back to that happy day

ForgedInFire · 21/02/2022 23:16

Sending you love. It is a very hard loss xx

ForgedInFire · 21/02/2022 23:18

Not sure why that didnt work but I meant to quote @HalfShrunkMoreToGo

LtMoose · 21/02/2022 23:21

@SassenachWitch not the point of the thread, but why did you leave and why do you regret it?

grapewine · 21/02/2022 23:24

Back to the 90s. I need a do-over.

Dammitthisisshit · 21/02/2022 23:33

So many sad stories Flowers to you all.

Me? Yes. 30 years back. But would I get to keep my brain now, my knowledge? Otherwise I’d make the same choices all again. Even if that was the case I’d do it all again happily though. Looking back there were a lot of things I should have done differently but overall even with the bad I’ve had a lot of good parts and would take that ticket to do it all again in a heartbeat.

Iamthewombat · 21/02/2022 23:34

Not permanently or to make different choices, but I’d drop into the early nineties for some joyful, uncomplicated, consequence free nights out. I wasn’t worrying about two-day hangovers or getting through my to do list or how to get my mother to agree to a lasting power of attorney then, I can tell you.

OneSwallow · 21/02/2022 23:34

Yes. I would wind back to age 15 and do everything differently.

MichelleScarn · 21/02/2022 23:37

@HazelBite

Easter Sunday 2019, it was such a lovely hot day and we got out a paddling pool for the DG's, such a lovely relaxed day in the garden, we all had fun and a picnic lunch, it was the last lovely day with them both before they were taken so traumatically in September of that year. (Since then life has been such a struggle, their parents haven't coped and separated last year) I wish I could go back to that happy day
Oh @HazelBite am so sorry for whatever happened Flowers
Nat6999 · 21/02/2022 23:38

Yes, either to back to before 1973 when me, my brother & parents lived in our old terraced house in a yard of 4 houses where my mum's best friend lived 2 doors away. That yard was my world, my mum's best friend was like another mum to me, I had security & love. Nothing bad ever happened to me there I knew I would see my grandparents on a Tuesday & Friday night, everybody in the block looked out for me as me & my brother were the only children, we had lots of Aunties & Uncles who were our neighbours & friends. We were safe & loved.

Or back to when I met my late dp so that I could change things & stop him becoming an alcoholic, we were so happy for the first couple of years, if I hadn't lost our daughter I always like to think things would have been different.

ComtesseDeSpair · 21/02/2022 23:38

No. Different choices would make me a totally different me with a totally different life. Different doesn’t necessarily mean better. On balance I’m really happy with how my life has turned out, even if it may not be how I might have imagined it would. In many ways it couldn’t be any better, in enjoyment sense, but it could very definitely be much worse.

OneSwallow · 21/02/2022 23:46

Or possibly to 2006 which was the last really happy year for our family before a whole series of traumatic and difficult events ensued. I had no idea life was going to completely flip.

SheldonesqueTheBstard · 21/02/2022 23:50

Yes. Back to about 14 I think.

QueenOfHiraeth · 21/02/2022 23:54

@Wincarnis

Yes, I’d like to go back to 2005 when I was a size 8-10
So many sad stories on here and you are posting about your size?
SleepingStandingUp · 21/02/2022 23:58

I'm theory yes. I wouldn't go out on a certain night and see where that led me. But then I think lots in life was building up to that moment. If it hadn't happened then, with friends around me who would understand, would it just have happened a few weeks later when was alone....

Sunnytwobridges · 22/02/2022 00:17

Most definitely. All the way back to 1991/1992 - would've followed my heart and taken a chance with my first love, instead of pushing him away.

CPL593H · 22/02/2022 00:28

No. No point to it. In the words of the great Joe Strummer, 'the future is unwritten'. The past is written, it can never be changed (although how we view it can be) and the need is to move forward.

PrettyBluebells · 22/02/2022 01:01

I'd h go o back to the start, 1967. I've had a great life, I'd love to live it again. I'd make a few notable changes but on the whole it'd be the same.

Namechange466 · 22/02/2022 01:16

i don’t think so because of my daughter. yes i’ve made lots of mistakes and have some regrets but i guess that all leads to my DH and my DD.

@QueenOfHiraeth - everyone’s reason is valid, OP didn’t ask for only sad reasons. not sure you should judge?

me4real · 22/02/2022 01:33

No, as I've never been better with my mental health and probably never been much better with my energy levels etc either. Maybe go back knowing all I know now, and still having my meds. :) Youth is wasted on the young.

Coffeencrochet · 22/02/2022 01:37

I would go back to 2012/2013 but with the mindset I have today - being able to say no and not being such a wetwipe when it came to listening to my parents. There are aspects of my life today that I adore (DC) but I've gone through way too much in between and I would love to erase it all.

MunchyMonsters · 22/02/2022 01:48

No, happy with how things have turned out.

If pushed I'd probably go back to 1991 and buy a flat/house - but then my DC wouldn't have gone to the school they went to.

Regrets are pointless.

Pangolin44 · 22/02/2022 02:15

No. I like my life. The life of everyone around me has been similarly good. That's not to say they've ways been perfect, but they've been pretty good up until now. We're all quite happy and satisfied.

I know that all happy or unhappy lives end the same way. We've had minor tragedy in our family, many minor tragedy, but death, as long as is isn't completely untimely isn't the worst thing that can happen.

I have a large family and we all like each other, and we've all done ok. We're all honest and open.

I wouldn't change us or me or anything.

Pangolin44 · 22/02/2022 02:30

I will say, I was always taught to live honestly and without shame.

I was raped when I was 19, and I knew that shame was his and not mine. I told everyone. He was ostracised. It was the early 90s so I didn't go to the police as date-rape wasn't taken very seriously then, but I knew the shame and blame weren't mine.

I was also brought up to accept when I had been a bit of an arse.

I have four siblings, we're all very different, but we get on, we speak. My two sisters are pretty much my favourite people.

Snugglepumpkin · 22/02/2022 02:53

I would turn back time to a couple of weeks ago & stop my stupid sister visiting my parents & giving them Covid.

Due to complications my father is now dying as he wasn't well enough recovered from his lung surgery & he got an infection in his lungs that is not responding to any treatment.

By this weekend he will be dead if he even makes it through tonight & all she cares about is that she wants to see him (because she wants him to forgive her for giving him Covid, not because she actually cares about anything else like the fact he's dying because of it) so she's drama queening around the place actually screaming at my poor (still sick with Covid & about to become a widow) mother because what she doesn't know is that my dad DOES blame her so if she sees him (he doesn't want to see her) he won't be forgiving her for anything.

So, he's dying, so close to dying they have said anyone can visit him any time day or night & she's making it all about her & I desperately wish I could turn back time.

My parents have spent 2 years isolating & only leaving the house to attend hospital visits, both unable to have vaccines for medical reasons, but my bitch of a sister thinks she can't survive unless she's out every night or shopping in London & that she doesn't need to be responsible for her actions & she's fine because she has had her vaccinations so my dad is dying & she's making it worse for everyone.
She's out drinking & telling the world how my mother is trying to stop her seeing 'her dad' because it's all about her.

If I could turn back time, I'd not only have a dad next week, but a sister I wasn't furious at.
How do you forgive someone for that?
Or for acting the way she is now?