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To tell him I want to end it over this?

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WindyHail · 19/02/2022 13:58

Single parent to 4 year old work 30 hours a week chronic health issues seeing someone who earns a lot more than me. He has no kids I want to end it as I have no time and no money to do anything with him

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Knittedfairies · 19/02/2022 13:59

You can end it for whatever reason.

Etinoxaurus · 19/02/2022 13:59

Of course you can. Text him just that.

MalbecandToast · 19/02/2022 14:00

Of course you can end it if you want to?! Confused

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WindyHail · 19/02/2022 14:00

I can't keep up I'm to exhausted to do anything and I'm having to take extra hours

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Ilikewinter · 19/02/2022 14:01

Ok so end it then.

AllThatFancyPaintsAsFair · 19/02/2022 14:01

Of course, is he trying to control you in some way?

FilledSoda · 19/02/2022 14:02

You're in charge of yourself you know.

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WindyHail · 19/02/2022 14:05

No he's lovely but I so stressed trying to fit everything in

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TracyMosby · 19/02/2022 14:10

You can end a relationship for any reason.

PinkArt · 19/02/2022 14:12

As other have said, you can end it for any reason you like. Do you still like him though, and does he still like you? If so can you have an honest conversation with him about this and see if there's a solution - do stuff together that doesn't cost, or near to your house to reduce travel time etc. If I was the guy in this situation I'd probably suggest things like me coming over to yours with a take away after you've put the 4 year old to bed, as I'd want to see you but also help make life easier at the same time.

Skiptheheartsandflowers · 19/02/2022 14:14

I take it you're splitting costs of doing anything 50/50? Have you ever said to him 'I can't afford this, we'll need to do something cheaper'?

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WindyHail · 19/02/2022 14:16

He pays for most things but I like to pay my way too

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Luredbyapomegranate · 19/02/2022 14:17

You can end it if you want.

But if he’s lovely, why don’t you talk to him about it. Talking it through might help you find other solutions, it would be a pity to dump him for only practical reasons.

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WindyHail · 19/02/2022 14:24

I'm embarrassed I'm a poor single mum

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RobertaFirmino · 19/02/2022 14:34

@WindyHail

I'm embarrassed I'm a poor single mum
Please don't be. Your BF clearly doesn't mind. If he did, he'd have ended things wouldn't he?

Have you tried telling him how you feel?

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WindyHail · 19/02/2022 14:35

No I don't want to tell him

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AladdinPrincess999 · 19/02/2022 14:36

Why don't you just have an adult conversation with him? He might not care about you earning less/not being able to afford to go out. He is offering to pay to fix your car (In your other thread) so he is clearly generous.

Also, if you really wanted to see him, you'd find the time but it sounds like you don't- which is okay too.

Wishihadanalgorithm · 19/02/2022 14:54

OP, why have things come to a head now? Could you maybe elaborate on what is so overwhelming? The hive mind might be able to offer some useful advice.

It sounds to me like you are worn down and need a bit of TLC. It also sounds like you want to stay in the relationship. As PP said, talk to him before making any decision.

GirlOfTudor · 19/02/2022 15:04

If you liked him enough, you'd find the time, energy, etc. If you can't find those things, then he's not the one and you'll find someone who you see as being worth the effort.

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WindyHail · 19/02/2022 15:06

@GirlOfTudor

If you liked him enough, you'd find the time, energy, etc. If you can't find those things, then he's not the one and you'll find someone who you see as being worth the effort.
Totally not true or relevant but on you go love
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Original poster
WindyHail · 19/02/2022 15:07

I've got so much to do everyday that's the issue I don't have time or energy

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newbiename · 19/02/2022 15:08

@WindyHail

I'm embarrassed I'm a poor single mum
Don't be Thanks
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WindyHail · 19/02/2022 15:09

Well I am embarrassed. I can't afford to make ends meet most months and I work in a good job. I'm always run down with sre throats and exhaustion

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christmaskittenincoming · 19/02/2022 15:12

Would agree end things, you may find in a few years you have more time, energy, money to date.

WonderfulYou · 19/02/2022 15:18

Just text him saying that “you really like him and he’s a lovely guy but you are ending things as you do not want a relationship with anyone right now”