Things you're sad you'll never do again.

[BlueBloodedBlue]

For me it's horse riding. Haven't actually ridden in years but I used to love it and always thought I'd go back to it.

Now too old and scared of falling and it makes me really sad

Anyone else?

@MyNameIsAngelicaSchuyler

Fall in love

This is a good one.

Im in love, been happily with my DH half my life (since my teens) but I do sometime remanice about the hectic wirlwind intense love you get in the first few weeks/months of dating someone and discovering who they are - the honeymoon phase is so short lived overall.

That said though I also wouldnt give a bucket of piss to jump back into the dating game again.

Often I think I need to have a seance because I really have to tell dm or df something - eg when my cousin acquired a Thai Bride….

Not ‘again’ - but ever. I’m sad I’ll never have the experience of finding a life partner and being someone’s wife. I know that’s not a very popular viewpoint on MN but I can’t help my romantic side…

Some people are being so dismissive of some peoples 'I will never do it again' comments!

'WHY would you want to be thin?'

'WHY can't you go clubbing til 3am, with a bunch of friends just coz you're 50+?'

Peoples reasons and suggestions are just as valid as others. Why are people dismissing them and questioning them?!

For me, it's missing the pub-crawling days with 9 or 10 mates from 7pm til midnight every Friday (after a week at work.) And also the lovely day trips with my 2 kids doing all the fun things I did as a kid. They're grown now and it never happens now. Maybe one day it will happen again........ with grandchildren (if my DC have children...)

I also miss MY childhood Christmasses.... So many wonderful, magical, happy memories. Christmas is just a bit flat now as an adult, and with no school age children.

I've just had a baby and I have to say at the moment I'm very sad I will never be pregnant or experience that first cuddle again, trying to make the most of every single Moment this time

Give birth again.

I’m so lucky I have all the DCs I want and zero desire for more children, but to experience the power of squeezing a brand new life out of my very own unassuming vagina once more would be awesome.

Have DH help me with stuff round the house
Say thank you to DH for making me my morning hot drink in my travel mug, or when he’d make me a drink because I looked like I could do with one….

Dh is now very ill/disabled and he’s quite young for his illness… sigh

Cross country skiing. I've had a broken ankle and a broken wrist from slipping on ice (not whilst skiing) and 'at my age' I'm too afraid of another fracture to take the chance of a tumble skiing and breaking a hip.

So many things. I worked so hard all my life. Looked forward to retiring. Then a month after I retired my son died, I got very ill, now have chronic pain and mobility problems. I try not to dwell on it all, but it is hard sometimes. DH sometimes suggests things he would like to do and I have to remind him that I can't manage now. Like walking, cycling, going up hills and steps. Simple things.

Belly laugh with friends sitting in a cool car at the beach eating chips during an extended lunch break from work on a Friday afternoon after just finding out that the guy I’ve fancied for ages actually likes me back a little bit.

Very specific and will never be repeated !

Get pregnant
Fall in love
Go somewhere exotic on holiday

Feeling my baby moving inside me
Meeting my newborn
Being on maternity leave!
Feeling genuinely attractive

@DottyHarmer

Often I think I need to have a seance because I really have to tell dm or df something - eg when my cousin acquired a Thai Bride….

If you believe you could contact them via a seance then trust that they already know about the Thai Bride. And are thinking everything you know they'd think

Have sex with my ex husband. There was a lot wrong with the marriage but the sex was gorgeous.

@DottyHarmer I can imagine that piece of news is literally burning within ! I’m sad that you haven’t got them to tell too x

I will never again hear the muezzin's mournful cry at dawn over the sands at Malindi after being up all night stoned and while making love in the waves.

(Reader, I married the person I shared that experience with so long, long, ago. And, yes, we are still in love.)

@Somuddled

I'm sad that I'll never be small enough to be carried by my parents. I still remember what it felt like. Wonderful.

Oh I remember this too! It's not that I want to be a child, it's just...something. Sitting on your parents' laps and that being the whole world.

What about carriage driving, @BlueBloodedBlue ?

I will never again receive a hug and an effusive and enthusiastic greeting from my Dad whenever I visit my parents' house to see my mother. He died last year and we all miss him so much.

I had the same thought about horse riding op, but I'm going to go for a walking hack just to be on a horse. The queen rides (I keep telling myself this!!) I will miss running and ice skating though, my knees are in bits (I'm 41 with arthritis)

Have a baby. (Didn’t know I was only having one!) I don’t want another child, but I’d like to do the baby years again.
Dance with a partner. (I don’t want an actual partner, though!)
Wake up because I have had enough sleep (I will concede there is a theoretical possibility of this. But it seems so theoretical as to be unattainable)

Be a hostess. (I can’t do it alone, it’s too much for one person, no matter how much you prep in advance. I’m always the guest, now.)
Decide to do a thing. Do it. Enjoy having done the thing. Everything is so freaking complicated now, with a gazillion consequences that must be weighed and considered to find the least-worst-option before you make any decision.

A bear hug from my husband (he died much too young)
Feel truely hot again (not in a peri menopausal way)
Feel my children’s tiny hands in mine walking them to school and seeing my son spontaneously skip with happiness. They’re teenagers now, no skipping allowed.

A lot of knees mentioned in this thread.
It's the piece of advice I'll be passing onto the younger generation, be gentle on your knees! 👵

Go for very long walks in the forest with my dog and best dog walking friend, we used to walk miles and had many adventures! Sadly my friend died a month ago and unfortunately prior to this we were both too immobile to walk far, hence when our last dogs died they were not replaced. 😢

Go and have a soup lunch with my Mum. 💔

The excitement and variety of sex with new partners.

The edge is taken off that one by the benefits of a secure LTR.