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I 100% recognise someone on here....

129 replies

Nolagerformethanks · 14/02/2022 19:24

.... would you tell them? Old colleague, absolutely 100% is her, she has described her family very specifically in a recent thread. I have searched her posting history and other things she's posted mean it has to be her. What would you do? Not acknowledge? Say on here they best change username? Message them IRL and tell them? We speak about once a month and live in the same town.

OP posts:
Fink · 14/02/2022 21:09

I recognised a friend once, but she only posted in things like radio & TV discussions & nothing personal so I've never bothered mentioning it. I think if it had been sensitive information I might have said something IRL.

WonderfulYou · 14/02/2022 21:10

I always think I know people but many people change slight details so I can never be sure.

If I was definite that I knew who they were and I was worried that they didn’t want anyone knowing then I personally would message them on here and let them know.

There are many threads where women are in quite dangerous or controlling situations and if it got out that they were seeking help on here then things could get really bad for them.

LaChanticleer · 14/02/2022 21:11

Not acknowledge it. You sound like a stalker!

This.

A friend practically stalked me on here, and emailed me with her theories about which poster was me (all incorrect). I must say, I distanced myself from her after that.

nildesparandum · 14/02/2022 21:11

I got recognised on here a few years ago.The person who outed me could not keep her mouth shut and caused long lasting permanent damage in my family.I hope she is sweating now if she is reading this.
I name changed afterwards of course but it was a cruel awaking.

3luckystars · 14/02/2022 21:11

It’s bound to happen. There are only 44 people on here and it’s a small world.

Gnomechange · 14/02/2022 21:15

Well I have after two years of heavy use changed my name!

SapphireSeptember · 14/02/2022 21:15

My mum's on here, she spotted me on a thread in 2014, when we were asked to list five things that made us happy. Grin I've just realised I've never changed my name either, so I'm a pretty easy target if someone nasty twigged who I am!

IWantChocolates · 14/02/2022 21:15

I was once told off by someone who messaged me on here under a name change, saying I would be easily recognised by my friends and to be careful what I said. They said they'd "followed" me across a few threads and wouldn't tell me which username they'd posted under on those threads (coward). And they said I didn't know them in real life. It really shook me up as I was mentally in a bad place anyway - depressed and heavily pregnant with a depressed husband and little support from friends/family.

And if you recognise yourself in this - I haven't forgotten, even several years on, and was actually very upset by your words and your decision to police what I was posting when I needed mental support.

Now I'm off to name change again.

SapphireSeptember · 14/02/2022 21:16

That should have been 2016, not 2014!

Alrightqueenie · 14/02/2022 21:22

Everyone best name change tonight

Blondeshavemorefun · 14/02/2022 21:24

People know who I am

Tho I don’t post anything I wouldn’t want known

Lovemusic33 · 14/02/2022 21:28

Don’t say anything. I have been spotted on here, it doesn’t really bother me but I would feel happy if they hadn’t told me.

saraclara · 14/02/2022 21:28

I've recognised a couple of people here, and I'm pretty recognisable by details I've posted.

I've never said anything to the one poster I definitely know, nor, obviously to the one I'm 90% sure of. There's no point. They, like I, only post opinions and not anything we wouldn't want real-life people to know.

WallaceinAnderland · 14/02/2022 21:28

I would change name, message them on mn to let them know you have recognised them. It gives them the heads up to name change before they post again.

1Week · 14/02/2022 21:29

I'd would want to know.
Could you name change and PM and act all hesitant, like you're not sure, just to give her an 'out' irl?
I'm a private person and I'd hate to think Her at no 37 know what I'm really think about certain things, despite really liking Her at no 37!

TheVolturi · 14/02/2022 21:29

I'm a bit 🙄 why you think it's such a conundrum? It might not actually be her, but if it is so what? She's obviously happy to post what she has.

HarlanPepper · 14/02/2022 21:31

@TheVolturi

I'm a bit 🙄 why you think it's such a conundrum? It might not actually be her, but if it is so what? She's obviously happy to post what she has.
It's not a conundrum. OP just loves the drama.
Gonnagetgoing · 14/02/2022 21:31

@IWantChocolates

I was once told off by someone who messaged me on here under a name change, saying I would be easily recognised by my friends and to be careful what I said. They said they'd "followed" me across a few threads and wouldn't tell me which username they'd posted under on those threads (coward). And they said I didn't know them in real life. It really shook me up as I was mentally in a bad place anyway - depressed and heavily pregnant with a depressed husband and little support from friends/family.

And if you recognise yourself in this - I haven't forgotten, even several years on, and was actually very upset by your words and your decision to police what I was posting when I needed mental support.

Now I'm off to name change again.

@IWantChocolates what a horrific thing to do to you.

I recall an ex close friend of mine got really interested in my MN and finding things about re what I posted and I was a bit baffled and freaked it by it whilst we were mates.

A distant cousin of mine recently shit stirred by telling my aunt whom I’ve fallen out with about contact I’d had via Facebook with another family member. I was angry at first then realised it was pointless getting upset as though I knew who the person was they’ve been through a tough time but I think like to gossip.

TheVolturi · 14/02/2022 21:31

I honestly wouldn't care if anyone knew who I was. I don't post anything that I wouldn't stand by in real life.

MissMaple82 · 14/02/2022 21:31

I'd not post this post for a start!! 😳

Insidelaurashead · 14/02/2022 21:32

I would tell them, but I would make it very clear that I will never tell anyone anything theyve posted that I've seen, and I will never mention any of it to them in real life either. I would also say that if if makes them feel more comfortable I will tell them who I am (and then name change obviously)

If the posts are concerning and you're worried about them and willing to, I would say that whilst you will never mention this in real life, if they do want to talk, knowing that they wouldn't have to tell you as a brand new person, they are very welcome to, but there's no pressure or issue either way

user1493494961 · 14/02/2022 21:33

I wouldn't say anything.

JaneJeffer · 14/02/2022 21:37

@IWantChocolates

I was once told off by someone who messaged me on here under a name change, saying I would be easily recognised by my friends and to be careful what I said. They said they'd "followed" me across a few threads and wouldn't tell me which username they'd posted under on those threads (coward). And they said I didn't know them in real life. It really shook me up as I was mentally in a bad place anyway - depressed and heavily pregnant with a depressed husband and little support from friends/family.

And if you recognise yourself in this - I haven't forgotten, even several years on, and was actually very upset by your words and your decision to police what I was posting when I needed mental support.

Now I'm off to name change again.

Some weirdo told me I should name change to avoid being recognisable and put a Wink after the post. I didn't and they can feck off.
AChocolateOrangeaday · 14/02/2022 21:38

I really couldn't be arsed if someone recognised me or not.

It's a public forum and being very aware of that never post anything I wouldn't be happy to share irl.

DrSbaitso · 14/02/2022 21:38

@Rollonspring1111

I wonder if anyone has ever recognised a story on here that they were involved in. For example, if someone posted about someone accidentally bashing into their foot with a supermarket trolley, and they came on here to have a moan about how much it hurt and how careless the person behind them had been. If the trolley offender read that and realised it was them, I wonder if they would write a response apologising and letting the OP know they were there watching the thread, or if they would just sit back and watch it roll. I think if it was me I would have to pipe up and let them know I was there.
I've seen a couple. OP who was complaining about her husband and he did sound awful. He came on, turned out OP had affairs she hadn't mentioned and the reason he was so useless at home was because he had a life-changing injury. Thread went poof soon after.