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Nolagerformethanks · 2022-02-14T19:24:56+00:00

.... would you tell them? Old colleague, absolutely 100% is her, she has described her family very specifically in a recent thread. I have searched her posting history and other things she's posted mean it has to be her. What would you do? Not acknowledge? Say on here they best change username? Message them IRL and tell them? We speak about once a month and live in the same town.

scaredsadandstuck · 14/02/2022 20:07

@Notoschool Unless it ends up in the daily mail

Ha - very good point!!

Notoschool · 14/02/2022 20:08

I would not want anyone to tell me they recognised me. I would not tell them either . If they wanted you to know they would tell you . Also as above please do keep what you have read confidential.

SisterRuth · 14/02/2022 20:08

I too wouldn't say anything to her. Can I just ask how do you search someone's posting history?

takingmytimeonmyride · 14/02/2022 20:09

If it's me tell me.

I've recognised a few people, but I knew them on other forums anyway so I've not said anything. I haven't looked up their previous posts.

I have a friend on here and we know each others usernames.

CosmicComfort · 14/02/2022 20:10

I recognized someone once. Not a friend and I don’t want to go into how I knew them but I basically avoided any threads they were on and they must have name changed after a while.

It felt a bit unfair to them that I had read things they hadn’t told me directly iyswim.

I name change fairly regularly now but never used to and did worry I was recognizable at times. I also really liked my old username though so didn’t want to change. Still miss it but I like being a bit more anonymous.

I hope if someone did recognize me they would tell me or at least avoid my posts.

GiantSpider · 14/02/2022 20:12

Someone spotted me on here and asked if my username was xxx. I was glad they told me so I could namechange.

Babdoc · 14/02/2022 20:12

I am sure I am very easily identifiable, but I never post anything on a public forum that I can’t defend or would prefer kept secret.
I imagine that women posting sensitive stuff would name change to do so.

HelloDulling · 14/02/2022 20:13

I would want to know. Then I could decide whether to change my name or not.

GiantSpider · 14/02/2022 20:13

@SisterRuth use the Advanced Search button.

Rollonspring1111 · 14/02/2022 20:14

I wonder if anyone has ever recognised a story on here that they were involved in.
For example, if someone posted about someone accidentally bashing into their foot with a supermarket trolley, and they came on here to have a moan about how much it hurt and how careless the person behind them had been.
If the trolley offender read that and realised it was them, I wonder if they would write a response apologising and letting the OP know they were there watching the thread, or if they would just sit back and watch it roll.
I think if it was me I would have to pipe up and let them know I was there.

gamerchick · 14/02/2022 20:14

A decent chunk of people know who I am on here IRL. So I'm personally not arsed if I get a message or not, but then I don't post threads. I wouldn't message someone that I recognise them though. Some people need a space for themselves.

LimpLettice · 14/02/2022 20:14

I spotted someone with a very specific story. She was miserable and I was worried about her so I did message to check she was ok. I would want to know too.

Thatsplentyjack · 14/02/2022 20:14

I'm pretty sure I came a cross a thread of someone I know on here a few days ago, but I wouldn't tell them no. Why would I?

SomeOwlsCoo · 14/02/2022 20:16

If it was me I'd want to know.

Paperlanternsarentenough · 14/02/2022 20:16

I've recognised my sister on here. I don't post on her threads as it seems unethical. I have not told her I've recognised her either. It's an invasion of her online privacy. I know it's her though without a shadow of a doubt.

Don't tell them you've recognised them as there is still a chance you may be wrong and then you will look over-invested or weird. I've said many a time that prolific users should regularly name change to prevent amateur sleuths searching for their usernames and profiling them. MN may be known to some as a nest of vipers but I appreciate my anonymity here and I'd be astonished if I was outed by someone.

TheChosenTwo · 14/02/2022 20:17

I wouldn’t want to know.
I’ve suspected I recognised a few posters before but not searched them up. I have no need to really.
I would totally just deny it if someone said they recognised me. I don’t come on here to chat with friends!

Margotshypotheticaldog · 14/02/2022 20:18

I mentioned to a good friend once that I had just seen a thread on mn that a lady had posted going through her exact situation. I was all " there's loads of good advice, it's just like you with the xxx situation, wait, I'll find it for you" She got really embarrassed and tried to change the subject....it was her, she changed her name, and tgen I accidentally spotted her again straight away!! I also spotted my sister a few years ago, but she hardly ever posts anymore. Interestingly, I didn't tell either of them. But I would DEFINITELY want to know. So please feel free to tell me if you know me 😄

mrsoverall2 · 14/02/2022 20:19

Is everyone now panicking it's them, like I am?!

Nailsbythesea · 14/02/2022 20:19

My oldest friend told me about the fact she enjoys posting on mumsnet (!) at Christmas and showed me the forum etc - been on here for about 10 years on and off and I denied 🙅‍♀️ all knowledge of it. Oh really you post on a forum? Yes she said showing me her inbox etc and I just said umm I don’t really have time etc and I know her user name and would never ever do a search. I once saw a thread she had started and didn’t even click on it.

TheDoveFromAboveCooCoo · 14/02/2022 20:20

Me an a friend have recognised each other before.

We had a laugh about it as we were both posting and commenting on a very specific, non embarrassing board.

We have a pact to never search each other's posting history 😂

SiobhanSharpe · 14/02/2022 20:21

I had a PM from someone who was absolutely certain they knew me, having deduced it from my (old) user name - but her deduction had nothing to do with why I'd picked the name. (She thought it was a play on her friend's surname.)
They also thought I was from the same town as them despite my saying I had never been there in my life.
She was hard to convince and I reckon still thinks she knows me! She really doesn't.

DebbieHarrysCheekbones · 14/02/2022 20:22

@Paperlanternsarentenough

I've recognised my sister on here. I don't post on her threads as it seems unethical. I have not told her I've recognised her either. It's an invasion of her online privacy. I know it's her though without a shadow of a doubt.

Don't tell them you've recognised them as there is still a chance you may be wrong and then you will look over-invested or weird. I've said many a time that prolific users should regularly name change to prevent amateur sleuths searching for their usernames and profiling them. MN may be known to some as a nest of vipers but I appreciate my anonymity here and I'd be astonished if I was outed by someone.

Wish you were my sister Unlike the one I have who stalks me on here and sends people weird ranting messages citing my profile name like some sort of nutcase. The energy she must expend on finding someone she apparently wants nothing to do with makes the mind boggle. It’s not healthily but apparently I’m the raging narc and head case. Yes we are NC No I’m not changing my name again I like it too much.

SoManyTshirts · 14/02/2022 20:25

I’d want to know so I could name change yet again … pm here would be less embarrassing than IRL.

NorthSouthcatlady · 14/02/2022 20:28

Yep, a friends wife a while back. I have never said anything, it’s not as if she has said anything controversial. She mainly was hanging out in baby names

XingMing · 14/02/2022 20:28

I've recognised lots of people from posts here, and even made a RL friend. I cannot remember my sister's username and she's told me twice. I think that's polite.