Would you expect biscuits / cake?

[AugustSeptemberOctober]

My friend popped round for a cup of tea this afternoon, about 3pm, and stayed for a couple of hours. DH thinks I'm terrible for not getting a bit of cake or some biscuits in to offer her... (I don't have any in the house generally as I'm on a diet, and would definitely just eat it). Now I feel really rude! If you went to someone's house for a drink, would you think it rude if your friend didn't offer cake or biscuits?

No. If I’m dripping into a friend’s house for coffee I’ll usually bring pastries or biscuits and they’ll do likewise if coming to me. Few people I know have them hanging around in the cupboard.

No. My friends know I don't keep any in the house. If I have organised and invited a group of friends rounds for coffee I will bake especially, but if someone just drops in then no.

I usually take the cake if they are hosting.

Nope, never.

Send your hubby out next time for cake/biscuits if he's got such a thing about it. I'm like you; can't keep them in the house or I'll eat them. But it is nice to have something to offer friends when they call x

I wouldn't expect it.

I don't remember ever having cake and biscuits with coffee with friends at houses.

I sometimes take something if they're hosting - even then we often don't even eat it!

Sorry I should have said, we did arrange it a couple of days ago so I did have time to get something. She didn't just turn up

@AugustSeptemberOctober

Sorry I should have said, we did arrange it a couple of days ago so I did have time to get something. She didn't just turn up

Well yes in this case I would at least have some biscuits in.

I do each week for when I see a friend and her dc and visa versa.

But one of my other friends we don't do it.

I always have cake and biscuits in the cupboard for visitors and I'm always offered cake and biscuits if I'm the visitor. It's obviously just my circle of friends and relatives.

I always bring cake to avoid any issues. Wouldn’t think it rude, though.

It's wouldn't bother me and I wouldn't expect it

if you did invite them over for coffee, i'd have expected some biscuit or cake to be offered. Unless you were a brand new mum with new baby etc.

But assuming not tied to the house for some reason, I'd think it a bit lacking in hosting to not get anything in for the occasion. (ie you made no effort, whereas I have made the effort to travel to yours)

Tricky but if you are on a diet I would say no but explain why you didn't have cake in.

I think it’s pretty normal to bring cake/ biscuits/ snacks out when visiting friends even if it’s a pop round for a quick drink and natter.
I tend to have flat bread with humus and olives ready One friend brings in a biscuit barrel another puts out dishes simple tapas. Another friend has Bombay mix and crisps.

So thinking about it, I would probably notice if something wasn’t brought out. I wouldn’t care, just notice.

I'd have offered "something" but find if I buy biscuits or cake specially they rarely get eaten and I end up with them to use up, so I'd have offered something we normally have in. Fruit, nuts, yogurt, cheese

No I wouldn't expect that, unless I was specifically invited for coffee and cake

I can't imagine not offering cake and biscuits when I'm expecting a visitor.

I’d generally Chuck a few biscuits out. I’ve got grapes out before when I’ve been dieting.

I never want cake or biscuits if go round to a friend’s,unless it’s a meal time I always just love a cup of tea.

Yes of course, they can decline if they want to but you need to offer first.

I wouldn't expect it, no. I do tend to bake something if I've got someone coming for coffee, but that's because I love baking and am a feeder

Yes, I would usually have cake or biscuits in if I was expecting a friend for a cup of tea.

@CrinklyCraggy

I'd have offered "something" but find if I buy biscuits or cake specially they rarely get eaten and I end up with them to use up, so I'd have offered something we normally have in. Fruit, nuts, yogurt, cheese

You offer your mates a yoghurt or a piece of cheese? Are they four?

I don’t buy cakes or biscuits and any chocolates etc that are given as gifts get donated to the food bank, so no, not if you come to my house.