Would you date a man who didn't eat any vegetables?

[Callcat]

Just that really!

Don't be ridiculous. Assuming the adult is able bodied, they'd be cooking their own veg-free meals wouldn't they?

My OH changed how he ate after being diagnosed with diabetes, he cut very little out his diet, just changed ratios and quantities and lost 20kg. Most sensible diets do not rely on cutting out whole food groups.

I never eat veg. In fact, I don’t think I even get 2/5 a day. Never occurred to me that anyone would take issue with it

@DiddyHeck

All the people who say it would affect their own mealtimes and/or enjoyment of food. Would you dump your DP if they got fat and needed to go on a diet, thus having to cut out loads of different things rather than just veg?

No, because:

• There’s a wide range of foods and cuisines to suit every diet. A similarly wide range does not exist for eating sans vegetables.
• I am a foodie, but also eat pretty healthily/have a healthy lifestyle. I wouldn’t be in a relationship with someone who wasn’t pretty similar. So the odds of surprise weight gain are pretty slim.

What if it's for medical reasons? Some people can't eat fibre. It's not good for everybody, in the way it's put across to be.

TBH, SEN or trauma aside, I simply don't understand why an adult would dislike all vegetables. It does sound rather puerile.

No I would not date a man who doesn't eat vegetables. I love to cook and try new things. A picky, fussy eater is a huge pain in the neck.

I can't imagine trying to live with someone like that.

As vegetarian, no as it'd making cooking for 2 too complicated.

I'm glad it's not just me op. I was briefly dating a guy who never ate fruit or veg, gave me the ick. Thought I was being unreasonable at the time but I felt how I felt. Didn't help that he kept going about wanting to lose weight, was on the tip of my tongue to say if you started eating better that might help. Other issues brought on the end of the relationship but I don't think I could have kept my mouth shut for much longer!

@DiddyHeck

If I was catering for a dieter in the family I’d just cook everyone those meals

See that really isn't fair to make one person dictate what everyone else in the family should eat. They'd be far more affected by that than someone not wanting some veg.

Eh? How do you reckon that?

@Isaisa

I never eat veg. In fact, I don’t think I even get 2/5 a day. Never occurred to me that anyone would take issue with it

I don't understand this. Surely if you never eat veg then you only ever get 0/5 a day.

@CeeCeeDeeBee

I had a boyfriend for a while who wouldn't eat any veg other than mushrooms on pizza. He was gorgeous, and a great shag, but it just seemed so childish and made going out for meals a nightmare. No thanks.

Tbh if he was gorgeous and a great shag I could probably live with the no veg thing.

@DePfeffoff fruit

@SpaceDetective

Don't be ridiculous. Assuming the adult is able bodied, they'd be cooking their own veg-free meals wouldn't they?

My OH changed how he ate after being diagnosed with diabetes, he cut very little out his diet, just changed ratios and quantities and lost 20kg. Most sensible diets do not rely on cutting out whole food groups.

Have you seen the diet threads on MN? They very much cut out whole food groups a lot of the time which imo is no different to 'affecting their partner's food experience'. Yet I've never noticed people pointing this out like they are about cutting out veg her on this thread.

@sadpapercourtesan I honestly have no idea why he don’t date blondes. Whatever his reasons, the end result is entirely the same - not dating blondes - and, to my mind, none of my business.

I don’t think you really answered my question, though. Where would you start re interrogating turnoffs and who gets to decide which ones are valid and which are objectionable? I don’t see any harm in doing it (and I’m not trying to be goady, as it occurs to me that this might come across that way), I’m genuinely interested.

Really NO vegetables?

Potato is a vegetable, can be eaten in the form of chips. Onion is a vegetable, often hidden within foods or chopped on a pizza.

I married somebody who "doesn't eat vegetables". Except that he does, he'll eat potatoes, very finely chopped onions, mashed carrot, and processed peas. I cook fresh vegetables just for me

Yes. I think it's somewhat unusual but it wouldn't be a deal breaker.

That said, I don't eat cheese - I have tried all types but the smell, taste and texture just turn me off. Everyone thinks it's weird so it would be hypocritical to dismiss a man who has the same aversion to vegetables.

No. I dumped a man once as soon as he told me he didn't eat any type of salad

[quote MeSanniesareBrannies]@sadpapercourtesan I honestly have no idea why he don’t date blondes. Whatever his reasons, the end result is entirely the same - not dating blondes - and, to my mind, none of my business.

I don’t think you really answered my question, though. Where would you start re interrogating turnoffs and who gets to decide which ones are valid and which are objectionable? I don’t see any harm in doing it (and I’m not trying to be goady, as it occurs to me that this might come across that way), I’m genuinely interested.[/quote]
I thought I had answered it - where there are common assumptions about the wider person based on a specific characteristic, eg fat people being lazy, childless people being selfish, people with restricted eating being childish and attention-seeking - that is the situation in which I think it might be helpful to interrogate the assumptions and potentially break down unnecessary barriers between people.

@DiddyHeck

All the people who say it would affect their own mealtimes and/or enjoyment of food. Would you dump your DP if they got fat and needed to go on a diet, thus having to cut out loads of different things rather than just veg?

I thought I’d explained this above, but obviously not well as you thought it was cruel!

For example: One person doesn’t eat ANY veg. Can now only cook meals with separate components (carb/protein/veg) so the veg-avoider can avoid veg when dining communally.

So we can’t cook the majority of soup, pasta dishes, stir fries, rice dishes, curries, stews, pies, frittatas, omelettes, anything involving veg that’s integrated into the whole dish. The veg has to be separate and avoidable.

One person is on ‘a diet’. We adapt our menu of ALL THE ABOVE to be the ‘healthy’ version.

No one loses out on anything. They can still eat a chocolate bar if they want to and the dieter can abstain.

Does that make it clearer?

No way!

No. I’ve realised food is one of those things a potential man shape and I must match up on.

The dude that only wanted to eat steak or burgers every night but ate all the veg was just as tiresome as the one that didn’t eat veg or the vegan. It made eating out, cooking and shopping just arduous.

If it was because a spouse got fat. I wouldn’t change what we eat if just modify portion sizes and hold back on extra dressings or opt for leaner cuts giving the one not on a diet a little more.

Dieting has this bizarre idea that you must do away with your usual diet, eat something else entirely rather than modify what you already eat and do enjoy to a healthier or smaller portion of it.

No

@TheFoundation

What if it's for medical reasons? Some people can't eat fibre. It's not good for everybody, in the way it's put across to be.

I can only speak for myself here, but the reason they couldn’t eat vegetables would be irrelevant to me. As my reasons for not dating them wouldn’t be due to a moral judgement (I don’t think they’re childish/immature/insert horrid thing here - people can eat what they want), but a lifestyle one. So, their reasons for being incompatible with my lifestyle wouldn’t really matter.

No, IMO it is childish.

He will have long term health issues before long.

What do people who don’t eat vegetables actually eat? Just a slab of meat on a plate? Maybe with a chunk of bread? Or Yorkshire pudding. Do they put ketchup on bacon , mustard on beef? Do they eat the pickle in a burger?