Would you date a man who didn't eat any vegetables?

[Callcat]

Just that really!

If he had decent life insurance

I know someone who married someone who doesn’t eat fruit or veg

I keep saying they’ve got rickets! Ha

No

@NisekoWhistler

If he had decent life insurance

Very good

@RobertaFirmino

all people are meat

This is true, especially if you are a lion 🦁

hahahahaha

I haven't read the whole thread but there are a lot of judgy pants on here. My son is 12, he's got ASD and he eats a fairly restricted and repetitive list of acceptable foods none of which includes vegetables. He'll have lettuce in a sandwich or a burger, and he'll drink smoothies I make at home with some frozen spinach or cauliflower thrown in, but other than that no way would he eat a vegetable.

Other than that, he's a gorgeous intelligent warm hearted young man who gets on extremely well in the world, and I hope to god he doesn't meet anyone with the kind of judgemental and narrow minded views some of the posters on here are displaying when he's old enough to be dating and having relationships.

@Nocutenamesleft

I know someone who married someone who doesn’t eat fruit or veg

I keep saying they’ve got rickets! Ha

I think you might mean scurvy? www.nhs.uk/conditions/rickets-and-osteomalacia/

what on earth do you base that on

I'll answer for that poster: it's immature not to eat a balanced diet, and diets high in meat and seafood (and alcohol) can raise your uric acid levels.

@sadpapercourtesan

“Eggs are yellow and white, ham is pink, salmon is...salmon, red and black quinoa/rice, tricolor pasta, cheese is yellow/orange...there are loads of non-vegetable foods that aren't beige or brown, assuming he isn't avoiding grains as well.

I'm not here to sell a vegetable-free diet though, I love vegetables. I just think there are a lot of very shallow and intolerant assumptions being made about people who struggle with certain foods, which is sad because it adds to the existing barriers for ND people and those with sensory difficulties having relationships.”

Things like tricolour pasta are coloured using vegetables. Grains are predominantly brown or beige. So, you’re left with pink processed meats, eggs and cheese. That’s hardly a carnival of colour, is it? I certainly wouldn’t call it ‘loads’, but each to their own.

To respond to your second para? People date who they are attracted to. Attraction is a complex and multifaceted thing that doesn’t hinge on fairness or increasing ND people’s access to relationships. And I don’t think it should.

No. It would mrs. cooking two totally different meals every night.

No I’d find it childish.

No way, it's immature unless related to neurodivergent/sensory needs. I have a friend who only eats meat and potatoes, and I find that irritating enough! Her husband often eats separately so he can have some variety in his diet. She also can't cook and refuses to learn so he cooks tea for the kids, then her then himself, nightmare. The kids are also nightmarishly fussy eaters.

[quote MeSanniesareBrannies]@sadpapercourtesan

“Eggs are yellow and white, ham is pink, salmon is...salmon, red and black quinoa/rice, tricolor pasta, cheese is yellow/orange...there are loads of non-vegetable foods that aren't beige or brown, assuming he isn't avoiding grains as well.

I'm not here to sell a vegetable-free diet though, I love vegetables. I just think there are a lot of very shallow and intolerant assumptions being made about people who struggle with certain foods, which is sad because it adds to the existing barriers for ND people and those with sensory difficulties having relationships.”

Things like tricolour pasta are coloured using vegetables. Grains are predominantly brown or beige. So, you’re left with pink processed meats, eggs and cheese. That’s hardly a carnival of colour, is it? I certainly wouldn’t call it ‘loads’, but each to their own.

To respond to your second para? People date who they are attracted to. Attraction is a complex and multifaceted thing that doesn’t hinge on fairness or increasing ND people’s access to relationships. And I don’t think it should.[/quote]
I know they're coloured using vegetables, but someone who didn't like vegetables probably wouldn't refuse to eat them on that basis! I wasn't extolling the virtues of a veg-free existence, just answering your question. Not all non-veg foods are beige.

I did say exactly that earlier about attraction, btw. Of course nobody is obliged to be attracted to anyone else. Attraction is involuntary. I do think though that interrogating some of the assumptions and attitudes that lie behind the "turn-off" response might lead to fewer people rejecting others because they think they are childish/fussy/pathetic. More understanding of what makes other people tick is never a bad thing, imo.

@TatianaBis

what on earth do you base that on

I'll answer for that poster: it's immature not to eat a balanced diet, and diets high in meat and seafood (and alcohol) can raise your uric acid levels.

"its immature to eat a balanced diet"

who says?

No.

No because I can't deal with fussy eaters and it would just add to the mental load of meal planning and cooking.

I had a boyfriend for a while who wouldn't eat any veg other than mushrooms on pizza. He was gorgeous, and a great shag, but it just seemed so childish and made going out for meals a nightmare. No thanks.

@Glowtastic

No way, it's immature unless related to neurodivergent/sensory needs. I have a friend who only eats meat and potatoes, and I find that irritating enough! Her husband often eats separately so he can have some variety in his diet. She also can't cook and refuses to learn so he cooks tea for the kids, then her then himself, nightmare. The kids are also nightmarishly fussy eaters.

all those folk who find it childish and immature.....I wish I could let you have my digestive system for a week or two.

@sadpapercourtesan Thank you for answering the question. I disagree that most people who don’t eat vegetables would be fine with food coloured using vegetables (mostly based on the comments on these sorts of threads), but that’s not the sort of thing that either of us can prove one way or another. So, we should probably park it. I also believe that the vast majority of (naturally occurring) colour in food comes from fruit and veg, and that other stuff is predominantly brown and beige (although there are exceptions, some of which you have provided).

Where would one start with interrogation ‘turn offs’, though? Height, weight, facial appearance, timbre of voice, level of education, smell, music preferences, teeth? I know someone who doesn’t date blondes. Do you consider that problematic? Who decides which turnoffs are valid and which objectionable? Or do you propose that we interrogate all of them?

No I wouldn't. However I also wouldn't date a vegetarian or vegan

All the people who say it would affect their own mealtimes and/or enjoyment of food. Would you dump your DP if they got fat and needed to go on a diet, thus having to cut out loads of different things rather than just veg?

ExH ate no vegetables at all bar potatoes, peas and carrots, and no fruit whatsoever.

I'm vegetarian.

He refused point blank to even try any vegetables! He was brought up by his mother and grandmother and I think probably subjected to the overcooked mush PPs have mentioned.

He was a walking heart attack on legs!

DH eats anything and everything, he's a meat eater but more than happy to eat vegetarian meals. We're very happy 😍

[quote MeSanniesareBrannies]@sadpapercourtesan Thank you for answering the question. I disagree that most people who don’t eat vegetables would be fine with food coloured using vegetables (mostly based on the comments on these sorts of threads), but that’s not the sort of thing that either of us can prove one way or another. So, we should probably park it. I also believe that the vast majority of (naturally occurring) colour in food comes from fruit and veg, and that other stuff is predominantly brown and beige (although there are exceptions, some of which you have provided).

Where would one start with interrogation ‘turn offs’, though? Height, weight, facial appearance, timbre of voice, level of education, smell, music preferences, teeth? I know someone who doesn’t date blondes. Do you consider that problematic? Who decides which turnoffs are valid and which objectionable? Or do you propose that we interrogate all of them?[/quote]
Well, are they not dating blondes because they just don't feel a physical spark towards them, or are they not dating blondes because they genuinely believe that blondes are vacuous/stupid/promiscuous/more likely to cheat, for example?

There's a difference. Not being attracted to somebody is a) involuntary and deeply personal, and b) nobody else's business, I completely agree with you there. Where there are common assumptions about people based on a characteristic, though, and those assumptions are often erroneous (childish, likely to be a PITA in other areas of life, attention-seeking), I can see no harm in trying to unpick and address them (especially on a thread that invites us to do just that!)

Date, possibly. Marry – no way. I love food and I like cooking. I cook from scratch most of the time and would hate to live with a fussy eater.

@DiddyHeck

All the people who say it would affect their own mealtimes and/or enjoyment of food. Would you dump your DP if they got fat and needed to go on a diet, thus having to cut out loads of different things rather than just veg?

No of course not. That’s different though. I wouldn’t choose to date someone who didn’t eat vegetables because I’m a vegetarian who mainly eats them. It would be logistically tricky. If things changed with someone who I already knew, loved and was committed to, obviously we’d adjust.