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Would you date a man who didn't eat any vegetables?

462 replies

Callcat · 03/02/2022 15:37

Just that really!

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ihaveonecat · 03/02/2022 17:45

No

I like cooking, and I could not be bothered with making separate food and thinking "can't use onions, celery, tomatoes, sweetcorn..."
I also like eating at different places so.. no

pompomseverywhere · 03/02/2022 17:45

@DiddyHeck

Reasons I'd have an opinion on what another adult eats.

  1. I'd assume they were boring, unadventurous and small minded.
  1. They'd be unhealthy and that would be off putting.
  1. It would actually embarrass me in front of my friends and family.

4, it would be annoying and limiting when going out for picnic or posh meals.

  1. I like the whole family to eat the same meal for ease and also for the adults to be role models to my children
AmandaMirandaPanda · 03/02/2022 17:46

I do find a blanket “I don’t eat vegetables” statement odd mainly because there’s such a HUGE variety of vegetables and ways to prepare them. For example, a green salad vs cream of butternut soup vs lemony steamed broccoli vs buttery parsnip mash vs maple-glazed carrots vs a spinach croissant all seem quite different to me. I’d think: c’mon, you must like SOME vegetables!

But then, I don’t eat red meat or pork/ham. Someone who loves these might say the same to me: there’s such a variety - hamburgers and filet mignon and meatloaf and bacon sandwiches and hot pot and baked ham and pepperoni pizza and lamb kofta and croque monsieur and Salisbury steak and biltong and chili cheese dogs..! Smile

I cook vegetarian at home, so lots of things would be difficult to make without ANY veg, like curries, chili, stir-fry, quiches, soups, stews, vegetarian lasagne/filled pasta, tacos, etc. When I’m cooking, if someone wants to skip vegetable sides, fine, and I don’t mind avoiding a particular ingredient that I know someone dislikes. But a complete ban on ALL veggies for meals I cook would be very hard to stick to for me; they’re in everything!

I also think sometimes people who aren’t that into food or cooking use “vegetables” kind of generically. For example, I’ll often make roasted whole tomatoes or a tomato salad and they function as a vegetable even though they’re technically a fruit. Aubergine, too. Similarly grains like corn, or pulses like edamame. On the other hand, I never really think of potatos as a vegetable, but they are. So perhaps worth clarifying what “no vegetables” means to this specific person?

MeSanniesareBrannies · 03/02/2022 17:46

@sadpapercourtesan That seems fair enough.

JanisMoplin · 03/02/2022 17:47

No. I wouldn't date a fussy eater or someone who can't eat spicy food either.

RampantIvy · 03/02/2022 17:48

[quote Isaisa]@DePfeffoff fruit[/quote]
So you eat tomatoes, aubergines, cucumber, courgettes, peppers and anything else with seeds in?

Or do you only eat dessert fruit?

You never eat curry, which usually has a starter base of onions and garlic? No pizza or Italian dishes which also contain onions and usually garlic? You don't eat any pickles or chutney with cheese?

Youdoyoutoday · 03/02/2022 17:48

Fussy eaters are just plain annoying!! Imagine trying to get your kids to eat veg when daddy doesn't!!

EveningOverRooftops · 03/02/2022 17:48

@TheFoundation

What if it's for medical reasons? Some people can't eat fibre. It's not good for everybody, in the way it's put across to be.
I did date someone with a nut allergy and every single food item had to be checked and scanned for its ingredients. He ate packet food so often he was terrified of accidentally eating nuts but couldn’t fathom my way of cooking - from scratch with veg and meat and grains - was infinitely safer than his packet meal diet.

Medical diets can and usually are imo just as tedious to deal with especially if the specific diet person is overly anxious and controlling beyond what is reasonable for their needs.

Eg someone who is gluten intolerant banning you from eating gluten at a restaurant or drinking a lager even though you eat gluten free at home.

TatianaBis · 03/02/2022 17:49

@godmum56

all those folk who find it childish and immature.....I wish I could let you have my digestive system for a week or two

I can well imagine what it’s like with no vegetables.

iwantmyownicecreamvan · 03/02/2022 17:49

@MintJulia

No, too restrictive and boring
Yes this ^

Showing my age here, but I dated someone in the 70s who didn't eat any veg apart from potatoes and I think peas (can't remember now). He said all vegetables gave him indigestion and he was always eating Rennies. It was ... depressing.

We couldn't eat out anywhere where there were nice salads or other veg. We were students at the time and I found it sad that we couldn't join friends for lunch at a student canteen place because ... vegetables. Once we did go somewhere to meet up, and he said "Aw Icecream why did you bring me here? I can't eat anything." I saw the looks other people gave him and I think that was when I got the ick. As pp had said it was so babyish.

Eventually we split up and he met someone else - who was vegetarian and then he seemed to have no problem with vegetables oddly. Hmm

Shehasadiamondinthesky · 03/02/2022 17:50

I'm vegan so no yuck.

DiddyHeck · 03/02/2022 17:50

I kind of get it @NoSquirrels but honestly, any fussy eaters in this house - whether that's because they don't eat veg, or they're on a diet so have decided they don't eat certain other things, would be cooking for themselves.

Isaisa · 03/02/2022 17:50

@RampantIvy only dessert fruit for me. I don’t eat anything else you listed!

Sprucewillis · 03/02/2022 17:52

No

SarahBellam · 03/02/2022 17:52

@Bagelsandbrie

No I’d be really put off.

My ex dh had really odd eating habits. Pretty much the only thing he’d eat out was plain cheese and tomato pizza or chips. And at home he’d eat stuff like a whole plateful of potato waffles microwaved (!) with cheese and chilli powder on top. And then he’d eat it lying on his front on the floor whilst reading the Argos catalogue. Just got pissed off with it all really.

When I met now dh (been together 15 years now) it felt like all my Christmases had come at once when we went out for dinner and he actually ate random, different stuff.

😂😂😂 Be still my beating heart. That first one sounds like quite the catch 😂😂😂
RampantIvy · 03/02/2022 17:53

So you don't eat Italian food or Indian food?

What do you eat at meal times then @isaisa? Just meat and potatoes at every meal?

CrunchyCarrot · 03/02/2022 17:54

No, because I eat mainly veggies! Would be majorly difficult, I'd end up cooking 2 separate meals all the time, or he would.

godmum56 · 03/02/2022 17:54

[quote TatianaBis]@godmum56

all those folk who find it childish and immature.....I wish I could let you have my digestive system for a week or two

I can well imagine what it’s like with no vegetables.[/quote]
minimal fruit and veg makes it operate like anybody else's. Other people's "normal" is catastrophic!

NoSquirrels · 03/02/2022 17:55

I cook vegetarian at home, so lots of things would be difficult to make without ANY veg, like curries, chili, stir-fry, quiches, soups, stews, vegetarian lasagne/filled pasta, tacos, etc. When I’m cooking, if someone wants to skip vegetable sides, fine, and I don’t mind avoiding a particular ingredient that I know someone dislikes. But a complete ban on ALL veggies for meals I cook would be very hard to stick to for me; they’re in everything!

Precisely! If you only eat chops & chips & peas, chicken breast & mash & sweetcorn, sausages, mash & broccoli etc then it’s easy.
If not, it’s not.

Posh fine dining restaurants with tasting menus are designed for ominvores - even the ‘meat & carb’ course will be something where the veg purée and crispy element are integral to the dish so you couldn’t avoid the vegetables. Middle Eastern food would be off the menu. Travelling in Goa you’d starve! Etc.

Fruitbatdancer · 03/02/2022 17:56

No. If he won’t eat vegetables he sure as heck won’t eat 🐱

godmum56 · 03/02/2022 17:57

@pompomseverywhere

No. I dumped a man once as soon as he told me he didn't eat any type of salad
hahahahaha he dodged as bullet there
harrystylestaylorswift · 03/02/2022 17:57

I don't understand how people don't like ANY vegetables... Like carrots, broccoli and sweetcorn all taste very different. I like all of the above but I don't like peas (unless they're mush peas or sugarsnap). I don't know how people can write off every variety of fruit and veg.

NoSquirrels · 03/02/2022 17:58

@DiddyHeck

I kind of get it *@NoSquirrels* but honestly, any fussy eaters in this house - whether that's because they don't eat veg, or they're on a diet so have decided they don't eat certain other things, would be cooking for themselves.
And shopping for themselves? Doubling your costs and never eating at the same time as a family because two people cooking in most domestic kitchens is a disaster…

As I said, it would just seep into every element of my life and fuck me off constantly therefore we’d be incompatible in the extreme!

Andacherryonthetop · 03/02/2022 17:58

Yes. I don’t eat many myself

StrychnineIntheSandwiches · 03/02/2022 17:58

People who say they don't like ANY vegetables definitely aren't the sort of people to have tried ALL the vegetables.

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