How many times did you have sex to fall pregnant?

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Posting for traffic, been TTC and nothing.

So how many times did you have to have sex the month you fell pregnant?

I cannot do daily sex no matter how hard I try. Even every other day tails off mid month it's just too much.

But if this is what we have to do then we have to do it.

Can you please comment to let me know the frequency of your sex the month you fell pregnant?

Once.

And now potentially once again.

Oops

Once, all 3 pregnancies. Low sex drive and conflicting schedules.

Once with our first child (I was 31, obsessively tracked ovulation using OPKs and we just got lucky- had just got back from lovely sunny, relaxing holiday abroad), second pregnancy (ended in MMC) was a totally different story- took about 12 attempts across 5 months (was 34), 3rd pregnancy and second DC was 3 attempts across one month immediately after the MMC had happened. Used OPKs with all of them to ensure timing was right. DH took Zinc supplement and cut down on boozing- I took folic acid, cut down boozing and also took DHA (think that's what it was called) supplement. It's recommended in sperm meets egg book.
Get cheapie OPK sticks on Amazon to track your peak ovulation days, use an app like Ovia fertility to support tracking, ensure yours and partner's diet is good, cut fags and reduce booze if you partake in either of those and look into supplements. Think pregnacare do a fertility one for men and women. Good luck OP.

At 31 and 33. On the exact same day of the year.

DS1 - 18 months of "not trying, not preventing" ie regular sex without contraception whenever we felt like it, having stopped taking the pill before that. We probably had sex twice a week on average. My cycles were very irregular at the time and I actually conceived 2 1/2 months after my previous period.

DS2 - Only had sex once in the cycle I got pregnant. Complete fluke. We were planning to start trying in earnest about six months later. I had not long stopped breastfeeding DS1, which had made my periods come back like clockwork for the first time in my life.

I have PCOS and was told aged 13 that I'd never get pregnant without medical intervention so I do feel very lucky. The fact that I had such low expectations meant I didn't even bother trying to schedule sex, which in a way may have taken the pressure off.

First baby: approximately 506948348 times.

Second baby: once

19 years. I lost count.

Every day on ovulation week with ds, with the baby I lost at 16 weeks I actually know when I got pregnant, it was drunken sex with my late dp after going out, I started with morning sickness exactly 14 days later, I know we weren't having daily sex as we weren't living together at the time.

All the professional advice we've had says 2-3 times a week consistently throughout the month, each month

This is what we did. No tracking or OPKs. Sex an absolute minimum of twice a week, every week.

It took us nine months to conceive DS1 and we definitely weren't having enough sex. We started having it more and conceived DS1 the month we did. We did the same with DS2 and it only took one month of trying.

@FlamingRoses

Twice with my first, once with my second. But I know what intercourse I fell with my first.

I have been very lucky in the sense we are both fertile.

I’d recommend using ovulation tests so you aren’t having pointless sex.

I know my body well and I know when I’m ovulating. My first 5 days after my period ends I am more up for it than the rest of the month. On ovulation day it peaks and the day after I am vaguely interested. Then the urge completely disappears until after my period.

Not TTC, we would have sex probably 2-3 times during that window (although I would probably do it every day, or multiple times on ovulation day out of want). If TTC, possibly daily.

What is "pointless sex" 😁😁

A couple of times around ovulation for all 3 babies. I think tracking ovulation is key. I have a 30 day cycle so assumed I would ovulate around day 14. Using opks I realised I don’t ovulate until day 22 or 23 of my cycle with my period only 1 week later.

The window to get pregnant is actually very small. From memory, I think it's only about 4 days a month.

Having sex every single day will also lower sperm count so not a many swimmers on those important days.

OP, do you know when you ovulate during your cycle? I'm able to track mine fairly easily using my body's changes during the cycle.

At minimum, you need to start tracking your periods and during the month, take special note of any discharge changes or mid cycle ovarian cramps/pain. You can also take additional measures on taking your temperate daily and also use ovulation strips.

You really can't judge based on others. I fell pregnant while on the pill and had only had sex with my partner once that month (no overnight visits for the covid tier at the time and he lives in another city).

Others have to try for ages or need help to conceive.

Sorry OP but there's no set calculation that will guarantee pregnany.

In the fertile window every couple of days.

What I found interesting was that I always got pregnant the same month I put my bum up after sex for a bit. The last time it took us around 7 month. I thought it was taking a bit long so did that and boom, got pregnant.

Just once. He was on nights and I was on days and we were passing ships. We managed it once all month and it was also the first time I'd ever had unprotected sex. Pregnant with twins.

Literally got pregnant all 3 times when i wasnt trying

Track your ovulation and aim for sex around then (every other day)

Not sure with DC1 or DC2. Was actively TTC with DC1 and know when we conceived but can't remember how many times we had sex (we had an active sex life back then but always more around ovulation)

No idea with DC2 as we were NTNP

DC3 was a CD6, broken condom baby .

Apologies for the TTC vernacular. At least I didn't use "DTD" (whoops. Just did!!)

You don’t need to have sex all month; you should know when you’re ovulating and have sex daily around then

About a million ( 9 years of TTC)

We didn’t really try, both times we just thought ‘it would be nice to have a baby’ I came off contraceptives and we had sex a few times a week and both times I got pregnant straight away.

You only need to do it once, but with knowledge of ovulation.

I have a condition that means I can't have sex much, it's painful. We conceived first try after I tracked my ovulation and figured out when I was actually ovulating (rather than when I thought I was ovulating).

Once with my last.
DH wasn’t being particularly frequent with his ‘loving’ so I took an ovulation test, got the go ahead and bam !

Fell pregnant each time within 2 months. Sex only on weekends as dh works away.

We had sex 3 times in 2 days (my fertile window when I was ovulating). First month of TTC but I had been tracking my cycle for over a year as we used natural family planning to avoid pregnancy prior to that. There is no point having sex every day for the first week or so of the month (unless you want to!) because you're only likely to conceive on about 4/5 days around ovulation, typically mid-cycle but differs for each woman how many days into her cycle that generally is. I recommend 'Taking Charge of Your Fertility'. Good luck

Twice, a Tuesday and a Saturday...stopped the pill end of November and little love was there by January😬