How many times did you have sex to fall pregnant?

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Posting for traffic, been TTC and nothing.

So how many times did you have to have sex the month you fell pregnant?

I cannot do daily sex no matter how hard I try. Even every other day tails off mid month it's just too much.

But if this is what we have to do then we have to do it.

Can you please comment to let me know the frequency of your sex the month you fell pregnant?

DC1 - just the once.

DC2 - countless times over many months.

But we weren't at it every day - I tracked my fertility with OPK sticks so we knew which days to go for it. I didn't do this at first, we were being fairly casual about the whole thing. But after several months, I started tracking my fertility and then fell pregnant fairly quickly after that.

Dc1 - about 3 months, probably twice a week so say 24 times ish?

Dc2 - over a year, hundreds of times.

Dc3 - once. At the wrong time of month, when using a condom. Still baffles me!

You aren't fertile all month so don't need to have sex all month.
Get some ovulation strips and if your periods are regular, pee on one every day after from about 16 days before you're due.
So your period is due on 28th, use sticks from 12th and have sex every other day from the 12th. If you ovulate and its not a sex day, have an extra one then go back to every other day for half a week.

Isn't fo proof but should mean there's fresh sperm getting in around the right time. Outside of that, have it when you fancy it.

The month we conceived just once as we both kept feeling unwell, I could hardly believe it. We had been trying a few months and certainly had sex more than once the other months but no luck

I tracked my basal temps for a few months and then just had sex a few times at the right time and got lucky the first month of trying. It's not about how many times it's about doing it at the right time.

With my 1st I was trying to conceive for 3 years. The 2nd I literally slept with the now ex, once.

I got pregnant on 2nd cycle with both children. Did the same thing both times. Sex every other day from cycle day 9-15. So 3 times. (My cycles are 28 days)

Tried for about five months on DC1. Happened first month trying on DC2. DC3 was a complete shock and surprise so was one time during a particularly dry spell due to sick DC and them being constantly in our bed. We honestly cannot remember it even happening.

For all 3 of my pregnancies I just stopped contraception and carried on as usual. No no ovulation sticks or dtd more at certain times of the month. My cycles were every 6 weeks and was always pregnant within 2/3 cycles.

I tracked my cycle. DTD every other day, sometimes two days in a row if I got a solid smiley. It took 4 years to conceive DD. With our first I had just come off the pill and had no idea what my cycles were. Missed two periods before I realised 😳

Twice with my first, once with my second. But I know what intercourse I fell with my first.

I have been very lucky in the sense we are both fertile.

I’d recommend using ovulation tests so you aren’t having pointless sex.

I know my body well and I know when I’m ovulating. My first 5 days after my period ends I am more up for it than the rest of the month. On ovulation day it peaks and the day after I am vaguely interested. Then the urge completely disappears until after my period.

Not TTC, we would have sex probably 2-3 times during that window (although I would probably do it every day, or multiple times on ovulation day out of want). If TTC, possibly daily.

DS, took 18 months of trying
DD,.we had pretty much split up, had sex once for the first time in several years!

DS1 was a happy accident

DS2 - conceived first month, far quicker than we expected

2 MMC's both first month too

You don’t need to have sex every day, just work out when you ovulate in your cycle and do it a few days around those dates. Also (sorry if tmi) but after rest with your legs up in the air for 5 mins to help the little fellas head the right way.

Once.

Unplanned

Once, each time. We were very lucky!

One time for each baby. I must be extremely fertile. Conceived first baby at 24 and I know it was only one time because after that I said maybe we should wait another year so we'd only had unprotected sex the one time and baby was already conceived.

Baby number 2 was conceived at 30. I know we only had unprotected sex one time here too because dh injured himself the next day and there was no more sex for several weeks and baby was already conceived then too.

I'm 36 now but we're still extremely careful because you never know. My grandma had my mum in her mid forties.

First two times by accident (neither of which resulted in a baby), third time we'd been doing it non-stop desperately and I decided to take a month off trying and as if by magic, two pink lines. I found being guided by when I was horniest (horrible word) the best.

If you want to time it a bit I'd say don't worry about it for the first 5-7 days after your period, every other day in the middle of the month, don't worry about it 5 days before your period.

I’d have thought most people know you can’t get pregnant during most of the month. Therefore, having sex every other day to get pregnant isn’t the right technique, unless you actually want to have sex every other day.

I guess regular sex is advised for those interested in becoming pregnant, but in a vague, hopeful sometime over next couple of years way. For those who don’t want to check their fertile time or focus on actively becoming pregnant, regular sex (if pretty regular) should well work for most within a year.

But the thing is, once most people decide they want to become pregnant, they want it soon. Every other day sex for most people is too much and tedious to a routine. So most people can’t sustain it and then it’s easy to miss the fertile slot.

So if you’re interested in becoming pregnant in the next couple of mo ths if possible, a more targeted approach and more focused sex is needed. Most people can manage that as it doesn’t mean having to have sex 4 times a week for months on end.

When I became pregnant, I’d had sex every day for about 5-6 days. I probably had sex 2 or possibly 3 other times in that month - it not for the purposes of becoming pregnant, I knew I couldn’t at that point.

Some point start blasé and decide to just come off contraception and randomly have sex and hope. Some will become pregnant quickly like that and lots will find it doesn’t happen within a couple of months and so then become more focused with their attempts.

For me, when I wanted to have a baby, I was very focused. I had an ideal time in mind, although I knew it might well not happen then. I tracked my cycles for about 4-6 months before and read up on it and identified my likely fertile phase. And then we had sex each day for about 5 days. And luckily for us, I was then pregnant.
I know that for many it takes longer. Sometimes that’s becaue actually, their first month of trying wasn’t very focused but just hoping to luck. Others who try in a focused and timed way also do t get pregnant first month, or second, but many trying in a focused way are pregnant within 6 months. Many more are within a year. And clearly there are another group who find it takes longer still or doesn’t happen.

If you’re posting on here and want to be pregnant, understand your cycle and your fertile time. It will increase your chances of being pregnant.

DS - 6446436913 times or that's what it felt like over two years

DD - once - the shock!

Our oldest took two years and significant medical intervention. Our second oldest took a few tries over two months. Our youngest took one try.

6 times the week I was ovulating, and that was more than we did it the whole of other months so it wasn't exactly the norm for us!

Every other day is better than every day. Something about better sperm quantity, plus as you note it's kinda tiring to do it daily!
But we just did it a few times a week particularly mid cycle, and I was pregnant after four months both times.

Use ovulation sticks! The month we conceived we DTD 2 days before ovulation and the day of ovulation.

Eg: Sex on Saturday
Positive ovulation strip on Sunday (positive means ovulation will likely occur in 24-36 hours)
Sex on Monday (Ovulation Day).

If you know exactly WHEN to aim for, you don't need to worry about daily sex other than over maybe 3 days, and some recommend every other day like ours. We didn't DTD anymore around ovulation week due to work schedules.

I was on the pill both times, so we weren’t exactly trying, just having lots of sex. Sorry not much help to you.