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What was the lowest point in your life?

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Grapeapples · 15/01/2022 08:38

I often find myself thinking on this, although probably dwell on it too much because one of my lowest points was at beginning of feb 2020. Something major had happened at work and I really thought my entire career was down the toilet. I remember the weather being filthy as well, and crying all the time.

Weirdly it took lockdown to sort of reset everything and now I have such a good life I could never have believed it!

OP posts:
lightnesspixie · 15/01/2022 09:00

Now. Our eldest child died by suicide last Autumn. We are the lowest we have ever been.

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Grapeapples · 15/01/2022 09:01

I’m not surprised, how utterly devastating Flowers

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RussianSpy101 · 15/01/2022 09:01

@lightnesspixie sending you so much love.

CherryAndAlmond · 15/01/2022 09:02

Flowers lightnesspixie.

The months after my DH died leaving me with our three children to raise alone.

Geom372 · 15/01/2022 09:05

Mine was when I was 24. I'd spent 8 years battling crohns disease at this point. Had missed out on all those formative teen experiences, had spent lots of time in hospital having invasive treatments and procedures. Countless embarrassing incidents (think shitting yourself in lectures), so so desperately poorly. Had somehow managed to get my degree (not the degree I'd wanted to do but the only one close to the hospital and home) and I'd got my first job. Within a month of being there I was flaring again, couldn't work. The feeling was absolute panic, despare, fear, anger, hurt all rolled into one. I just didn't know how I was ever going to live. I was at the point of driving into the central reservation because I couldn't see a way out of it all and I didn't want to go on living like this. The thought of my parents losing me stopped me and thank god it did because I did eventually get better enough to live. I found part time job and met my DH. It's been a rough road but that was definitely my lowest point. Far too much pain and suffering at such a young age and no hope for the future.

Haroweller · 15/01/2022 09:05

@lightnesspixie I can’t imagine your pain but Flowers and a very un-mumsnetty hug.

languagelover96 · 15/01/2022 09:05

The day I discovered I had endometriosis was awful.

PermanentTemporary · 15/01/2022 09:05

Oh lightness. I'm very sorry to hear that.

My dh's inquest, I think.

converseandjeans · 15/01/2022 09:07

When my Dad drowned trying to save someone else. They were ok but he never made it out alive.

Haroweller · 15/01/2022 09:07

For me the day my DH died after 10 weeks in a coma (cycling accident), followed six months later by my Dad.

Sweetpeasaremadeofcheese · 15/01/2022 09:09

When I was 15 I had escaped my terribly abusive dad and stepmother with my younger siblings. My bio mum just showed up one day after 7 years and we went with her. She took us to another state and into another terrible, hopeless situation. I remember having a breakdown running down the street screaming. Just having that small possibility of hope dashed was so devastating. Now nothing as an adult can come close to that because I have choices and power over my own life.

Boboparadise · 15/01/2022 09:09

@lightnesspixie

Now. Our eldest child died by suicide last Autumn. We are the lowest we have ever been.
I cannot imagine that pain. Would you like to tell us about him?
WakeUpLockie · 15/01/2022 09:10

Either the utter depressing slog of 3 years of call centre work which involved a commute with a train’s worth of obnoxious school kids.

Or the mental breakdown which saw me leave boyfriend (now DH) and move to another country for a few months in the space of a couple of weeks.

That’s as bad as it’s been though and positives came from both. I’m very very lucky. I’ve been through periods of depression and take anxiety meds but always look on the bright side generally and have a very lucky life so far.

MyQuietPlace · 15/01/2022 09:11

lightnesspixie Heartbreaking. Would you like to talk about your child?

Genegenieee · 15/01/2022 09:18

Ten years ago today I found my best friend, she'd passed away through suicide. Devastating shock with long lasting impact. Trying to get through today with as much distraction as possible.

Miss you my friend

Genegenieee · 15/01/2022 09:19

@lightnesspixie Thanks

darumafan · 15/01/2022 09:19

@lightnesspixie, I have sent you a PM.

deathofastrawberry · 15/01/2022 09:21

@lightnesspixie I'm so sorry Thanks

flashpaper · 15/01/2022 09:23

Lightness, I'm so sorry to hear that Thanks I hope you have something that gives you comfort.

Mine was the NYE I caught (now ex)H in bed with someone else. I thought my world had ended, I was early 20s, no job, no car, with 2 DC and I didn't know how I'd possibly survive.
Well I did survive, my DC are now much older and wonderful. I went back to uni, got a good job, met an amazing man who loves my DC. ExH has little to do with them and we like it this way.

Vampirethriller · 15/01/2022 09:26

9 years ago, homeless, working on the streets in London, an addict, with sepsis from a broken jaw.

emma1103 · 15/01/2022 09:39

My son was stillborn in November. The last few months have been my lowest.

Greenandcabbagelooking · 15/01/2022 09:44

The day I walked home from work, thinking that if I stepped out in front of a bus, it would be worth it so I didn't have to go to work the following day.

Counselling, anti-anxiety drugs and a new job sort of fixed the problem, but those were very low days.

lollipoprainbow · 15/01/2022 09:47

6 years ago, My nephew calling to tell me my sister had terminal cancer, she'd been having lots of tests but we thought it was something straightforward, it felt like I had been punched in the stomach, subsequently visits to the hospice to see her a shadow of her former self when she had been so wonderfully vibrant were terrible. My mum got ill shortly after too with dementia. It was a terrible time.

Xtraincome · 15/01/2022 10:06

Gosh, I am so sorry to hear of loss from suicide. Flowers

Mine was when I had PND after my 2nd child in 2017-18. DM was living with me, DH and DD1 and it was the dumbest decision I ever made, done purely out of guilt as she's on her own. My poor DH didn't know how to talk to me as I constantly cried, and I cried every night in the shower picturing how I could leave as I felt no one would miss me.

Since then I have been way more relaxed about things and DH and I are amazing as are our DDs.

Out the other side of it but it's the reason I stopped at 2 children. DM moved out end of 2019 and it improved further from there too.

darumafan · 15/01/2022 10:22

2012, my beautiful, talented, funny, troubled 22 year old son took his own life.
My poor youngest son found him after breaking into his big brothers flat as no-one had seen him for 4 days. He them rang his step dad to tell us.
Life as we knew it ended with that one phone call, we were devastated in all the ways you can imagine.
Nearly 10 years on, we have learnt to live with the James sized hole in our lives but he is missed and loved beyond measure.