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What was the lowest point in your life?

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Grapeapples · 15/01/2022 08:38

I often find myself thinking on this, although probably dwell on it too much because one of my lowest points was at beginning of feb 2020. Something major had happened at work and I really thought my entire career was down the toilet. I remember the weather being filthy as well, and crying all the time.

Weirdly it took lockdown to sort of reset everything and now I have such a good life I could never have believed it!

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Kindofhecticinside · 15/01/2022 17:52

When my twins turned one. We had spent the year in hospital with one of them having treatment and surgeries for various illnesses and disabilities. We moved house across the country. Just before their birthday my niece died suddenly. It was the worst year of my life.

hamstersarse · 15/01/2022 17:53

I am so sorry for all of you who have lost children.

I don’t think there is anything more painful,

I have experience of a close friend losing her son to suicide and the pain is indescribable. She is making it through, 6 years on, but I am sure it is the worst thing that can happen to anyone. I think it’s the definition of hell.

Much love to all of you who have to traverse this path

Aposterhasnoname · 15/01/2022 18:00

When DD had her accident and the drs told us she might die. I’m a confirmed atheist, but I prayed on my knees to every god I’d ever heard of for those three weeks.

My heart goes out to the posters on here that have lost children. I cant imagine what I’d have done if my outcome had been different.

ToooSensitive · 15/01/2022 18:05

Losing my brother to suicide in 2020. Life changed in an instant. I miss him every day and my heart breaks for my Mum.

Sending love to everyone on this thread

BlackAlys · 15/01/2022 18:44

So much heartache. Sending you all light and love and hoping for gentler times for everyone

crochetmonkey74 · 15/01/2022 18:48

January 2021
Lost a close friend to suicide 2 months before, lost my best friend too then my LTR walked out with no notice. And I lost his family who had become my own. Then we went in to lockdown and it was icy and bleak bleak bleak. Lots of therapy and incredibly good support from friends and siblings but this year has been a long old slog

HippyMoon · 15/01/2022 18:56

Teenhood. Being physically and emotionally abused by my mother who fuelled my eating disorder. Having my mother say, 'you cut yourself so I'll hurt you too, obviously you don't care if you're in pain'. Constant suicide attempts, constant egging on of the suicide attempts from my mother.

I ran away from that house less than two months after I was 16 and ended up in a homeless unit which sounds awful but it saved my life. I've had some low moments since then of course (including a miscarriage and a major injury), but on the whole life has been good since, and I don't think any time could be as awful as being 12-15 was.

eliybetty · 18/01/2022 23:31

For me there has unfortunately been a few things but nearly everyone has hardships at some point in their lives.
I was abused as a child. I became an alcoholic in my 20s. Turned my life around when I entered AA. Got married and had kids. After a few years of sobriety I Found out my husband was having an affair, he died by suicide the evening after I confronted him. Went trough hell with grief. Father got dementia and died a year later. That was 5 and a half years ago.
I have since done a huge amount of work on myself through AA and counselling, kids are doing much better too. Hard to believe I'm saying this but life is good. Have no intention of getting onto another relationship now until my children are grown as I can't be afford to put them through any more trauma. I'm very grateful today for what I have in my life

wlv12 · 18/01/2022 23:37

to those who have lost loved ones.

The days where my mum was in hospital alone, dying of covid - she died alone Christmas Day 2020. I’ve never known physical or mental pain like it - the months after that were my lowest and I had some dark thoughts. I couldn’t and still can’t cope with the knowledge that she was scared and alone (without us) and dying.

Zoflorabore · 18/01/2022 23:40

Probably right now if I'm honest. Today is my birthday, my dp lost his job in December ( dismissed ) and we're struggling so much. We were doing well and now I'm scared every day of how to feed us all and the gas and electricity are crippling us. I have fibromyalgia and am in constant pain. Feeling a bit sorry for myself and know many are worse off. My kids are constantly hungry and I feel like a shit mum.

immersivereader · 18/01/2022 23:42

Working in a shitty dead end job in a dead end town having just graduated. It was the pits. Decided to go travel abroad and that was that, things improved

bloodywhitecat · 18/01/2022 23:42

Now. I am hanging on in there by the skin of my teeth. DH has terminal cancer, has recently had a massive stroke and now, after a fall from his bed has broken his tibia and fibia. Watching him scream in pain as they put his cast on this afternoon was awful, just awful but thankfully the hospital got him home by ambulance this evening and he is tucked up and sleeping in our old living room

immersivereader · 18/01/2022 23:43

Happy birthday, Zoflorabore

I'm sure your kids adore you. Things will improve

colouringindoors · 18/01/2022 23:43

Zoflorabore Really hope things pick up for you soon. Happy birthday 💐🌸💮⚘🌷🌼🌻🌺🥀🌹🏵

immersivereader · 18/01/2022 23:43

for you too, bloody white cat

Birdkin · 18/01/2022 23:50

My lowest moment was when I tried to kill myself, I’ve struggled with my mental health since I was a child but that was the pinnacle of my worst period. It’s strange in some ways it feels like it happened to a different person, but it will always be there as something I’m capable of. I try to always appreciate the small moments of happiness or even contentness now, my life is far from perfect but I’m not at rock bottom anymore.

I’m so sorry to those who have lost people to suicide.

Birdkin · 18/01/2022 23:53

I also really hope things improve soon for those of you experiencing your lowest point right now.

Shapiro · 18/01/2022 23:58

Our vet telling me that all he could do for one of our dogs was to put him to sleep.

I declined and said I would take him home and let him die in my arms overnight.

He had been given painkillers so he wasn’t in any pain but he was stone cold and his breathing was shallow.

I was on my own as my husband was working away and I spent the night with him on my stomach and chest, drifting in and out of sleep, every now and then stroking him and whispering how loved he was.

The combination of feeling helpless and not wanting him to die was awful.

Amazingly he rallied in the morning and after doing my own research we have managed his illness and he still with us today and doing very well.

That was a horrible night though, one I never wish to repeat.

Sort0f · 18/01/2022 23:58

The year or so after my mum died, so I 2009-2010. The world was pretty much falling apart due to the recession at that time too.

I looked after her whilst she was dying, then got made redundant three times in just over a year. There was another temporary job in there during that time too. I also moved cities and houses twice.

I was in antidepressants at the time but I think I had probably had PTSD from looking after my mum in the terminal stages of cancer. It wasn’t that long ago, but at the time people still thought PTSD was for soldiers not civilians really.

Ina lot of ways I’ve never really recovered from that time. I’ve moved on with my life and am successful in other ways but in terms of both career and socially I’ve never been the same.

Icecreamandapplepie · 19/01/2022 00:14

for all but especially those who suffered in childhood or as teenagers. You deserved better

Sunnytwobridges · 19/01/2022 00:14

When I found out the love of my life, my fiance had ghosted me and married someone else. My heart shattered in a million pieces and honestly I don't think I've fully recovered and it was many, many years ago.

ParkheadParadise · 19/01/2022 00:17

My lowest point was losing my beautiful daughter.
When the police turned up at our door to tell me she had been found dead by a stranger returning from night shift, brutally murdered by her ex-partner.
Being driven to the Mortuary praying it wasn't her, standing in the cemetery 7 months pregnant with Dd2 as her coffin was lower to the ground is something that will never leave me. Lying in my bed praying that I wouldn't wake up.
The court case that followed, the verdict that nearly finished me.

That was 6 years ago and I never believed then that I could go on. As a family, our life changed forever that day but I'm still here. Dd2(6) and is the one reason for going on she has brought lots of laughter and happiness to our lives which I didn't think was possible. We were so lucky to have a supportive family who was there for us 24/7.

@lightnesspixie My thoughts and prayers are with you

2018SoFarSoGreat · 19/01/2022 00:50

Happy birthday, @Zoflorabore. I hope things turn around soon

So many terribly sad posts - my heart goes out to all who have lost children. The pain must be like no other.

@bloodywhitecat god, this is just hell for you. I'm so sorry! Your poor DH, and poor you. I hope there are really good painkillers available for him. For you,

I read these posts, with one side of my mind compiling my list. There are really hard things on that list, but mostly I can see how I'm really grateful for surviving and thriving and being here, today. I so wish my dear mum and dad were here, and my best friend in the world. Losing them has made me wonder why I go on, but there is much to be done, yet.

Love and light and peace to all of us, suffering. Group hugs.

Zoflorabore · 19/01/2022 00:58

So sorry @ParkheadParadise. I've always remembered your name after you posted about your darling daughter in the past but I didn't know much about the circumstances. I'm so glad your dd2 is keeping you going

I wish I had read the thread before posting. Mine is nothing compared to some, I am sorry for such terrible tragedies xx

Yaya26 · 19/01/2022 01:20

The days my Dcs children died.

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