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What was the lowest point in your life?

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Grapeapples · 15/01/2022 08:38

I often find myself thinking on this, although probably dwell on it too much because one of my lowest points was at beginning of feb 2020. Something major had happened at work and I really thought my entire career was down the toilet. I remember the weather being filthy as well, and crying all the time.

Weirdly it took lockdown to sort of reset everything and now I have such a good life I could never have believed it!

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NoWigNoWit · 15/01/2022 10:25

Nov 2021 when I found myself with cable around my neck checking to see if the light would hold my weight

SommerTen · 15/01/2022 10:26

In 2012 I had a very public psychotic breakdown.., I lost the career I'd worked hard for.. I was diagnosed with Schizoaffective disorder.

Sorry to hear about everyone's losses x

VelvetChairGirl · 15/01/2022 10:27

not sure its a toss up between being a raging alcoholic who couldn't stop and was suicidal because of it (like 20 years ago).

or 2016 when my abusive nutcase now ex went full Shinning.

FrancescaContini · 15/01/2022 10:27

These are all so very very sad, particularly those of you who have lost children through suicide. I can’t begin to imagine your pain. So sorry. Flowers

User2638483 · 15/01/2022 10:32

Reading these I have a sense I have yet to experience the lowest point in my life.

So far… I think it has been being in the depths of PND. Objectively having a new baby was precious and joyful, and I’m very grateful for having them, but my mental health at the time meant I felt irrationally despairing and utterly hopeless

Garysmum · 15/01/2022 10:43

Everytime I have thought that is the low point a new low point arrives.

Whether that was miscarraiges, the death of my mum, a breakdown, the breakdown of a relationship, a child attempting suicide at 12 and being rescussitated, being knocked unconscious by the same child repeatedly, another breakdown, chronic health issues. I am sure there is way more to come. And I'm sure I will lose that child eventually.

Actually I could pinpoint the lowest moment but it's so vile and horrid I'm not going to share as it's pretty shocking.

Everyone has their burdens to bear. These aren't things that can be compared like some misery Olympics - they are personal tragedies that deeply affect people's lives.

KurtWilde · 15/01/2022 10:43

There have been a few. I'm certain there will be more.

Thanks for everyone.

Saddm · 15/01/2022 10:46

Ringing 999 and reporting my own ds for a serious crime knowing I would never have him in my life anymore..

Original poster
Grapeapples · 15/01/2022 10:46

@emma1103

My son was stillborn in November. The last few months have been my lowest.
I am so sorry Flowers
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CharSiu · 15/01/2022 10:50

When my DD died nothing else has come even close to that time, it’s 7 years now.

Haroweller · 15/01/2022 11:05

@emma1103 how sad, I cant imagine your pain !! Flowers

lollipoprainbow · 15/01/2022 12:00

I don't agree everyone has their burdens to bear, some people live very charmed and lucky lives.

badlydrawnbear · 15/01/2022 12:11

The police coming to my house last September and telling me DH had been found dead, and then telling my young children

December 2020 when I genuinely believed that suicide would be a reasonable decision and my children would be better off without me.

Reconciling the second point with the impact of the first is difficult.

axillarytailofspence · 15/01/2022 12:23

I'm so sorry to hear about all of your suffering. When something really bad and tumultuous happened to me the only thing that kept me going was what my grown up daughter said to me - 'baby steps'. Losing a child is so much worse than what I went through. Thank you to all of you for sharing. x

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noblegreenk · 15/01/2022 12:27

When my mum died. I did ok for a couple of months before grief truly hit me. I was in my twenties and diagnosis to death was very quick. I think I was in shock at first. I didn't even tell close friends about her death for at least 6 months. I just couldn't verbalise it. It was a truly awful time.

bangintoons · 15/01/2022 12:31

Kneeling in a pool of my own piss on the kitchen floor whilst my foster mother kicked the life out of me.

Also, finding out my biological mother was a diagnosed psychopath and that I was in danger by living with her.

No heartbeat found when I was pregnant with my first baby.

Finding out my first dh had terminal cancer.

Crunchymum · 15/01/2022 12:44

Losing my mum.

Got a call to say she had collapsed at home and less than an hour later I was sitting with her body. The totality and finality if it was like nothing I could have ever imagined.

As difficult as it was / is, I realise that, to a degree, it is the natural order of things.

I truly cannot imagine to pain of losing a child. I respect the strength and fortitude of the parents who have had to deal with such heartbreak.

LadyT27 · 15/01/2022 12:49

Now, lost my mum who was my best friend last month.

peachgreen · 15/01/2022 12:55

The moment the paramedic told me there was nothing more they could do for DH. It was like an out of body experience, I didn't know I could even make a noise like that. It was awful. I pray I never experience anything like it again.

FourTeaFallOut · 15/01/2022 12:55

When ds2 couldn't fight off any infections, all his lymph nodes were raised, he was underweight, failing to grow and pale and tired all the time. It took months on end to find out he had coeliac disease and I might be one of a handful of mothers who quietly collapsed with relief with the diagnosis.

Garysmum · 15/01/2022 12:56

@lollipoprainbow

I don't agree everyone has their burdens to bear, some people live very charmed and lucky lives.
Maybe you are right but that makes it seem so much more unfair which is why I tell myself everyone has to suffer at some point.
Buytoomuchonebay · 15/01/2022 12:57

I have two low points
I had two small kids,had £8,000 of debt thanks to my useless ex who has never paid a penny,my family where useless and I just couldn’t see a way out with the loan sharks banging on my door-I had no money and he was strutting around with 10k in his back pocket-and thought the debt he’d left me in was funny
Karma got him in the end-he got 7 years for dealing drugs but I’ll never forget the feeling of having nothing and children who depended on me

Years later,someone I thought was a very good friend raped me
I lost everything (I mean everything) and had a mental breakdown
I managed to claw my way back up and met my now partner
The case went to court and he got found not guilty-if it hadn’t been for my dp I would have tumbled back down again

SusanSHelit · 15/01/2022 12:59

Mine was probably as a teenager. I suffered sa when I was 13, then became hyper sexual and very depressed. I was suicidal by 16.

I met dp a few months after leaving school (did a levels in college as never wanted to go back there again) and it's really all been up from there, with the exception of a few devastating loses.

Echobelly · 15/01/2022 12:59

Minor compared to most of this, but my first few years of secondary school were pretty miserable - I had no real friends and didn't feel much in common with anyone. But in the third year I found 'my people' and honestly the latter part of secondary school were some of the happiest of my life.

Bringmeadog · 15/01/2022 13:07

When I had been made homeless by my abusive partner, but as I was still on the tenancy the council wouldn’t help me as I ‘had a home’ and they told me to just go back there. I lived in a tent for a few weeks with all my possessions in my car. Then my car broke down……… I was in the middle of nowhere with no support network…….
This was about 5 years ago.

Today I’m married to a wonderful man, I have lovely holidays and we own a property.

I’ve always had a very positive attitude though and very much live in the moment, rather than thinking/planning too far ahead, which has its downsides, but means hard times are much easier to manage.

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