To ask you to please tell me something good, preferably about your DP

[BlingLoving]

I have clearly spent too much time on MN today and seem to have only clicked on threads about twattish men who are at best thoughtless and selfish, at worst abusive. So please tell me something good and remind me that obviously we see the worst on MN because 99% of the time we don't come on here to talk about the good stuff.

I'll start by saying that DH has sorted out a number of house/home related issues this week without me having to even think about them. He does this as normal actually, but in light of today's threads, I'm particularly grateful!

@Loyaultemelie

I always joke when you see these romantic gestures in films that true love isn't hearts and flowers it's going out to the car last and finding the heated seat on. It's buying toffee crisps in the garage when your wife hasn't been able to eat to try and tempt her. It's always switching the electric blanket on before we go up to warm my side of the bed (no electric blanket on his side he likes a cold bed). Most of all it's not really liking cats but putting up with them because the rest of us do then swearing blind there's only 1 housecat, well ok 2, now 3 but they will never sleep upstairs. Ok well Dd1 got hers up because she was anxious. Dd2 will never have hers up, ok it will stop her annoying Dd1. No more indoors. Here's an abandoned 2 week old kitten with disabilities to hand rear, ffs I'll carry it up to our bed shall I? (Spoiler he's still sleeping with us at 10 weeks and DH still carries him up every night without question even though he could walk up himself.)

Absolutely this. It's DH insisting on going out to defrost the car for me and happily removing spiders that we both know I'm perfectly capable of removing.

My DH is an amazing dad to our DC. He loves them so much that it makes me love him more.

I can be quite reactive and panic about things that haven't even happened yet; he talks me down and is more realistic.

He's really good with practical things like fixing the washing machine or sorting the car out if there's an issue. I wouldn't have a clue if he didn't sort those kind of things out.

Hi, OP. We're moving your (rather lovely) thread to Chat now.

I don't have a partner so I can't contribute any positive comments in that respect, what I can contribute that's positive is that for the first time in my adult life I'm truly happy and content being single.

I'm focusing on myself and going back to uni to pursue my ambitions. Feeling hopeful and positive (again, for the first time in my adult life) for the future.

@KimMumsnet

Hi, OP. We're moving your (rather lovely) thread to Chat now.

Thank you.

DH was so kind to the kids this morning as he was getting them ready for school.

DS aged 3 was telling tall tales and DH was really listening, and taking him so seriously.

I hope these are the things that they remember when they are older - that he cared about the details of their lives.

My DH spent hours every day of the Christmas holidays helping our DS to revise for an upcoming exam. DS has had loads of disruption in the last few weeks of term - he was off with Covid for two weeks (we all were) and then his year-group was put on remote learning for six days out of the last ten with very poor work provision because of staff absences, so he's really not prepared for this exam at all, and it's a big one. He and I stress each other out when it comes to this particular subject, but DH just quietly sat with him and very patiently took him through the aspects he'd missed, despite being exhausted from Covid and a long teaching term himself (he's a uni lecturer in an entirely different subject). He found imaginative ways to get DS engaged and probably achieved more in those two weeks than DS's subject teacher has all term!

I was up all night with the baby , got maybe 40 minutes sleep. DH was nightshift , when he came home he sat up while I went for a sleep ,luckily he's not in work tonight.

He also does a lot around the house and doesn't complain when he comes home and housework hasn't been finished , he knows our little one is constant at the breast (far too heavy for putting in a sling).

My husband is the kindest, most honest, most patient and supportive person I've ever met. He has never raised even his voice to me and would never dream of stopping me from doing anything I wanted to do. He is very level headed, hardworking and down to earth. My babies and I are very lucky to have him.

I really think my DH is a gem. We both work full time and have a 13 month old. The childcare, housework, cooking etc is all split equally! Even better because he is an excellent cook!
When I was pregnant with DS (during first lockdown) he made me a cup of tea in bed everyday. He does it every weekend anyway. I’ve just found out we’re expecting baby number two (5 weeks) and he’s already doing his extra share as I’ve been feeling full of headache and really tired.

We also decided to treat ourselves to new laptops for our christmas presents as ours are ancient! The one I wanted was a few hundred pounds cheaper than the one he wanted. Didn’t bother me as he uses it for more complicated things than me. He asked me a few days after Christmas if I was going to buy myself something frivolous, just because I wanted it and not needed it, what would it be! I replied with some Fairfax and Favor boots and showed him the ones I had my eye on and low and behold a few days later, a pair arrived! He felt guilty because his laptop cost more than mine! Doesn’t bother me, he earns way more than me but he always maintains I work harder than him for less pay so I deserve to be treated…not going to argue! 😂

I'm most definitely middle aged, but DH still always makes me feel like the prettiest girl in the room.

Such a nice read.

@BlingLoving

I have clearly spent too much time on MN today and seem to have only clicked on threads about twattish men who are at best thoughtless and selfish, at worst abusive. So please tell me something good and remind me that obviously we see the worst on MN because 99% of the time we don't come on here to talk about the good stuff.

I'll start by saying that DH has sorted out a number of house/home related issues this week without me having to even think about them. He does this as normal actually, but in light of today's threads, I'm particularly grateful!

This thread was very recent and was a lovely read.

On Xmas Eve my DH came to the rescue of three women at the petrol pump who had a flat tire. He did a good deed, and buggered his back in the process, which he’s now paying to have put right. He hasn’t complained at all, even though he must have been in a lot of pain.