To ask you to please tell me something good, preferably about your DP

[BlingLoving]

I have clearly spent too much time on MN today and seem to have only clicked on threads about twattish men who are at best thoughtless and selfish, at worst abusive. So please tell me something good and remind me that obviously we see the worst on MN because 99% of the time we don't come on here to talk about the good stuff.

I'll start by saying that DH has sorted out a number of house/home related issues this week without me having to even think about them. He does this as normal actually, but in light of today's threads, I'm particularly grateful!

My dh is amazing.
He's out in the ambulance tonight saving lives. His job pushes him sometimes to the limit and he's so brave yet despite being so challenged he still tries his best to be the best dad ever. Always down on the floor playing even when shattered. When ds used to wet the bed he'd always be straight in there with me changing the sheets even when I insist I can do it alone and that he can sleep.
I'm a nervous driver and he has endless patience with this. Never minds giving me lifts or being a passenger but helping if I have a wobble at a roundabout or whatever.
Tells me I'm beautiful.
I'm pregnant and he surprised me with booking a pregnancy massage.
Does absolutely loads around the house and very much shares the mental load.
Loves his mum and family.
Always been there for me.
Is gorgeous.
Gave me an incredible proposal in Paris which I still think about every day (it was 4 years ago now).
I could go on!

Mine is amazing, as someone said earlier not perfect but perfect for me. He cooks everything (because he likes doing it), but it’s all geared around what he knows I like, and if I’ve had a shite day I know he will have made something particularly nice to try and cheer me up. Breakfast in bed at weekends, unbidden. He’s just an incredibly lovely thoughtful man. Lots of other lovely things about him too but don’t want to wang on!

My Dh brings me a cup of tea each morning, cleans the kitchen and puts soft music on the kitchen Alexa and the lights set just so, so when I come down in the morning I'll have a peaceful start to my day. Been together 17 years and he has flowers delivered for no reason every month or so. Least judgemental person I've ever met, and he's great in bed.

Married for 41 years, my husband is great - so laid-back, is happy if I'm happy. He's loyal, reliable, hardworking, a thoroughly decent bloke. He's had a lot to contend with over the years, with me (long-term depression, in and out of jobs over the years, then last July I had Covid and a stroke). I've been very lucky to have a husband like him.

He’s just nice and thoughtful, he takes a genuine interest in what you have to say, even if its a topic he isn’t hugely keen on. Home has been very hectic these last few weeks, he is very calm, where as I can panic, so he has kept us ticking along nicely these last few weeks.

He has walked my son to school everyday this week to give me a bit of breathing space in the mornings before work. He knows I’m worried about my son feeling jealous, forgotten, left out etc when our little girl comes home, so he has been doing so much with him and really prioritising him and his feelings. I’m very excited about seeing him become a Dad, he’s so patient and understanding, I wouldn’t be surprised if he does a much better job of it than I do.

My husband does most of the housework and we share childcare when our children are ill by both taking time off from work. We both work full time and it feels like we share the family load. He has been lovely seeing lots of my family over Christmas and making my family welcome. I thought I’d missed the chance to have children when my first marriage ended in my early thirties but I was incredibly lucky to meet my now husband at 35. I feel like I’ve won the lottery as we have two healthy children (after IVF to have our first child we had our youngest child 18 months later). I’ve made a resolution to tell him more how much I appreciate him as we have a lovely family life.

DP fixes my car and those belonging to DS and DD
I have never had to pay a plumber, electrician or gas fitter - he is also good at mending most things from TVs to vacuum cleaners
He is also very caring if I’m unwell and always offers to drive if I want a drink with a meal or if out

This might be outing but after 3 failed IVFs, my DH was diagnosed with cancer. It was devastating on every level. He was in his 30s. Selfishly and now incredibly I fixated on the impact on having a child - pretty much all avenues, including adoption, were off the cards as a result. He went through hell. After his first appointment with the oncologist and before his chemo started, he went - without my knowledge - to the fertility clinic to give a 'sample'. As a result, my 6 year old is asleep upstairs. DH is still here too. Legend.

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@Benjispruce5
I know . And all the OP wanted was 'good' .

What a joy this thread is!

DH and I have been together since we were teenagers - 25 years. He is still the most fundamentally decent, wonderful human being I have ever met. Tbh he does more than his fair share at home as well as working really hard. We laugh every day and he is really sexy too. 😊

Loved reading this thread
Im lucky if mine makes me a cup of tea 😭

I don’t have a DH, but an ex DH so don’t know if this counts!
He gives my car a full valet clean once a month, fixes anything that breaks in my house.
Always there when I need anything, respects all my decisions about the children and will happily take them on nights that aren’t “his”
Although we didn’t work out, we grew apart as a couple (after 12 years) but he has stayed one of my best friends.

My dh went back out to the shop to buy me the sandwich thins he had forgot to get me earlier even though there was normal bread in 🤣

Mine rubs my knees, my ankles and my back when we are laid on the sofa in the evenings. He does it without even asking. It's been killing me today (chronic pain) and now my back feels so nice.

When we first used to date, before he went home at night he used to do my hot water bottle for me and pop it in my bed so it was nice and warm for when I got in

Had my covid booster today and have some awful side effects!

DH came home from work and sent me to bed, sorted the kids' tea, read with them, did bath time, sorted their clothes for the morning, put them to bed and made dinner.

This doesn't make him a saint for doing normal household stuff I know but it's usually tasks that would be shared between us so I was grateful for the break.

I love mine so much, he can be a pain in the arse but he's my pain in the arse. Sadly, cancer and a stroke have robbed him of the ability to do any of the things he used to do for me and I am now nursing him in his final weeks/months. I miss him so much already, how will I cope without his annoying ways?

I was diagnosed with breast cancer back at the end of November. He has been amazing. He has taken over all the life admin, cooking, housework. He is never too busy to give me a hug when I feel sad. Would give me the world if he could. I had a lecture from the consultant about losing weight so now he is researching healthy meals and devising an exercise plan that we can both follow.

Mine is very, very good at keeping me grounded when I spiral out of control with anxiety. He is a good, kind, calm person.

Last week we had so many fireworks on new year’s eve, and I walked in to the room to find him making up a song for the cat, telling her what a good, brave girl she was. (She wasn’t really brave at all.)

There was a massive house spider on the bedroom wall the other night, he usually puts them outside for me but it fell on the floor and ran under the bed. He spent about 10 minutes following it from one side of the bed to the other manoeuvring between the boxes under the bed and lifting up the mattress to catch it and put it outside lol

Mine is the kindest, funniest, most generous person I’ve ever met. I can be completely honest with him and he’s not phased by anything, he just seems to adore me no matter what. And he is always doing whatever he can to help me and make my life easier, even really shitty things, without moaning. And he’s really good at pretty much everything, any DIY type thing he just does it brilliantly. And he is a great shag and has a massive 🍆

@Duckington Betnovate is the only one that is working. I have to do it twice a day for about a week to start to get it under control, if I miss some of those doses it doesn't get worse but doesn't get better either

@BlueLines81 proper laughing at your last sentence 😂😂

I always joke when you see these romantic gestures in films that true love isn't hearts and flowers it's going out to the car last and finding the heated seat on. It's buying toffee crisps in the garage when your wife hasn't been able to eat to try and tempt her. It's always switching the electric blanket on before we go up to warm my side of the bed (no electric blanket on his side he likes a cold bed).
Most of all it's not really liking cats but putting up with them because the rest of us do then swearing blind there's only 1 housecat, well ok 2, now 3 but they will never sleep upstairs.
Ok well Dd1 got hers up because she was anxious. Dd2 will never have hers up, ok it will stop her annoying Dd1.
No more indoors. Here's an abandoned 2 week old kitten with disabilities to hand rear, ffs I'll carry it up to our bed shall I? (Spoiler he's still sleeping with us at 10 weeks and DH still carries him up every night without question even though he could walk up himself.)