To ask you to please tell me something good, preferably about your DP

[BlingLoving]

I have clearly spent too much time on MN today and seem to have only clicked on threads about twattish men who are at best thoughtless and selfish, at worst abusive. So please tell me something good and remind me that obviously we see the worst on MN because 99% of the time we don't come on here to talk about the good stuff.

I'll start by saying that DH has sorted out a number of house/home related issues this week without me having to even think about them. He does this as normal actually, but in light of today's threads, I'm particularly grateful!

My DH has started going running every other day. I was a bit worried about his health and it's a big relief to know that he can take care of himself.

He donated a section of his liver to our son for a liver transplant when he was 6 months old and had 2 weeks left to live. The risk of death for the donor is 1 in 200.
Our son survived and is now 7.

I think I will take some of your DPs, esp the ones who do all the cooking.

He's a genuine partner in our relationship. He's kind and clever and a good man. He respects me & our kids. He cooks well and does the things I hate doing!

I'm on the train home from a long day at work and I know that DH will be waiting in the car for me at the station just because he's lovely. He'll ask me several time this evening if I'm ok and probably tell me he loves me several times too. I could write a really long list but just take my word for it, he's just so, so kind and caring. I do try and tell him as often as I think to how much I appreciate him, but I really hope he actually knows.

I scratched my car accidentally a few weeks ago, DH has sorted it to be fixed today on the driveway without me having to lift a finger or book it etc. Legend!

He was prepared to limit his own career aspirations in favour of mine.
I think that's still pretty unusual now, and it definitely was when we were younger.
And he brings me a cup of tea in bed every morning.

My DH pulls his weight but when I was poorly he really stepped up, he was sympathetic, a shoulder to cry on and took on the lions share of the work, constantly telling me to rest and do less. He really is a superstar.

Mine is not perfect by any means, but he is an excellent dad, great in bed and fiercely independent and has taught me to be too. I would never launched my freelance career without him. He is also REALLY communicative. And it’s saved our relationship a few times.

@penguinwithasuitcase that made me get teary!

DH is currently cooking aubergine parmigiana which I have never once in my life been arsed to make because it is too much faff.
He was been digging our garden in the rain and frost. He taxis our teens everywhere and stays up late for them because I get tired earlier than he does. He bought me and everyone else in the family gorgeous, imaginative Christmas presents. Yesterday he made us all laugh so hard we couldn't breathe. He constantly tells me he thinks I'm gorgeous, even when I was three stone overweight and very down about my looks. He redecorates when I'm away with work so I come back to freshly painted rooms and don't have to put up with the disruption and paint fumes.He's a good dad.

Best thing about my DP is that I don’t have one

@LuckyMeISeeGhosts

DH is so wonderfully supportive, kind, thoughtful, and generous. There's nothing he wouldn't do for me or my family.

I love him to bits.

This sums up my exact feelings about my DH as well.

We had a pretty rough patch a couple of years ago and separated for a few months. The only advantage of covid has been the rebuilding of our marriage and its wonderful again.
DH cooks every night without fail. He brings me a cuppa in the morning or its waiting on the side for me if I've gone for a shower. Every now and then he will bring me a warm pasty home for lunch if he stops in on his break.
I had a really bad depression spell a couple of months ago and he supported me all the way through, took the kids out when it got too much and just generally took more of a lead on life. He knows now when I need space.

Lastly but most importantly he comes up to give me a kiss every morning before he goes to work. Even if I'm asleep. Never leaves the house without one

He made my breakfast and defrosted my car before I went to work. Complete opposite of my ex and it's bliss!

He also got me three different Dave Grohl autobiographies for Christmas because he wasn't sure which one was the right one. That did make me laugh but just a sign that he wanted to make sure I got what I wanted!

I recently had a bout of something - gallstones, pancreatitis, nobody seems to know or care - that caused two weeks of excruciating pain and cyclical vomiting. My DP installed me in his house, liaised with my teenaged DC and ex husband to ensure they were taken care of, facilitated them coming to stay a few nights so they could see me, picked up my medications, made sure I took them, and tried to encourage me to eat. I think what capped it off was when I realised he was inspecting my sick bowl because he was concerned I was throwing up blood.

He makes me coffee and breakfast every morning when I'm with him, runs me a bath every night, and puts a drink in my bedside table for when I get out. I have mobility problems and I only have to falter on my feet and he's there at my side holding an arm to grab. He's always doing small thoughtful things, like bringing me back a grape slush is from the shop when he's popped out for bread, because I love them. He just takes care of me and wants me to be happy.

Mine picks up other peoples dog poo whilst out on a dog walk

He was relatively young when he met me with no real responsibilities in life and took on my children ( one a baby) as his own and loves them as much as the child we have together. He has all the good qualities a man could aspire to have despite the childhood and horrific events he lived through. Not only that but he also buys me things to do with my celebrity crush even though he has no interest in him because it makes me happy.

My DP spent half the night up with our 3 months old, even though I'm om mat leave, so I could at least get half a nights sleep. Then tonight her went to the climbing gym with me, holding our son while I climbed and entertaining my climbing partner while I breastfed. And when we got home, he cooked a healthy and delicious dinner while I cared for our son.

Definitely not a twat. I love him, he is a wonderful father to our baby, and he really cares for me and works hard to make sure I'm happy, even when we're both exhausted.

Lots of things.

He is an amazing dad and will do anything for our kids. He’s always thinking of ways to make us and them happy.

He’s kind and caring and makes us all feel really safe.

He makes me laugh most days.

He just gave me his last chip without me asking even though he’s trying to lose weight and was looking forward to his dinner.

He once read a trashy novel for me as I’d read it and was desperate to discuss it with someone.

When I had friends round last month and was tired and a bit stressed cooking dinner he gave the floors downstairs the best sweep and clean it’s had since we lived here.

He’s my best friend. I’m so lucky to have him after some truly shitty awful men.

Oh and he tells me every day I’m gorgeous and have an amazing body which I know not to be true but I love him for it.

I have a combination of health problems that have made me very poorly over the last year. My dh has looked after me, never complained, supported me when I have felt depressed, encouraged me and cheered me on as I have fought to get better. He has taken on much more of the household tasks and care of our children without ever blaming me for his tiredness or acting resentful. He has been there for every test and hospital trip, waiting outside when he couldn't come in due to covid. He clearly meant the "in sickness and in health" part of our vows and has just been amazing. I wouldn't have got through it all without him.

I opened a letter addressed to me a few months back. It was one of a pile of 4, one to me, one to him, one to DD and one DS. It was ISA statements. I've never needed to even discuss money with him - he puts more than half his savings in my name by default, even though he knows I have a decent salary and save some cash myself, he recognises that my career took a hit from two maternity leaves and me now working 4 days and makes sure the savings give me a bit more security.

Tells me he loves me every day, excellent in bed, everything with us is 50/50 - dometic work, childcare etc. Works hard, puts me and the kids first, talented and interesting, good at baking. Obviously he has his faults but that's not what this thread is about!