To ask you to please tell me something good, preferably about your DP

[BlingLoving]

I have clearly spent too much time on MN today and seem to have only clicked on threads about twattish men who are at best thoughtless and selfish, at worst abusive. So please tell me something good and remind me that obviously we see the worst on MN because 99% of the time we don't come on here to talk about the good stuff.

I'll start by saying that DH has sorted out a number of house/home related issues this week without me having to even think about them. He does this as normal actually, but in light of today's threads, I'm particularly grateful!

My husband is so lovely. He is just so selfless and always puts me and the family first. He is step father to my younger children and just gives them absolutely everything he gives our youngest in terms of love, time, attention and financial support. He really prioritises my need to have a break from things and also does all the washing

@AlDanvers, you just made me cry. What a wonderful man you married. I'm so sorry for your loss, I still miss my Mam every day.

My DH went & picked up my hrt prescription without being asked today. It's the small things that matter. 😁

@AlDanvers

Dp has been our rock.

Mum died in December, the funeral was between Christmas and New year. He cancelled all his plans. Made himself available for me, dad and my kids.

Everytime, he has known the right gesture or quiet word. On Christmas Day he was amazing. Handling the odd tear with calmness and kindness. Dad has a cry in the back garden. Dp just stood with him. Didn't say anything just stood and dad was so touched. He said he didn't eat to talk but didnr want to be alone either and dp really helped him.

My kids are 17 and 10. But the first night after she died, he sat up all night to listen if any of us had nightmare or the kids needed something, just so I could get a bit of sleep.

He has continued to support us in every way. And when we all have said thank you he looks baffled and insists he isn't doing anything above what he should.

I genuinely, don't think I would have survived the last 5 weeks without him.

I had a small tear reading this. Thank you. And I'm sorry for your loss - I lost my mum at Christmas a few years ago and it was really hard. x

@Ofcourseinamechangedforthisyou

Mine gave me a seriously mind blowing orgasm at lunchtime. Work from home silver linings.

And he does the bins.

You definitely win!:)

I've got rotten period pain. DH wrapped me in a blanket, let me fall asleep on him and didn't even moan when I dribbled on him a bit. And he's just ordered me Chinese. He's top.

@Ofcourseinamechangedforthisyou

Mine gave me a seriously mind blowing orgasm at lunchtime. Work from home silver linings.

And he does the bins.

To be fair, what else do we want from men than that? :-D

@JorisBonson

I've got rotten period pain. DH wrapped me in a blanket, let me fall asleep on him and didn't even moan when I dribbled on him a bit. And he's just ordered me Chinese. He's top.

What a good egg he is!

Mine is a fabulous doer of things. Tbh I need to up my adulting game; he's tidier, does more house-work and more cooking than me.

He's also kind. I'm currently heavily pregnant and he frequently fetches me things so I don't have to get up and get them.

He lets me put my ice cold feet on him in bed at night.
He often brings me tea in bed in the morning (he used to do this before leaving at 6.15 for work).
Tells me he loves me pretty much every day.
Is a very caring parent to the (now adult) DC.

Today dh has checked with me what shopping he needs to get tomorrow and is getting excited about laying the new kitchen floor tiles.
He also texts me every day and calls me sexy bum. Beauty, in this case, is definitely in the eye of the beholder

He's my ex... but no problems at all!
Co parent
He'd do anything for us
Pays over and above maintenance inc his step son
Is an excellent father

It can be done

I do read these threads and think wow my ex is wonderful compared to some of these womens husbands!!

He makes me laugh on my darkest days. He's a fantastic dad, always playing with them and building things with them. He's my absolute rock and let's me use him as a radiator when I'm cold.

He has a huge dick and he does the bins. He’s perfect.

DP currently putting all the food shopping away while I sit on the sofa eating spaghetti and meatballs which he made earlier on in the day 😃
Generally he does all the cooking, it's bliss!

Mine rescued me from an abusive home life with my alcoholic mum. I was 21, I'm now 33. I have done things I never thought I would or could because he was my sword and shield, he denies it because he's humble. It feels highly unfeminist to say all that but idc because I adore him and he adores me

DP notices things.

New haircut? He notices (and compliments it)
Stuff on the stairs to go up? He notices (and takes it up and puts it away)
Drain needs unblocking? He notices (and sorts it straight away)

And he's always so proud of what I do- whether I've made something (I do a lot of crafty stuff), or run a bit further (or even just gone out for a run) or whatever.

Life is just so much better with him in it.

DH is everything an equal partner should be. It's been 23 yrs and he continues to be the hardworking, kind, sensitive and generous boy I met at college. He puts his family first every time.

He also adores me. I never take this for granted. His faith in us is unshakeable. He's a real rock. Just a good egg. We work hard at it though. It's a partnership.

DP is nearly always up first and brings me a cup of tea about 5 minutes before the alarm goes so its at perfect drinking temperature when I wake up.

If he's here(he sometimes works away) he always does the school run and he takes total responsibility for helping the DCs with maths, music, foreign languages and science homework (he's pretty good at the other subjects too!)

He buys vitamin tablets and makes sure everyone takes them.

He feeds the cats

When I was in bed for over 6 weeks with a very bad spell of depression he looked after me, made sure I ate something even if he could only get bovril into me and coaxed out of bed everyday long enough to take a shower while he changed the sheets. He even brushed my hair. That was 20 years ago about a year or so after I'd met him - knew he was a keeper. I think a lot of men would have walked.

Dh buys me a bunch of flowers every week just because he knows I like them. He also surprised me today by finishing work early and taking me out for lunch. He’s the best!

Such a small thing.
The light in the bathroom has gone, no idea what's wrong and someone's coming to have a look at it tomorrow.
Tell DH I need a shower but not looking forward to one in the dark.
About an hour later I go to the bathroom and there's an LED torch strapped to a coat hanger hanging from the ceiling.
He does little things like this often.
Hot water bottles if I'm cold.
Drinks when I'm thirsty.
He is very generous with the little bit of spare money we have.
Hes not soppy but he is thoughtful.

I've been with DH for 20 years and he's still my favourite person - funny, kind, understanding. If I could choose anyone to hang out with, it would be him (quite a feat after so much time in lockdown). Made light of me making a serious mistake on something important today - didn't rub it in, or make me feel stupid. Have supported me through a lot of tricky stuff this year. Sneaky shag this morning when the DC had gone off to school too....If I could go back in time and talk to my younger self (who got a bad case of cold feet because of bad family background), I'd tell her/me "Don't worry, you're going to be so happy together - he's the Real Deal. For life."

He's a pretty good man all round.

He made us all dinner even though he didn't want any and now he's washing the dishes.

He's kind. He'll make me cups of tea and always wants a cuddle before we go to sleep (with no pressure for anything more.)

He's a good dad. Our DDs adore him, he'd do anything for them and does 50% of the parenting, school runs, bedtimes, bathtimes etc.

He's practical. He can change light fittings, fix a leaking tap, run cables for the TV through the wall to make everything look tidier. He's great at DIY.

He loves me. He'll always listen to me, even if I'm just having a moan. He tells me I have a great bum even though it's like the back of a bus.

I've been with my DH for 10 years and I just love him. He's not perfect and neither am I but we're a team.