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Choose or avoid same birthday as DH when booking a c sec?

83 replies

Helpnamebabyboy · 03/01/2022 08:25

Major first world problem here.

I’m due soon with baby #2 and it will be a scheduled c-section. The hospital have said any date after xx, and the first available day happens to be DH’s birthday. Aside from the fact I am desperate to get the baby out Grin I can’t decide if she is likely to grow up loving or resenting having the same birthday as her DDad. DH doesn’t mind either way but definitely has a big soft spot for the idea.

It’s also a culturally significant date that would be cool to have as a birthday growing up and while at Uni, lots of boozing involved Wink

OP posts:
alh26 · 03/01/2022 08:27

St paddy's day? I'd choose a different date personally so they can have their own day

Newbabycousin · 03/01/2022 08:29

Different date. My birthday was the same as a close relative and i would have preferred to have a different day.

grapewine · 03/01/2022 08:30

Don't. I'd really hate that, personally.

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Youvegotafriendinme · 03/01/2022 08:32

Different day. 100%

Mol1628 · 03/01/2022 08:32

Avoid. Fun and endearing when they’re a baby/toddler. But not so much when they become their own self separate from their parents.

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 03/01/2022 08:33

Different.

CatCup · 03/01/2022 08:34

Different

girlmom21 · 03/01/2022 08:34

Definitely different.

JaneExotic · 03/01/2022 08:34

I’d do the same!

user1471447924 · 03/01/2022 08:36

Different

girlmom21 · 03/01/2022 08:36

If you do the same you're not going to be able to just go for a nice meal, just the two of you, or do anything special specifically for him for at least the next 12 years without feeling guilty to be leaving the child alone on their birthday.

Twilightstarbright · 03/01/2022 08:37

As someone who has the same birthday as their DH, I’d say no. Different if it happens naturally/twins but even a day apart is better than constantly sharing.

Lightningrain · 03/01/2022 08:38

Different.

My friend’s DP has the same birthday as his Dad and they can never go out by themselves or away for his birthday as his Dad apparently will feel put out that his family isn’t available to go for a meal with him on his birthday.

Scout2016 · 03/01/2022 08:38

No, don't deliberately make them share their birthday.

Suretobe · 03/01/2022 08:39

I have a friend who did exactly that and it’s all fine.

Aroundtheworldin80moves · 03/01/2022 08:40

My DD has the same birthday as my mother. Even thats awkward enough...

DSGR · 03/01/2022 08:40

Choose a different day. Everybody has a right to feel like their birthday is THEIR special day

MerryChristmas21 · 03/01/2022 08:41

Different.

They each deserve their own day.

My friend adopted a baby, the baby just happened to have the same birthday. It was cute at first, but wears thin never having a birthday of your own.

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Helpnamebabyboy · 03/01/2022 08:44

Just to add, DH is the most selfless and mild mannered bloke and I can guarantee he would never guilt trip her to spend the day with him if she wanted to see her mates etc. However, point taken!

And yes it’s St Paddy’s (not many culturally significant boozy days each year) Grin

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seaduck · 03/01/2022 08:44

Yes different and if possible leave more than 1 day gap! My partner and son have one day apart and although he'd never say it, he does find I'm usually stressed doing last minute wrapping, preparing for party for my son on his birthday evening. But I think one day is better than the same!

musicalfrog · 03/01/2022 08:44

Having shared my birthday with mothers day on just one occasion I say choose a different day!

slalomsuki · 03/01/2022 08:46

Avoid. My DD and I share a birthday due to no fault of her own and I hate it. My age froze on the day she was born as no one has acknowledged my birthday since then except funnily enough her as she has got older.

Other child is a Christmas baby and that's worse though!

talkalarm · 03/01/2022 08:48

Avoid - let them both have their special day. I literally do not know a single person who shares a birthday who is pleased about it

SmallThingsEverywhere · 03/01/2022 08:52

Avoid! It will not be fun for either one of them to be sharing a birthday.

Camembear · 03/01/2022 08:53

I don’t think it matters too much. You might not get the choice in the end though!