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Choose or avoid same birthday as DH when booking a c sec?

83 replies

Helpnamebabyboy · 03/01/2022 08:25

Major first world problem here.

I’m due soon with baby #2 and it will be a scheduled c-section. The hospital have said any date after xx, and the first available day happens to be DH’s birthday. Aside from the fact I am desperate to get the baby out Grin I can’t decide if she is likely to grow up loving or resenting having the same birthday as her DDad. DH doesn’t mind either way but definitely has a big soft spot for the idea.

It’s also a culturally significant date that would be cool to have as a birthday growing up and while at Uni, lots of boozing involved Wink

OP posts:
SushiGo · 03/01/2022 09:29

@Lightningrain

Different.

My friend’s DP has the same birthday as his Dad and they can never go out by themselves or away for his birthday as his Dad apparently will feel put out that his family isn’t available to go for a meal with him on his birthday.

Also have a friend whose dad has to be the star on their joint birthday...

Your kid will probably want to spend their birthday just with their friends or partner at some point in their lives. Much easier if there's no parental guilt about spending it together every year.

Bigassbeebuzzbuzz · 03/01/2022 09:29

Definitely different ds2 was due about 4/5 days after his dads birthday. His dad also shares a birthday with his grandad who passed when he was little. He hated it because he said everyone was always sad on his birthday. Luckily ds2 missed that date and has his own day.

Chamomileteaplease · 03/01/2022 09:55

Almost unanimous!

Despite what your DH says, I am sure he will appreciate his own birthday and appreciation in the years to come.

And yes to two days difference if possible!

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Helpnamebabyboy · 03/01/2022 10:48

Wow thank you everyone. I definitely wasn’t expecting such a unanimous response…glad I asked!

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Newyearoldyou · 03/01/2022 10:56

The attention is hardly split 🤣 it feels like sort of patting a dog all day dragging myself away from patting dh on the head with his big I am 47 birthday rosette and then giving dc some attention 🤣🤣.

My husband is a big boy and like me we don't do anything on our bday except revive a gift.

Newyearoldyou · 03/01/2022 10:58

How many have got it though!
We think it's sweet in our family op but as said neither dh nor myself expect to be feited or petted all day on our birthdays!
In fact it actually makes more of dh bday really and makes it more exciting. But.. It is work for me getting all the cards signed etc.

2pinkginsplease · 03/01/2022 10:59

Sharing a birthday with dad wouldn’t put me off but having my birthday on St Paddy’s day would annoy me , so for that reason alone I’d prick another day.

Newyearoldyou · 03/01/2022 11:00

I have suppose those big adult babies do exist.

Nct mum said she whipped down all the Christmas decorations on the night of the 25th December because it was her "husbands" birthday on boxing day!
I couldn't believe it Shock I felt it was extremely selfish!!

SouthParkCovid · 03/01/2022 11:01

Hi op, my DD was born on my EXH's 40 birthday 😂.

Honestly, i find it quite funny. I could of delayed but I was bloody desperate to get her out!

Avoid if you can but if its not possible they'll share a special day together.

CMhater · 03/01/2022 11:04

I'm just wondering what Uni you have planned for herHmm

Skeumorph · 03/01/2022 11:05

Oh gosh definitely different, especially if it’s a day that’s a celebration anyway! Give her her own day, preferably a couple of days later at least!

WakeUpLockie · 03/01/2022 11:08

Different. DH’s parents chose to have him on his brother’s birthday and mention it all the time, as if it’s some great joke. Dh hates it!

TimBoothseyes · 03/01/2022 11:39

As somebody who has a birthday on a celebration day I say don't do it, if only to spare your child a lifetime of "ooooooh that's St Patricks Day" everytime his birth date is mentioned. Grin

TimBoothseyes · 03/01/2022 11:40

Apologies Op her not him.

romdowa · 03/01/2022 11:45

When I was booking my csection , my consultant asked for the dates of birthdays that fell around the same time. She said unless it's an emergency then she won't deliver babies so that they share a birthday with someone close to them. So I had my son three days after my own birthday . She said its because she shares a birthday with her older sister and hates it 🤣🤣

Immunetypegoblin · 03/01/2022 11:46

Go for different, ideally by a few days. My birthday is 2 days after my mother's, and she has now died. Every year I feel expected to go from 'I'm sad my mother is dead' to 'Whoo, party time' in 48 hours flat. It's a bit like emotional whiplash Confused

Sorry to be a bit morbid but it is definitely something I'd never have thought of before it happened to me....

BiscuitLover3678 · 03/01/2022 11:47

Different date please! She can always still party that day. And for you it’s a bit rubbish to have to organise two lots of birthday celebrations for the same day.

MillicentSpinning · 03/01/2022 12:07

Personally I'd wait 5 days and opt for 22-3-22... but then I like number-significant birthdays!

MargaretThursday · 03/01/2022 12:10

I'd make it at least 2 days apart, so there's a break of at least a day between them, so they don't have the one followed by the other two.

Two of mine are a week apart, and I think that's nice, but glad they aren't closer, especially when they were small and wanting parties!

Crunchymum · 03/01/2022 12:13

My eldest was born on DP birthday (DC was 10 days overdue). Its fine but none of us would have chosen this by design.

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 03/01/2022 13:10

My DD was born by c section on DH's birthday. I didn't even think to change it tbh. They love having the same birthday. I admit the first couple of his birthdays were overlooked but now they celebrate together and it's really nice.

Buytoomuchonebay · 03/01/2022 13:45

My son shares his birthday with his grandmother-they both hate it (he wants his own day and she can’t cope with not having full attention on her day-I’m nc with her now)
My fils birthday was the day after his daughter-he was over the moon-what a birthday present!
Both where happy as they had their own day even though they where close together
Like my mil says-Christmas is for everyone but your birthday is your own

NewPositiveYear · 03/01/2022 13:51

A friend of a friend got married on her birthday and later had a C section baby on her birthday too. I wouldn't.

NewPositiveYear · 03/01/2022 13:52

@Buytoomuchonebay

My son shares his birthday with his grandmother-they both hate it (he wants his own day and she can’t cope with not having full attention on her day-I’m nc with her now) My fils birthday was the day after his daughter-he was over the moon-what a birthday present! Both where happy as they had their own day even though they where close together Like my mil says-Christmas is for everyone but your birthday is your own
Not when it's Christmas day like mines. Grin
Greys007 · 03/01/2022 13:53

Our DS shares a birthday with DH 😊 it was his due estimated due date right from when my pregnancy was first dated, due date never changed and he was born right on cue 🤣 DH absolutely loves it - he says it’s great because now there’s double the cake 🤣🙈 I’m sure there will be years later on where they want to do their own thing etc but we’ll navigate that when the time comes 😊

St Paddy’s birthday when at uni is the ultimate night out btw 🤣🥳

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