Choose or avoid same birthday as DH when booking a c sec?

[Helpnamebabyboy]

Major first world problem here.

I’m due soon with baby #2 and it will be a scheduled c-section. The hospital have said any date after xx, and the first available day happens to be DH’s birthday. Aside from the fact I am desperate to get the baby out I can’t decide if she is likely to grow up loving or resenting having the same birthday as her DDad. DH doesn’t mind either way but definitely has a big soft spot for the idea.

It’s also a culturally significant date that would be cool to have as a birthday growing up and while at Uni, lots of boozing involved

I share a birthday with my Dad and I love it

Same day. I think it's cute they'll have that in common.

Avoid! DC1 and I share a birthday but when I was scheduling DC2s C-section (which was also due to fall on the same day) I asked the doctor to go a few days either side.

I'd give it a couple of days after

I wouldn't like for my birthday to fall on both a close relative birthday and st Patrick. Two fewer opportunities to celebrate/ get drunk!

Different. My birthday is one day different from one of my parents (as well as v close to Christmas!) and while I don’t hate it, I’d have preferred a day of my own.

Choose a different date. One of my DC has a birthday the day after our wedding anniversary and even that is annoying. Every anniversary is spent preparing for a birthday party the following day (blowing up balloons etc).

Plus (if you are in Ireland?) while everyone might be ‘out’ on Paddy’s day they’ll all be ‘out for Paddy’s’ not for the birthday. It will be an afterthought.

Absolutely a different day.

avoid for the reasons above.
and my dad and grandad were born on the same day. when my grandad died, my dad now feels extra horrendous on his own birthday and can't celebrate at all.

Avoid. I share a birthday with my dad and it's a pita to be honest. I'd like to have the day to myself, feels like there's family obligation on my actual birthday rather than most having the freedom to do what I want on my birthday.

Different if you can
My ds2 Was actually due on my birthday
He was late and I was quite relieved about that !

Different. My daughter was born on my birthday and I was quite tempted to tell her it was the day before... I have a close relative who has a Halloween birthday, ended up with themed birthdays and presents every year and got a bit frustrated by it!

Different 100000%, no question. If possible I'd try to get a few extra days in it so in future you'll all be more free to make birthday plans that don't clash.

Oh god different for sure.

Imagine wanting to go out to celebrate your birthday and everywhere being rammed with drunk people celebrating st Patrick's day. I'd leave it 2 or 3 days after that.

One thing is it happening by chance but if a child finds out you chose this date I can imagine a grumpy teen being difficult about it. Teens tend to be difficult about the colour of the sky- this would be a massive tool to beat you with if they so wish.

They might of course be one of those dream teens people mention having on here. Mythical beings 😉

@Helpnamebabyboy

Just to add, DH is the most selfless and mild mannered bloke and I can guarantee he would never guilt trip her to spend the day with him if she wanted to see her mates etc. However, point taken!

And yes it’s St Paddy’s (not many culturally significant boozy days each year)

But he's not going to have his own day either for years and years. He might be selfless but still might get annoyed that he never gets a birthday of his own.

If your Daughter becomes a Mum she will already have to share her birthday with Mothers day some years (one bunch of flowers, meal, present to cover both) so please don't let her have to share her birthday with her Dad as well.

My niece was born on my 18th and although I love it I didn't get to have a big family etc party of my own until my 40th (my 30th party was a few weeks early for some reason I can't remember and my 21st was spent in another country).

My mum even said to me once "don't forget it's DN's birthday tomorrow".

Personally, I'd avoid. I wouldn't like to share a birthday with a close family member if it could have been helped!

Different days!!

Well we have this and it's a little stressful doing cards for everyone but it's fine!!
Absolutely fine but dh is extremely laid back about his bday, we only really made a fuss on his big bday he doesn't get huffy about sharing the day at all.

I was born on my Mum's birthday and I'd definitely go for a different day.

Whatever is this bday on their own?
Both get presents, cards.. Go for a meal etc!! Dc obviously has party with friends usually on a different day anyway..

Avoid!

@Newyearoldyou

Whatever is this bday on their own? Both get presents, cards.. Go for a meal etc!! Dc obviously has party with friends usually on a different day anyway..

The attention would be split. It's nice to focus the attention wholly on one person for the day. Then the other person gets the same when it's their day! Particularly when you're a child, you feel special that it's your very own day.