Page 5 | What do you think of this dating profile wording?

betwixtlives · 03/01/2022 04:56

yikes. you should work on that chip on your shoulder, it’ll come across in person (if anyone matches you with that profile 😧)

PissedOffNeighbour22 · 03/01/2022 04:58

I had a similar but watered down version of what you wrote, OP. I had men contact me just to tell me that we wouldn't be a match as they didn't like XYZ about what I'd written. They never had an answer for why they thought I'd ever consider them as a match though. A quick look at their profiles showed they were almost all the 'if you're fat you can jog on' type .
I also received messages from men about me not wanting children and how this would be a huge issue for them. Again, they didn't even consider that I wouldn't want to match with them anyway.

I'd leave out the bit about kids and just set your preferences to only include those without children. Set your age limit too to avoid all the 20 somethings contacting you asking for a shag. Although, forgetting to set the age limit was the reason I met my DP. I used to set it as 30 minimum, but I forgot and he messaged me before I had chance to change it.

Derelicthome · 03/01/2022 05:10

Leave it! You sound full of personality and you don’t need to attract loads of guys just the one right one.

aurynne · 03/01/2022 06:04

My personal take on this profile: the only person more unpleasant and unlikable that the one this profile portrays is the man it would attract.

But perhaps they would be suited to one another.

Good luck!

And... peace. I guess.

whitewashing · 03/01/2022 06:20

‘Come out of your corner fighting! One fall or one submission…’

EveryFlightBeginsWithAFall · 03/01/2022 06:36

I'd just get rid of the peace

TrickyD · 03/01/2022 07:53

Children are ok but for me, well I couldn’t eat a whole one.

FGS please don’t use this boring old cliché unless you want to look a complete dickhead.

EishetChayil · 03/01/2022 07:56

I enjoy the irony of ending a super-combative screed with "Peace"

Mummadeze · 03/01/2022 08:38

I think this was a good read-write by someone else. It still sounds like you but is less forthright:

I’m often told I’m blunt… but at 39, I know what I want and I’m looking for someone who’s also clear in what they want. That will be dating with a view to finding a relationship - I’m not interested in FWB type situations, but good luck to those of you that are!

Independent, loyal, humourous and honest is what I am and what I want.

I like rock climbing, running, Ricky Gervais humour and fine wine. Quit smoking a year ago. I don't care about politics, religion or whether or not you're jabbed.

At my age, the children question is always floating around - and I said I’m blunt: I don’t have any, or want any, and I’m looking for someone in the same position.

So if you’re child-free and your ideal date is cracking The Office jokes 10m up a climbing wall before a chat over a glass of decent wine, we might find we get on.

thewhatsit · 03/01/2022 08:58

So I take it you’re re-writing it. What struck me was how negative everything was. It reads like you’re having an argument with everyone and even someone who ticks all the boxes will surely pick up on all the negativity and anger and just move on..
The statement about children and dying alone.. jeez. If you’ve not had children and don’t want them can’t that be presented as a positive choice?
“I’m childfree by choice and really happy with this decision” or “whilst I love children, I’ve chosen not to have any of my own” and leave it at that?

“I’m ultimately looking for a long term relationship” rather than all the anger about being too old for FWB.

Bluntness100 · 03/01/2022 09:44

I doubt anyone decent would be attracted to that, its aggressive and up its own arse.

I’d not just soften but try to focus on what you’re looking for and more about yourself. Don’t get me wrong,I like Ricky gervais too, but not so much it would be a critical point that I’d need to put on a dating profile.

Surmeslevres · 03/01/2022 10:12

Personally I think it is great. It will filter out all of the thin skinned man-babies etc. You might get a low response rate but the men who would reply will be ones worth dating. I would definitely respond to that profile.

Cocomarine · 03/01/2022 10:18

@SpankyPankhurst

I really love it and other posters' rewrites have been abominable (especially the one spattered with cutesy exclamation marks!!!). You sound honest, normal, grounded and sane. And intelligent.

You don't sound aggressive at all. You sound fantastic.

I’ve just scrolled back through as I’m one of the abominable re-writes 🤣 and was interested to know how many exclamation marks I’d used… from what I can see, there are 4 re-writes, only 3 have an explanation mark - and only one at that, and one of those has the exclamation mark from the original. The other two with a single exclamation mark (including mine) have ditched the OP’s, so not increased the !!! count 🤣

If you’re looking to date someone pedantic… 🤣🤣🤣

In all seriousness - I love a bit of pedantry but the reason I scrolled back and counted was because I’m fascinated at how differently people interpret the written word (I am not cutesy in the slightest 😉) and I find it so interesting how a small change can entirely change the perceived tone.

I swear loads, but I found, “twat” to be needlessly aggressive, whilst other people here found it funny or honest.

Nobody has commented on the typical OLD response though… many of your potential suitors won’t read this anyway, they’ll just look and then photo and go in with a lazy, predictable, “hi sexy!” or, “hello - how are you today?” 🙄

I’d definitely deploy “twat” for those 😄

Nathlash · 03/01/2022 10:23

@SarahDippity

Hope you tone down the aggro, OP! I really like the tone of *@OnlyClothes* version. It’s good to state your likes and intentions but keep the tone neutral.

(It remind me (a lot) of the types of profiles some men put up where the words are loaded with hostility against some imaginary female persona out there that they’re determined to weed out: ‘I’ve worked hard to build a good career but gold diggers can jog on.’ ‘I enjoy a few quiet pints with mates or a bottle of wine with Netflix, so if you’re needy or a drama queen, don’t bother.’)

Yes, this is exactly what it makes me think of. It presupposes some awful imaginary reader and invests most of its energy on telling them not to bother, in a shout.

Treecreature · 03/01/2022 10:32

I think it's perfect

Avarua · 03/01/2022 10:38

Good luck with dating OP. Be yourself, you sound great to me.

maddy68 · 03/01/2022 10:45

too aggressive. I would run for the hills. I would mention that you are looking for a proper relationship not interested in game playing or having children love the outdoors etc

furbabymama87 · 03/01/2022 10:55

I like the way you're honest and to the point but I think you come across a bit negative and aggressive.

littleburn · 03/01/2022 18:43

@PissedOffNeighbour22

I had a similar but watered down version of what you wrote, OP. I had men contact me just to tell me that we wouldn't be a match as they didn't like XYZ about what I'd written. They never had an answer for why they thought I'd ever consider them as a match though. A quick look at their profiles showed they were almost all the 'if you're fat you can jog on' type

. I also received messages from men about me not wanting children and how this would be a huge issue for them. Again, they didn't even consider that I wouldn't want to match with them anyway.

I'd leave out the bit about kids and just set your preferences to only include those without children. Set your age limit too to avoid all the 20 somethings contacting you asking for a shag. Although, forgetting to set the age limit was the reason I met my DP. I used to set it as 30 minimum, but I forgot and he messaged me before I had chance to change it.

Oh god, I had that on OLD too! Yes, the men you've not contacted/shown any interest in who nonetheless feel the need to get in touch to inform you that x,y or z uppity opinion means they're not going to match with you. Best be all sweet and submissive ladies and bland out your profiles or you'll never be picked by such princes!

MimosaFields · 08/01/2022 14:46

@1forAll74

I am always wondering, why so many people have to go on dating sites now. is it not possible to meet a person in real life; as like the oldie days,before dating sites existed.. It would seem like looking through a catalogue,and seeing if there is anything you fancied, and you get all the gen about the products etc. But if you buy something from a catalogue,and you dont like it, you can send it back.. but I suppose you can do this with dating sites,if you don't fancy a certain person, you can easily get rid of whoever.and kind of send them packing.

Sadly that doesn't work these days. A lot of us had this fantasy about meeting someone at a bar, gym or wherever, but after years of feeling invisible, the only option was OLD