Do you say 'Mum', or 'my mum', when speaking to a non-family member?

[EinsteinaGogo]

Inspired by a recent thread where the poster typed 'mum said XXX, dad said YYY', mum did XXZ, dad did YYY, all the way through a really, really long thread.

I've always said 'my mum, my dad' unless speaking to my brother or sister, because of course - my mum isn't your mum and I want to differentiate!

Sweeping generalisation but I have found that people who don't do this tend to be very insular / self focused. Stop saying 'mum' to me - it's not my mum!

How do you refer to your parent outside of family?
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Knocked on - interesting. Are you in Ireland ? I’m London ‘my’ used to everyone except family members where it was just mum or Ma.
To friends or neighbours of my mum I would always use her first name when referring.

Always say "my mum". Occasionally my brother and I say it to each other by mistake and then have a giggle because it sounds so weird when we share a mum.

If it’s someone who knows her I say ‘Mum’ as it’s replacing her name. It seems long winded to say ‘my’ throughout the conversation.

@Knockoneofftheshelftowin

I do say 'my mam' to siblings as well as others. My siblings say 'my mam' to me.

For some reason it makes me cringe when people say 'mam/mum' without the 'my'.

I’m in Yorkshire. If I referred to either of my parents without the “my” , my brother would be a bit and I might get an “ooohhh la di da, mama and papa”

'Mother darling' only. I would never use 'mum'.

My Mam and also, fwiw, I would use my baby. It sounds affected otherwise.

My mom. Except when talking to my brother it's mom.

Ok a related but really enraging thing-
my SIL refers to MY mum as 'mum'- both in speaking to her and about her!
NO! she's not your mum she's mine (and my brother's obvs)
just wierd

"My mother" in most situations - occasionally "Dear Mama" or "the mater"

My mum, unless I'm talking to my brother and then I say your mum

I'd say my mum

My mum. Gives me the edge when people say just “mum” “dad” as if it’s my parent too! Glad this ain’t just me OP!

Mami to my brother and my mother to absolutely everyone else under the sun. So yes, with the my to non siblings.

I just say mum or dad, and I don't think I am particularly self-obsessed nor did I think it was strange. "What did you do yesterday?" "I was at mum and dad's. Mum was telling me about xyz, dad was watching TV". I mean, who else's mum is it going to be?

DH says "my Mum" even when talking to his sister which I find weird.

Neither. I say Ma. I do find it irritating when people say "our" brother/sister/Mum. You would hardly be talking about another family in this contact. My neighbour does this: our Paul, our Dad.............

Mum if they know her, my mum if they don't.

Between ourselves, my brother and I will say me mum, me dad

eg - "I was going to do curry but you know what me mum's like, she doesn't do spicy"