Light hearted, how would you address post to us as a married couple?

[Terribleluck]

We got married and I didn't change my name. My official name is Ms X-Y. I married Mr. A. Post gets addressed to us as Mr & Mrs A-X. Wouldn't that imply he changed his name? It's a but silly, but had never thought about it before. I'm just clueless as to what would be the "norm".

I deliberately address all post to married friends using the woman’s surname. It’s my small feminist point making 😂

I’d probably go mr A and ms X-Y

But honestly as long as you’re getting the post what does it matter?

Hmm, I think most people would write Mr and Mrs X-A or A-X but if I knew you'd not changed your surname I'd put Mr A and Mrs X-Y.

I just send personal mail eg Christmas cards, using the people's first names and 'my person' first.

So brother and sister in law would be David and Sheila.

Aunt by blood and uncle who married her Victoria and Jonathan.

Depending on which of you I knew best then it would either be Ms X-Y & Mr A or Mr A & and X-Y

A-X does suggest he’s changed his name.

Yep, as above. First names on the envelope only.

Actually amongst our close friends we cut each surname in half and put them together. Sounds daft but it's quite funny and obviously on cards and nothing official.

I'd send it to one or the other of you if you had different surnames. I wouldn't combine you under 1 surname

@PragmaticWench

Actually amongst our close friends we cut each surname in half and put them together. Sounds daft but it's quite funny and obviously on cards and nothing official.

This is exactly what we do

I'd address to Ms X-Y and Mr A. Why would anyone combine your surnames if neither of you have changed them?

I tend to put just one name on the envelope and the card itself to everyone – it’s not like that person is going to hog the card.

To address to you both, if it had to include surnames, I’d do Ms X-Y and Mr A, as those are your names.

If it’s to friend I’d just put Steve & Mary the postman doesn’t need everyone’s full name to be able deliver it just postcode. Mr steve Jones and mrs Mary Evans to much of a mouthful.

We get Mr. A and Mrs. X-Y (or the other way around depending on who the sender is most familiar with) so that's what I'd write too.

I'd either put just first names or Ms X-Y and Mr A.

I’d probably put Mr & Mrs A-X

Our DS is Toddler A-X, and we sign our cards from the A-X family, but that's way before we got married.

@PurplePansy05

I'd address to Ms X-Y and Mr A. Why would anyone combine your surnames if neither of you have changed them?

I'd do similar but put Mr first, purely because it's more traditional

I'd address it to Mr A and Ms X-Y

If you had DC, I'd address to the Z family (Z being the DC's surname, which might be A, X-Y, any combination thereof, or a whole new one, on a vague idea that that's the family name going forwards into the next generation, and a version you're all at least partly happy with)

Or give up, and put only the name of the person I was related to or friends with first on the envelope, and use everyone's first names inside

I didn't change my name, and I do like it when people remember what my name actually is, rather than using what they think it should be.

I do "The XYA Family' if I don't know. Or the woman's name if she was my friend/family before marriage.

My friends are Mr X, Mrs X-Y and children are all X-Y. I always address cards to The X-Y family.

I'd do similar but put Mr first, purely because it's more traditional

I put the woman first because it’s less sexist

Same as PP, couples with different surnames get post addressed to 'John and Sue'. Couples with the same surname get it to 'The Smiths' unless they are 60+ in which case I sometimes remember to go for 'Mr and Mrs J Smith'. I hate it though and would much rather receive post to my first name or to us as 'The XXs' but feel like my parents' generation feels more strongly about envelope etiquette.

Our DS is Toddler A-X, and we sign our cards from the A-X family, but that's way before we got married.
Well, that’s your answer. If you’re signing from A-X family I think most people would assume he has changed his name to A-X and so have you!

@PragmaticWench

Actually amongst our close friends we cut each surname in half and put them together. Sounds daft but it's quite funny and obviously on cards and nothing official.

I do the same! For anyone either not married, or married with different surnames. There are some brilliant ones: Mr & Mrs GreatFace is my favourite.