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My Narcissistic birth person flung me out at 15. Ask me anything

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StarryNightSparkles · 28/11/2021 03:39

Apologies if this is the wrong section to post in. As per the title my birth person kicked me out when I was 15 in the 1990s please feel free to ask me anything you like.

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NataliaSerene · 28/11/2021 03:51

Where did you go?

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StarryNightSparkles · 28/11/2021 04:08

@NataliaSerene

Where did you go?
I went to my local council who didn't want to know. Then I went to a council preferred charity who shouted at me and said it was all my fault. Then I slept rough or couch surfed where I wasn't in safe places at all. At one point I was raped.
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StarryNightSparkles · 28/11/2021 04:10

During this time I also presented myself to the social work department who didn't want to know. I remember asking for money to buy sanitary supplies as my period started and was told it was my fault and I should have money to buy these things.

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AngelicaElizaAndPeggy · 28/11/2021 04:13

Why did she fling you out?

I hope that you now have a safe home and that you have good people around you.

ShrikeAttack · 28/11/2021 04:17

Ok. I had some shitty times in the 90s. And some great ones.

I've worked through it. Is there any reason you're still pissed off?

It's a long time to still be annoyed.

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StarryNightSparkles · 28/11/2021 04:20

@AngelicaElizaAndPeggy

Why did she fling you out?

I hope that you now have a safe home and that you have good people around you.

That is really kind of you 💐

She flung me out because her partner was physically, emotionally, mentally and sexually abusive to me and her. I stood up for us and got kicked out.

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StarryNightSparkles · 28/11/2021 04:22

@ShrikeAttack

Ok. I had some shitty times in the 90s. And some great ones.

I've worked through it. Is there any reason you're still pissed off?

It's a long time to still be annoyed.

I am not pissed off or annoyed. Through many years of counselling and reflection. I have accepted what I went through and what on some days still flashes through my mind.
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ShrikeAttack · 28/11/2021 04:24

I don't mean to be a dick, This happened to my husband after his mother died.

It's entirely possible for you to find satisfaction. You're obviously still angry but you don't have to remain angry.

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StarryNightSparkles · 28/11/2021 04:28

@ShrikeAttack

I don't mean to be a dick, This happened to my husband after his mother died.

It's entirely possible for you to find satisfaction. You're obviously still angry but you don't have to remain angry.

Thanks for your input, but I can assure you that I am not angry. Holding on to anger only robs you of time and memories and I wont give them that.
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groovergirl · 28/11/2021 05:02

Were you able to finish school?

Pyewackect · 28/11/2021 05:04

What is a birth person ?

Yogaandcocoa · 28/11/2021 05:25

@Pyewackect

What is a birth person ?
I was wondering this!

Do you mean your mother??

Krabapple · 28/11/2021 05:56

@ShrikeAttack

I don't mean to be a dick, This happened to my husband after his mother died.

It's entirely possible for you to find satisfaction. You're obviously still angry but you don't have to remain angry.

But you are being a Dick. What a nasty comment.

OP I hope you have come out the other side okay. I can’t imagine what you went through

R0tational · 28/11/2021 06:14

Hugs OP. You have had a really difficult time of it Sad How are you now? Are you settled somewhere warm and homely with friends who love you?

HollyBollyBooBoo · 28/11/2021 06:27

God what a horrific thing to go through. I'm so sorry you had to endure that. Have you found contentment now?

AwaAnBileYerHeid · 28/11/2021 06:42

@Yogaandcocoa @krabapple yes, her mother I would assume, she just obviously doesn't want to call this person mother as she doesn't sound like she functioned as one or deserves to be called one.

AwaAnBileYerHeid · 28/11/2021 06:43

@ShrikeAttack

Ok. I had some shitty times in the 90s. And some great ones.

I've worked through it. Is there any reason you're still pissed off?

It's a long time to still be annoyed.

Jesus. Bit of a dick, aren't you?
Soubriquet · 28/11/2021 06:47

I’m sorry to hear this OP

Are you still in contact with your BP?

To PP, it doesn’t sound like this was a mother at all probably why OP is referring to them as a birth person

topcat2014 · 28/11/2021 07:09

The OP is being generous. I would not even use person.

I loathe adults who cannot prioritise the child over whatever scumbag they are currently shagging

MultiStorey · 28/11/2021 07:14

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

WildStallyn · 28/11/2021 07:15

How long were you homeless for and what happened next/how didnyou get out of it?

Sunnysidegold · 28/11/2021 07:18

Who was the first person you got help from?

When did you get hope that things would get better?

ChrisPriss · 28/11/2021 07:22

I don't have a question for you but I'm horrified at what you went through, and I wish you every happiness for the rest of your life x

LynetteScavo · 28/11/2021 07:45

If you were 15 why did your school not intervene? I know this sounds like I'm being a dick, but I went to rough high school in the 80s and can how see something like this could be ignored so it's a genuine question. Did you even go to school.

Of course you're still angry. You were angry then (which, I'm guessing, is why people didn't help you - they failed to recognise your vulnerability Sad) and personally I think I would be angry for a very long time!

unname · 28/11/2021 09:46

@ShrikeAttack

I don't mean to be a dick, This happened to my husband after his mother died.

It's entirely possible for you to find satisfaction. You're obviously still angry but you don't have to remain angry.

A person that just randomly goes around making uninvited assessments of people with very limited info. Just what every discussion needs!
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