Opinions on this dress for Christmas do?

[HelpMeDressForXmas]

Any opinions welcome on this dress for my Christmas do - have been looking for ages and haven't got a clue! The do is technically black tie but I know other people are wearing party type dresses. For context I'm 37, don't want it to be too tarty but not old woman either, think this would come to just above the knee!

Seriously

I don't like it because it's definitely not my style but I think your way overthinking it. If you like it and feel good then wear it. It's not going to be a proper "black tie" is it from what you've said! I mean this absolutely is not a black tie dress, not by any stretch of the imagination, but last time I checked we're supposed to be dressing to make ourselves and ourselves only feel good. So if you like it, wear it!!
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@BungleandGeorge

In my experience NHS black tie dos are pretty traditional. I think it’s the combination of sparkles, casual style and short that’s the problem. I like the dress on the poster above, it’s not black tie though. Asking your colleagues is a good idea OP, and it depends on how bothered you are!

Weirdly I would say the exact opposite - NHS “black tie” to me means “guys, no scrubs or running tights, come on, make an effort”. Which this dress would be fine for. And even if it isn’t, nobody in the NHS is going to care you wore a slightly short skirt to the Christmas do one year.

I was thinking finance black tie, or some other corporate Christmas party, which would mean real black tie (and where getting it wrong would potentially have more of an impact on your professional reputation).

Having done more than my fair share of black tie events in the past (hopefully never again), that dress doesn't really make the grade.

However in the spirit of anything goes nowadays and if YOU like the dress then you wear it.

It's fine, but not black tie.

Umm, not sure that pic is actually of the OP, nor is it the actual dress! If you read her post it seems that is likely to be the dress, on someone else.

What I would say is that IF that is the dress and IF that is the OP then I would say wear it as it’s amazing and she looks brilliant.

Other than that I’d still reserve judgement.

You're right, that's not the dress nor is it me in the picture!

It looks very cheap.

@Changechangychange guess it probably depends on what profession/ area you work in but I’ve been to plenty and the men have all been in black tie and women in cocktail or long dresses. Consultants are generally quite well dressed? Agree nobody will care that much which is why I said to OP to wear it unless she herself will feel uncomfortable if she’s less dressy than others. If she is that type of person best to consult with colleagues

Too short IMO.
To me "black tie" denotes something hoping to be a bit classy, and I don't think this dress is at all.

Well I wouldn't wear it because I'm really old and I like my dresses shorter with a lower cleavage

Like...what is going on in this thread 😂 OP has said she's newly qualified and people are suggesting £300 ball gowns for a work Christmas do.

The dress is lovely OP! My first thought when I opened the thread was "ooh I love it, where's it from??"

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That is rather jarring. Op asked for an opinion on a dress. Nobody asked you for an opinion on me.

@AnyFucker

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That is rather jarring. Op asked for an opinion on a dress. Nobody asked you for an opinion on me.

I'd missed that. How horrible.

@AnyFucker

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That is rather jarring. Op asked for an opinion on a dress. Nobody asked you for an opinion on me.

Er, no.

Honest poster? Yes.

Is it the same AnyFucker who was around from the start and resigned from MN once? If so you are v famous and I’m glad to know you are still around.

@LadyPoison

Having done more than my fair share of black tie events in the past (hopefully never again), that dress doesn't really make the grade.

However in the spirit of anything goes nowadays and if YOU like the dress then you wear it.

I've done literally gazillions of black tie - and it's absolutely fine for an NHS Christmas party. Unless the invitation specifies long, or you know everyone will be wearing long, or it's particularly grand, a cocktail dress is fine.

White tie - that's always long.

@Confusedteacher

Some of these comments are really harsh! I think you get a skewed perception on mumsnet OP, you’d be better sending a photo to some of your work friends and seeing what they think/ if it’s in a similar vein to their party outfits.

Yep take some pics of it on, and show your colleagues and friends.

It's a nice dress but for black tie you really need something more tea dress length or floor length. I'm sir ehouse of Fraser have a big sale on

I've done literally gazillions of black tie - and it's absolutely fine for an NHS Christmas party. Unless the invitation specifies long, or you know everyone will be wearing long, or it's particularly grand, a cocktail dress is fine.

White tie - that's always long.

This.

There are multiple types of black tie dos - I have been to plenty in a cocktail dress and probably a similar number in a long dress, and then a few in a proper ball gown. I'd judge it entirely based on what others were wearing and the venue/event type. A Christmas party with black tie would definitely fall into "cocktail dresses acceptable" for me.

It’s fine.

@HRHtheDuchessofStockport

Well I wouldn't wear it because I'm really old and I like my dresses shorter with a lower cleavage

Sorry, I got confused. I thought you had posted a pic of you wearing it. I didn't see that you had commented saying it wasn't even the same dress. Plus on second glance the lady in the pic doesn't look anything like Sarah Paulson.

Who is Sarah Paulson? 😂

[quote CurryandSnuggle]@Hydrate you do look absolutely incredible in that dress though, just seen the update![/quote]
Omg, that isn't me, I'm an old hag! I reverse imaged OP's dress and it came up. So embarrassed! I guess cropping it was a mistake.